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good morning girls. well i just right this moment got 'the dreaded phone call' ... i hate those phone calls that ring at the weirdest times that you know something is wrong. well something is bad. my MIL just called and said that her fiance had just pa__sed away. i have this awful sinking feeling in my tummy. kinda like i wanna throw up. i don't know how to feel or what to think. crow knew this man as his 'pop'... how do i tell a 3 year old that pop has died??? i'm so frazzled right now. i know it sounds so selfish of me but... now i'm a__suming my MIL will be moving right back in and now that means no nursery or room for the baby i'm carrying... :( i don't know what to do.... i seriously have so many problems with my MIL living with us but she has no where else to go... she won't live by herself... i'm just so sad......... oh yeah and it's me and freddie's anniversary today too...........................

OH NO DISKO ! :o( Im sooooo sorry I dont even know what to say but that is terrible news :o/ If you need to talk you know you can email me at any timeon myspace ..

thanks dawn.... i think i will do that sweetie.... yeah it looks like some serious adjustments are gonna happen here at my house. :o/ not sure exactly what to expect. but my MIL has such a bad outlook on life and money means everything to her and she gets all depressed and mopes around the house alot... i told freddie that i can't have that around... not that poor pitiful me syndrome... it's not good for the kids or freddie and my relationship. freddie went over there this morning and she said she has a different outlook on life and all and i really hope so... she can't be talking to my daughter about money issues or problems (as she has done this in the past) and not meddling in between me and freddie! argh! so it looks like she is moving back in this week and she wants to bring her dining room set and hutch and this stuff is huge!!! and it would take up my entire front room which is now empty and ready to be made into a play room for crow and tripp.... so i told freddie no way can that stuff come back.... there would be no place for crow and tripp to play... nowhere!!! so she is gonna have to part with it or put it in the garage!!! that i am not bending on!!!

Oh I think i remember you saying when she moved out that you were so glad to get rid of that stuff (if I am thinking of the right stuff) yeah you know if she is coming back she has to compromise not just come back and expect everyone else to bend but her even though this is a traumatic time for her I am sure she at least has a place to go which is a blessing when you have stuff like that happen.

I feel bad for little crow who has to deal with death at such an early age .. who knows maybe since he is so young it wont hit him AS hard. Poor little man :o(

i know i know.... that was the part that was bothering me the most... how do i tell crow??? he really loved pop and talks about him alot. pop wasn't looking good at all this week. he got out of the hospital last saturday from having all those ulcers in his tummy bleeding and ever since then he didn't look good. i could tell in his eyes. but he knew he was loved and had lots of visits this past week from us and his grandkids so i know he knew he was loved and will be missed. it's just a sad time. yes... though... that is the stuff i was talking about!!! funny that you remembered that! we have all just loved having the whole room empty. and freddie said that his mom is ok with putting the stuff in the garage she just doesn't want to sell it... i said that was fine. i know that she needs us and we are all gonna have to compromise on stuff. but when it comes to raising my kids i won't budge!!! i'm sorry but i have to have rules and those rules just can't be broken or bent for anyone. so i talked to freddie and he will stand by me when it comes to anything... i can't have my kids think that they can go over my head and ask nanny... you know?

Aw man Disko, I'm sorry. I don't really know what to say. I remember you talking before about how her stuff had finally been moved and you were so happy. Like Dawn said, even though this is a traumatic time for her, she is going to have to compromise with you a little bit since you're letting her come and live with you guys. It seems like you just told us he was sick a few weeks ago. Did it all happen that fast or am I just confused? And little kids are so resilient when it comes to death and other traumatic life events. I know my neice was 3 when my grandpop died and she saw him everyday and loved him so much and she still tlaks about him but she only remembers the good things about him, she doesn't remember him being sick or anything like that. So hopefully Crow will be the same way.

Yes I know and it is easier to go into something with those rules then to kinda bring them out midstream so as long as you lay it out there in the beginning and are consistent the rest should fall into place. I remember alot of random stuff but hey I pay attention thats what friends do!

Kay I sent you two emails on my space looks like I won both crib sets ... ahh well she will have two then I guess.

thanks girls for all your kind words and support. man oh man do i really need you guys now more than ever! and yes gabby it did all just happen within the last couple of weeks. my MIL said that this morning he kept saying he was tired and didn't want to exert the energy it took to breathe. so when he was in the ambulance they put the oxygen mask on him and he just wasn't getting enough oxygen and quit breathing. he pa__sed away on the way to the hospital. my MIL just came over for a little bit and this is gonna be interesting.... argh........... i feel really bad for having these feelings of selfishness.

Disko, don't feel bad. I would be the same exact way. Not only is your MIL's world kinda all mixed up right now but it is also mixing up yours and your familys worlds also. And you can feel anyway that you need to right now, at least give yourself that right. Today is my great grandmoms birthday, she would have been 85 today, but she pa__sed away last April, so we're having a big party in her memory today. I can't wait to see all my family, but I will be back later. Hang in there Disko, and good luck with your MIL. I'll be thinking about you.

I agree with gabby you have every right to feel that way and you have us to vent too.

hey ladies... I posted some 3d ultrasound pictures on my myspae.. feel free to comment :) how is everyone? Disko Im so sorry about your MILs fiance! that sucks... *hugs*

What do you guys think of a new thread soon? I went to friendlys today for those onion rings and here they dont make them like that anymore they make them like caca now - then I ordered clam strips and they didnt fry them enough so they were soggy I ate like 2 lil strips and got over it ....so all I ate was the waffle fries and some of my daughters mozz sticks ... I wont go there anymore ... and the lady asked me how everything was and I told her I didnt care for it and she just went ooo ok sorry and thats that LOL so why ask then... whatever

I have my appointment tomorrow and I dont want to go... I hate sitting there SO long for a whole lotta nothing

Oh disko, I'm so sorry something like this happened on what's supposed to be a happy day for you and dh. My aunt (through marriage) is puerto rican and the BEST thing she taught me about any spanish culture is to celebrate life, not mourn death. I can honestly say this is true. I went to two funerals of two friends very close together. Once was filled with sad words and tears, the other still had tears but was filled with positive stories of accomplishments and humor and I can honestly say I felt the last one was remembered better because of it. Don't focus on the sad things that happened just this past week, remember and share all the good things. As for crow, I think the best way to explain dying is telling him it's like the person going to sleep for a very, very long time and I don't know if you're very relegious or not but you can tell him he's up in heaven, will be watching over him, and is very happy. Hang in there and try not to stress yourself out much. Dawn - I think both those sets are really cute and have a good idea :D The one that is more girly you could use as crib bedding, then you could use the other brown/pink one when she moves into a toddler bed because it could be considered her 'big girl' blanket. You got a REALLY good deal on those. Sorry your meal sucked.....it's never fun to look forward to something and have it not be what you expected. I'm usually at my dr. appointment for a while too. I have to wait to do my NST then I have to go to the dr. office and wait for them too. It always seems like I do something that makes me stay longer like fail my nst and get sent to labor and delivery. Oh and then when I have my ultrasounds that's a REALLY long appointment.