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I think you are going through a lot emotionally right now and just need to take care of "you" for a bit. I understand the need to try and the fear that comes with it. I have had early losses but also have had a stillborn. Since you have had so many losses, you might want to see a DR to have some blood tests done to make sure you don't have a clotting disorder, which is often the culprit for early losses. If that is positive, then you might just have to take a baby aspirin a day and that is it.

I think that you need to be ok with whatever decision you make. So if you feel you are ready, then go ahead.

Could I have a clotting disorder even though I have two daughters? Its funny because I was taking the babyasprin but I stopped when I was getting so sick, I wonder if that did something? onetwothree, I want to tell you how sorry I am that you had a stillborn. I can't believe that you had to go through that. I am so so sorry. It makes my losses feel like a drop in the hat. I just feel really bad that had to happen to you.......

Tiffany, you could have developed some type of antibody. Who knows. I was test and found to have one even though I had a successful pregnancy before my losses................ As for my loss, your loss isn't a drop in the hat compared to mine. I would like to quote Dr. Seuss. "a person's a person no matter how small". It doesn't matter how big or old our babies our. They are ours and we loved them from the moment they were conceived.....actually, even before that.

I meant "our babies ARE". Geesh.

I had several "chemical pregnancies" and miscarriages - all after I concieved my first child. Who the hell knows why these things happened. In my case, there was no explanation for that and then I was diagnosed with PCOS. I believe that things do happen for a reason - whether it is to make you be thankful for what you already had, or to make you stronger for bigger losses in the future, or to just strengthen your belief in a higher power. WHen it comes to losing a child - I think it hurts no matter what - whether you were 5 weeks pregnant or 20 weeks pregnant. I also think that further along, or in the instance of stillborns, etc. it is just more shocking and tragic (not taking away from early miscarriages). onetwo.. I am sorry for your loss - I can't imagine having to go through that :(

Thanks tripletmom. It has been hard. If it wasn't for my dd who needed me, I think I would have just stayed in bed until I died. I remember going out in public several weeks after losing her and wondering if it showed on my face that I just lost my child. I know that sounds weird, but it was strange for me to think that I could feel such an incredible sadness and it not show like a flashing, neon sign ****lost my baby*****. I have also found out that there are a lot of words that have not been invented yet to describe this type of loss. In fact, there is nothing even close.

My Lord, I feel so sad for you. I am just so sorry. You must be a really great person to get through something so hard. My heart goes out to you......I was not saying that my losses don't bother me I just think mabey, I am getting used to it by now. I feel sad in my heart but, I have a LOT of faith in God and I trust in him to help me. I does hurt but, on a totally different scale than the first few. With the first few I was totally knocked down and I was depressed for a while. Now, its just a sadness that I feel. It's wierd with an empty sac because, I'm not sure I even had a baby to begin with. I was so shocking to see that totally empty sac. Just shocking....... I think I will just stay as healthy as I can and pracitce my faith and see what happens.