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I am so sorry for your loss. No words can try to comfort you at this time. I do know that identical twins just happen by nature and that fraternal twins do run in the family, but on the mother's side. We concieved our twins with clomid (prescribed), robitussin and I also did Reike (an alternative healing that sends energies to different parts of your body). I would definately look into talking to a counselor as well to help with your grief. I wish I had when we lost a baby. The pain never really goes away, it just gets a little easier as time pa__ses. Again, I am so sorry.

Thanks Melissa, we are receiving counselling from some people who deal specifically with this type of loss - it has been very beneficial. Thank you for telling me that you did concieve twins on Clomid (I don't know if I will go this route ) but it is of interest to me now. The pain of losing a baby is very hard isn't it. A small bit of hope is that my aunty and my nana are both on my mothers side.

I'm so glad that you're talking to someone. We tried again the next cycle after we lost a baby and we actually concieved the twins. I've been told that you're more fertile the first 6-8 weeks after a lost pregnancy. I was torn because I so wanted another child, but I didn't want to "relace" the one we had lost. Does that make sense? Well, again I am so sorry for your loss. Will they be able to give you any answers to the cause of the miscarriage? I wasn't able to get any except that it was probably not developing correctly. At 14 weeks, they probably could give you more info. than that though. My thoughts are with you.

Hi Melissa, How long did it take for you to feel you could cope with the 'grief'? I am having a really bad day today. I am very tempted to try Clomid but I am also very nervous about doing this. I do know what you mean about 'replacing' i have also been worried that this is what i will be trying for. I think that i am trying to replace a loss not my babies they will bewith me always - but i do worry and wonder if i should wait, yet desperately want to try soon.

Raewyn, I know what it feels like to lose a baby. I have had several early losses, but I also lost my dd only 2 weeks before I was to be induced. I know what you are going through and right now, you need to deal with your grief. I ask you to join Twinstuff.com. They have an incredible grief board for mothers who have lost their babies. You will find a lot of help there and they are all extremely warm, friendly woman who will cry with you and really help you get through the days.

I was just getting on to tell you about twinstuff.com as well. Their loss support forum is wonderful and I think would help you be able to talk to others who have lost a baby/babies. Our m/c occured 2 days before Thanksgiving of 2004. It made for an awful Holiday Season. I think I stopped crying everyday after about 3-4 weeks. The more I talked about it, the easier it became for me to try to move on. Luckily, I did get pregnant very soon after our m/c, which made me focus on that. It also made me very nervous throughout the first trimester and really my entire pregnancy because now it was "high risk" being twins. Try the twinstuff.com grief support and let us know how you are doing. My name there is MLH in the expecting twins, twins first year and other forums.

raewyn, I am sorry about your loss; I lost my baby in 2004 at 24 weeks without a n explanation -he just stopped breathing... the autopsy did not reveal anything, although I had a D&E the E is for Escavation in that advanced s tage. I have taken clomid this month, because Imy husband has male fertility issues. You will have that baby you desire, the positive imager has helped me more than therapy and drugs.

Hi Melissa, How are you? Sorry i have not been in contact. I was wondering if I could contact you via email? I have been absolutley terrible - even with the counselling. I even ended up suicidial - crazy huh! I still have not had my AF and am really worried that things are not ok with my body anymore. I had HCG levels taken last week and are at 18. It has been 5 weeks since that horrible day. I am going to try for twins again - i know my chances of conceiving Monozygotic twins is pretty limited, but think if I try the clomid it will help - i feel so desperate to conceive twins now (never have before). Can you advise me on where to get clomid and when to take etc. I am going to go to my doc and ask for it but I live in a very conservative city in New Zealand - I don't thnk my chances are high at getting the help - maybe if I warn him that I will take u/p clomid he may help?? better to be under care I think. I have been taking prenatal vits and baby aspirin - which you can't get in NZ lol. and will buy robitussin when I start taking the clomid. Do you think I should wait until my body heals itself and hopefully gets back to some normality? I am normally like clock work so this has been really worrying for me - given everything else as well

Raewyn - feel free to contact me with this e-mail address: mlyonshoadley@yahoo.com. I' m so sorry you are having such a rough time. I'd be happy to give my advice, thoughts, suggestions and a shoulder to lean on.

Hi Raewyn, sorry to hear about your loss, my first pregnancy was a multiple. I was pregnant with triplets, lost one @ 7weeks and finally lost the other two (after a long suffering m/c) @ 9 weeks. My second pregnancy was a singleton and this pregnancy is a multiple again. This time - Twins (all my pregnancies naturally too!)! So to answer your question it is possible to have more than one multiple pregnancy in your lifetime. Although, identical twins do not run in families, having fraternal twins running in your family makes it a possibility. Don't get your hopes up though. There is no actual advice on how to fall pregnant with multiples, it just happens. Although if you have fertility problems, participating in IVF increases your chance dramatically of conceiving a multiple pregnancy.

Hi Lollieangell, Give me hope - are your twins identical? I conceived my wee ones naturally too - only hope can do it again.

Hi there Raewyn - just wanted to check in and see how you are holding up. I've been thinking about you and your family. Keep us posted with any updates.

Hi Raewyn, I am so sorry for your loss. Cutting edge research is finding that identical twins may be genetic, caused by the father's sperm (really!) so if you stick with your husband/partner your chances of concieving ID twins again are better than otherwise. Check out this link to read about the research: www.twinlist.org/idfaq.htm

hi raewyn, sorry to hear abt ur loss. i recently lost my twins at 20wks on 9march 2006 when suddenly labor pains started and i delivered my boys prematurely. So they could not survive. i even saw my little ones after thier birth. so i know it is really difficult but we have to bear the pain. good luck for ur next preg ,just relax and start trying again.