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My husband and I do the pull out method to. Hasnt failed yet! (eyes rolling) He even did it a few times when we were trying to have Bella saying he forgot. DH said he would be happy with a accident. I think he just doesnt want to plan anything. I was thinking about how to accidently get prego with the pull out method. ( I wish now we just used condoms) The only things I could think of was ( I hate even thinkg about it. it makes me feel bad) Being on top when he is ready and acting like I am in the moment and refuse to move.Or as bad as it is trying to find a way to collect some of his seeds ( Like on clean up cloth or where ever he does it) and go to the bath room and do a turkey baster kinda thing. I really dont want to do the last one though!!! Do you have any thoughts

I dont have any other ideas but I wish I did. My dh has said that he could live with an accident but he doesnt want to plan. Whats the difference? A baby is a baby.

i dont know the difference. Like you i think a baby is a baby. How did he feel after you had a melt down?

I dont know how he felt because he really didnt say anything. We have bd'ed 3 times since then and he didnt pull out. I hoping that is a good sign not just the fact that he knows I'm not O'ing right now. When we were doing it I kept asking him if he was going to give me another baby. (I was hoping to catch him in a moment of weakness and then hold him to it! lol) And he kept saying maybe so my meltdown might have had an affect on him. It is hard to tell with my husband.

That is great! Are you going to take the clomid? If so when? I got my Dh a little drunk last nigt to have the talk. Figured he might open up more. After stating my case he didnt talk. I asked him what he was thinking. He said he was trying to remember where the infant car seat was in the attic. He then said we would most likely try in. I am really hoping he doesnt back out. Since I am about to AF for this month I will take it next month.That way it will give me time to order my Pre Seed.

I do plan on taking clomid but I probably wont get to start it until late June or July. I have an irregular cycle and my OB said that she wanted to give me clomid BUT she wants to speak to my other dr before I start it. Today I am on cd27 and I could see AF in a week or in two weeks. I wont know until it is here. Who knows if my OB will get back to me in time for my next cycle. I think that she is having second thoughts about giving me clomid and the trigger shot. So today I bought some clomid online and I am just gonna cross my fingers that it makes it here. 1.) The company said no po boxes and my address is kinda a po box. 2.) The state for my address is AE and that wasnt listed in the choices. 3.) Recently one of the ladies in here had her clomid sezed by customs so I hope that doesnt mean that they are cracking down.

New stratgy: My dh knows that I have an irreguar cycle so this month I told him when I thought that I was O'ing. Then after that when we though it was kinda safe he didn't pull out. I probably wont get my clomid before my next cycle unless my OB kicks it in gear so once I get it I will 1.) Ask him again 2.) I will tell him that I am O'ing on the wrong day. I am sure that I wont get to use the clomid until June or July when he comes home from deployment and that should make it all the more easy. If he doesnt agree to having another baby, then I am gonna hate it when I have to tell him that I am prego. I really want this one to be planned (by both of us)lol!

i just have to say that reading all these posts makes me feel so much better about my own thoughts of tricking my husband! nice to know i'm not the only one who may have to resort to that! i thought the pull out method wasn't supposed to be too reliable?! my husband and i use that along with spermicide... i was thinking if i just stopped using the spermicide maybe it would happen, but maybe it is a better method than i thought... my tentative plan (if i am brave enough to do it) is to tell hubby that i am going back on the pill (and really do it for 1 month) then stop and tell him - oops - wonder what could have happened? i actually got preg on the pill once before (antibiotics, i wasn't trying to trick him then!) and conceived identical twin girls. since then i have heard anecdotal stories that if you conceive immediately after stopping the pill you are a bit more likely to have twins. figure it happened once, maybe it will again... will let everyone know it i get brave enough to do it. wont be till late summer/fall... i hope for a spring baby if possible. good luck to everyone!

lisa - The pull out method def. works wll because we have been using it for almost 3 years with "no accidents". I was on birth control prior to having my son, and I got off of it for 1 month so I could change to a new type when I got prego. I didnt have twins so I dont know how much it will increase your % of having twins. I have thought about pretending to go back on the pill but my husband would know if I really did or not. When I am on the pill I am a raging WITCH. I dont reaaly want to trick my husband. I want him to be in this with me becasue we didnt get to plan our last one. My husband t_ters back and forth or tather we are going to have another baby or not. I would like a March or April baby so come July when my husband comes home if he doesnt give me a 100% yes, then I will have to just make it happen.

Well I got a Easter surprise today. AF come by. I am ol this it. It just means next month I will start Clomid. HAPPY EASTER!!!

Mzwest - I am happy for you. Now you can try for those twins. I ordered clomid the other day so i probably wont start it until June or July.

Ok maybe this is just my AF hormones talking but I am really upset. Last night I asked hubby if I should take my clomid this month instead of next month. He said no because he wants to wait as long as he can. He said he is scaried to have another baby because of money but is going to fo along with it because I want it. It made me feel like c___p. Why cant he want a baby as much as me! When we were trying for Bella he didnt want a baby adn I did. But as soon as he saw her on the U/S he was smitten and was asking when we would be having another. I at the time said never! I know he is worried about money. He is in school and will be done in July and will be making double what he makes now. Plus I found a job making $11 ( I know not tons) and i have free day care there. Will we be buying a house so that will be another 600 a month saved. We use a one size cloth diaper and I will b___st feed. I dont know. I guess I just dont what this to cause a riff in our marriage.

I know how you feel because my hubby was the same way. He was worried when we 1st got prego but as soon as he saw the u/s he almost jumped over me to get a closer look. He was so excited. I think that some people dont know what they want until they have it! Once I am prego again I know that my dh will be excited. maybe not as excited as me, but close. I am like you I dont want a riff in my marriage but I feel like I know my dh enough that I can say that he will be fine. Exspecially since he randomly brings it up. Everytime we are in a store and we walk near the baby section I always pull him over. I show him all the cute clothes and ask what he thinks about different outfits. I think that letting him pick out different things makes him a little excited about having a baby.

I know he will be thrilled when we get prego but I guess I want him to be thrilled at the thought of getting prego. I dont know what I expected him to do. I knew he would not be doing jumping jackes but something would have been nice. Any luck on talking to him about TTC? I saw on the other post you said you would be trying in July. We can def be cycle buddies. Or at least prego buddies!!

He keeps saying maybe. Maybe is better then no so I am gonna start clomid in July. I am hoping that he will say ok but if not (like it or not) we will start in July. lol

soready and mzwest - reading you two describe your hubbies/att_tueds is like looking at my hubby... the irony that kills me is that if we were all 16 using the pull out method - we would all have been pregnant the first month! life is so weird...it sounds like at least with your husbands they have some amount of interest in the idea of another baby. mine has zero, but he didn't want any and is a doting father to our girls, so i know in the end he would be fine. good luck to both of you - i hope you can talk your hubbies around so that this will be a happier event for all of you. as for me - if i decide to go for pregnancy #3 it will have to be without his consent. oh, well... i will keep scanning the posts and hoping to see big news from both of you!