Please Help Everything Is Falling Apart
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I am 23 weeks pregnant. my common-law boyfriend of 3 years comes from a traditional Greek family who are very strict reagrding children born outside of wedlock. I do not believe in abortion. When I got pregnant my boyfriend who is 29 decided to hide it from his family. His family business is up for sale and he could stand to walk away with over 100,000 in his pocket and after working hard for the company for over 10 years he deserves it. He believes that if he told his parents I am pregnant they would fire him and leave him with nothing.
He wants to give our baby up for adoption for this reason. While he is excited I am pregnant and very much in love with me, he is so afraid of losing his family and being poor and not able to support our daughter ( I have 35k in student loans) and I know I can't do this alone... I just don't want to have to let go of my baby girl. I also don't want to lose him. I don't know what to do.
My family live 18 hours away and I don't know anyone here. I don't speak the native language here and while I am a contract graphic designer and make ok money, it is not something I can rely on from month to month
I don't know what to do....Please help!
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You do have a lot on you... Unfortunately, this is a decision that you must make for you, your baby, and your boyfriend. Does your family know about the pregnancy? Maybe they can support you until you figure this out (even if it means going back home)... Talk at length with your boyfriend too. Maybe also posting on the appropriate trimester board will get more response from others that have or are in your simliar situation... If you do decide to place your child for adoption, I would start the process soon in picking an adoptive family and so forth. You can get some GREAT support via adoption agencies! I wish you the best!!
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if you give up this baby because of money you will never forgive your self or him....... You will hate him when he gets that money because every dollar you spend will make you think of your baby... there are many jobs out there for him .. ..
If you love him and baby... just get married now and live that dream that i live.. its amazing.. still challanging but life always is!
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I don't understand how he could even bring himself to suggest giving the baby up. If he stands to get $100,000, what is the problem? Why not get married? Personally, I would get some help from my family to move home and raise the baby alone with a good support system before I would give up the baby.
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Hi, I just wanna say one thing every thing is possibly and even though you have to make a really big and hard dessicion, you have to make it. I am raising triplets alone, i go to college, but i get help lots of help and not only from family. But what i do know is that if i had to make a choice between money or my childeren, then i would choose my childeren, they mean so much more then any amount of money! Sometimes you have to let go something you love for something you love even more. Give it another thought and good luck!
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Sweetie,first of all I am glad you are not thinking of abortion.Second,do Not put your precious baby girl up for adoption unless that is what you wholeheartedly want.Men come and go,but that little girl will be your daughter for life.If you really love each other,get married,but don't give your child up,My sweet baby girl is nearly 13 months,and I can honestly say my dh and I would give up anything and everything for her.No amount of money is worth more than a child.
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If you want to keep this little girl, you should. Could you not keep it a secret until after the baby was born...maybe the business would be sold by then?
Whatever you decide, I"m glad you're not choosing abortion.
If adoption is your only option, I'd love to talk to you on Y! ms42721 IM me there.
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giving the baby bcoz money that bad,u will regret it,but you want to give her a loving n a blessing home.i will love to raise her...let me know is u still need a parent i am married n we live happyly thank to my God yes i have kids they loving n careing...you get bck if u need someone to raise ur lil love one God bless you.....
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You would be amazed at how supporting your family might be if they knew you were pregnant. Sometimes the fear of the unknown is much worse than the reality. You need to have a talk with your parents and tell them just what you told us. Ask for help, if you dont explore all of your options you will have to live with regret later on. I know you are in a relationship with the baby's daddy and you say he risk losing the family business....I think again that his family may surprise you and be supportive also. The option to place your baby for adoption will remain if after you ask for family help and you still dont find the support you need to be able to keep your little one. If adoption placement is the decision that you make, you will find many loving, waiting families that would love to help you with your baby and give him/her a wonderful home. My husband and I are completing our home study now and hope to find a birthmom that one day selects us to trust her most precious treasure with....I want her first to make the decision in her heart that she knows that this is the best solution for her and her baby so that there is no regrets! I pray that you will find clarity and peace in your heart to make your choice.
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