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girl r u sure u want this its might seem lyk it but u wont be able to do all the things u do now after a baby u have to always be there to take care of ur baby and nurse it and dont think anyone is going to take care of him wen u want to go to a party no the mother needs to be there until the baby can use a bottle and you wanted the baby not your mother so dont think that ur just going to leave it with her. u wont be able to finish school who want to come babysit a baby at lyk 7:00 in the morning? and if you have any dreams of being a model or sumthing hunny not with those stretch mark and dont get me wrong a baby is a beautiful thing i luv baby's and no one but a mother can describe a mother's joy after giving birth but you are just too young wait until you get all your education and have a job and money to take care of your baby because what you have with this BF might just be puppy luv and he can just get up and leave cuz he dont want you or decides he doesnt want a baby anymore but u cant do that ur the baby's mom so if u see where im going with this? its not a good decision ok sweety dont do it now your ovaries will still be there when you ocme of age lol
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No...like amanda i think you should wait. 14 is way to young to have a child. You wont be able to do anything on your own without money and a job. I am 18 and i am having a lot of trouble with school. (Im in college). Having a baby is not something to be taken lightly. My pregnancy was unplanned and for a while i had a very hard time dealing with it. I know someone who had a baby at 14 and she cant handle it. Her mother and father do everything because she is in school and has no job. She has no choices or options in life now. Pregnancy is not fun and you have a lot more going for you then back pain and food cravings...One day you will be ready and when that day comes you will really know. I wish you luck and hope you make the best decision for you.
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i might, let me ask you a few questions. How old is your bf?
Where are you going to live?
How long to you plan on b___st feeding?
Where is the $$$ that you are going to use to pay for clothes, food, housing etc going to come from? Let me tell you, if your bf is around your age neither if you should want babies now. There is your whole life to have babies. You can never give them back! EVER!! If your bf is older than 18 and therefore has the means to take care of you HE SHOULD BE IN JAIL!! In order to have a baby intercourse is necessary which in the united states is ILLEGAL between a minor (17-) and an adult (18+)
If you plan on living with your parents and they condone it, there is nothing I can say there except that now we know why you want babies. You want someone who will love you unconditionally b/c maybe your parents dont seem to care what you do. If you don't plan on b___stfeeding, plan on spending 100's of $$ on formula for your baby not to mention the 1000$$ for diapers... So my answer is NO, you should not have a baby until you are fully aware of what it is going to COST YOU.Financially, emotionally, physically and psychologically. Please don't. Think about it long and hard!!
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Everyone this post is over 10 months old. I dont think she is still around.
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you should read the stuff on the pregnancy board under "discomfort" and "labour/birth". You might have a romantisized view of babies from TV/celebrities etc. but it's no fairy tale. I would seek out a reality check---do the research if you're going to make a life-altering decision like that.
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No way not yet......at 14 i was broody bet would of never thought of having a baby then. That is far too young, you want to be able to live your life abit more before having a baby as there is no way you can do anything once you've got one.
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i think that its nice that you want a baby but htink about it are u willing to stay in all the time get a job and leave the friends and the life you know now behind and will your bf stay he might not and you are left being a full time mom so think think about all the things that you will miss out on school bf's and and dances and all the fun stuff being a teen so i hope you really think about it
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Every 14 year old wants a baby. I am 22 and am pregnant with my first baby. I have been waiting for this for so long and its that much sweeter. Ya know they say
"GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT"
I know when i was 14 i thought i was all grown up. But still, in my ealry 20's I still have so much growing to do. So PLEASE wait! Enjoy your teen years. Enjoy high school, that is the best time of your life.
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Hey i might
Please e-mail me at renexoxcathlene@hotmail.com!
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A little trivia is in order here: Your brain doesn't finish developing until you're over 20. That is, your frontal lobes, the part that helps you have good judgement and make decisions, is not fully developed at 14. That has a lot to do with why people often later regret serious decisions they made at 14. I suggest you wait a few years. You'll still have tons of time, and you'll be surprised how much your thinking and perceptions will have changed by then. I guarantee it! If you still want a baby when you're an adult, you'll be in a better frame of mind to make a decision about this.
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You're young. Hold on a few years, they aren't just cuddly little human beings that you can play dress up with. I know this because I am fifteen and having a baby. Life is already stressful just trying to come up with the money and finnish my grade 10 year of school and I know I am sure going to have it even more difficult when the baby actually comes.
Yes, you may want a baby... but doesn't every girl when they are small? [Not calling you small since you are a teenager] but it's harder than a doll you played with when you were young.
Please don't do that to a child. They need a great home with an older mother. I even feel selfish for having a child at fifteen when there are ladies out there who are married, the right age, and can not have children.
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Maybe you should try babysiting!
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I am not trying to be rude or anyhting but are u sure that your bf wants a baby or does he just want to do things that cause you to get pregnant. alot of teenage boys will tell u anything to get in ur pants including they want a baby. You are only 14 you still have to get a workers permit to work and then you can only work a fe days out of the weeks and on weekends. you need alot more hours than that to raise a child unless you aare rich and don't have to work at all. YOu can't even get on welfare or food stamps you stiil have 7 more years for that. Also who will watch ur child while you are at work or school. As of now i pay 160 a week for my 3 year old to go to daycare while i am at work. I am not trying to be hard on u but I had my daughter young i was 16 when i got pregnant and 17 when i had here I had not planned or ever imagined that I would get pregnant but i did. I will not say it was a mistake because giving birth is a blessing from god,i love my daughter very much and if i had to i would not change a thing I just learned from my mistake and hopefully teach others girls that having a baby at a young age is not at all easy. I was pregnant my senior year in high school and missed out on all the activities i was selected for prom queen and did not even get to go and accept my crown the only event i had made it to my senior year was graduation and almost missed that(when was in labor missed alot of school and work almost did not have credits to graduate). My husband (which is also the father of my child) missed majority of his football games because he had to work at McDOnalds to get enough money to try to suuport his child and he stiil never had enough. Trying to raise a child at a young age is very hard and I would not wish it on my worse enemy. Also having a baby will not keep a man or in ur case boy around so if he can't wait then move on you are only 14 that clould be many more to come. if u decide to not take my advice andhave a baby any way do not allow your self to setle for less and make the same mistake twice learn from your mistake do something with your life you can still go to college and be successful. My husband is in the military and really close to earning his batchelors' degree and i have just graduated from nursing school and still pursing my education. think abut everything that i have told you and everyones else has we are not against you we are helping you
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LiTTlePumpKin
You are SORELY mistaken. Not every 14 year old wants a baby. I'm 32 and do not want a baby.
I hate kids. There is absolutely nothing in this life more selfish than to bring a poor helpless defenseless human being into the world and force them to go thru the hell that is life.
You need a life more than the disillusioned 14 year old who thinks she wants a kid.
Try working at McDonald's and remember... all kids will turn into the snot nosed brats who cry because they forgot to take the onions off the burgers.
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ithinkbot why are you here wasting space if you don"t want kids
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Anyone else notice that the original post here is over a year old, and she never posted again - it was probably just some kid trying to stir up emotions on this board.
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