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hi, i got pregnant when i was 21, and now i'm 22 and have my baby. when i got pregnant i was living with my bf in a friends apartment, with our bed in the kitchen. we were both making minimum wage at a restaurant and barely scaping by. since we had no monet i got on PCAP, medicaid for low income pregnant women. we were just out of college and my bf was trying to get a good paying job (he was 28 and just got his Masters degree). before i got pregnant we'd been together for about a year but we knew we were going to be together forever. he got his job, proposed with a very nice engagement ring and eventually we got an apartment of our own. now we have our baby and we've been married 3 months and i wouldn't take any of it back. :-) so what makes you happy, is what i say. as long as you have insurance (it's free there right?) and see a doc. does ur family live nearby? mine doesn't to me, and i wish they did cuz i'd love to have a free babysitter once in a while. family will make everything easier. i had a couple people ask me if i was going to keep my baby to in the beginning, and now everyone adores her.

lol money, we had no money, i meant. and do what makes you happy, is what i say- that's what i meant too. geez, i need to learn how to type!

Hey girl, I think you are a great age to keep your little one! I was 23 when my son was born. He's 4 now and the best thing that ever happend to me!! Also, since you want this baby, you should follow your heart and not listen to the naysayers. They don't get to be you. I don't know any people who have been in the best financial situations when their babies have arrived. The cool thing about it is, it just works out. It really does, I promise. Blessings on you and your baby!!!

Thanks so much for your replies. Just hearing that it was okay for other people makes me more confident about my decision. Maybe it's showing immaturity to need others input but I guess no one wants to feel alone in this sort of situation. We do have free healthcare here so that's not a problem. My boyfriend and I are currently living in my mother's bas____nt, but she's the only family nearby. Thanks again.

Hey Gabrielle, just another thing I thought of, make the decision you know in your heart is right, as you are really the only one that has to live with it. People may tell you that keeping the baby will screw up your life, but no one really knows that until you give it a try. Children are the best, even though they are the hardest too. There is nothing else a human can do that reaches as far into the future as children do. I am praying for you for strength, health, peace, contentment, and serenity. I know you will be just fine!!! Blessings!!

Hi gabrielle! I too am 21 and newly pregnant (unplanned) None of my friends really understand my decision to keep this baby, but I know its right for me. i would love to talk more if you want to email me!! Irishoney18@msn.com ... hope all is well with you...

did you ever see the friends episode where phoebe lies to rachel and tells her that the preg test is neg? She starts to cry and says she just started liking the idea. Then phoebe tells her that she was lying, its really pos. You've already answered your own question. You may be young, but the fact that you're even slightly excited, means KEEP THE BABY. You will not regret it. Don't get me wrong, finances will be tight, and it can be stressful, but you have no idea how hard it is when you can't get pregnant and really want to. I'm 20, married, and still haven't gotten preg. its driving me up the wall. ttc for 6 months, please don't give up your baby, you are very lucky.

I am a married and live in Canada , and i am trying to have a baby. I really feel that if you want this baby even a little bit to go ahead and have her/him. It's true that there are lots of people that would love to have a child and can't so it's very sad when u are about to and don't. my mom had me and my brothers and sisters at a very young age and she kept ever last one of us and we had it hard sometimes but never once did i wish she didn't have us. I wish you all the best with your baby and GOOD LUCK. :)

Follow your heart. If you just sit quietly in a room with no noise, you will hear your gut (heart) telling you what to do. Trust that voice. It will all work out, whatever you decide.

Girl, you've got it together. Do what feels right. At least your country takes care of you and you'll have healthcare throughout the whole ordeal! Good luck!

Shannon and Irie, I am in the same situation as you two. My friends are actually very supportive, but my family is not. I'd love to chat sometime.

Hi Gabrielle! I was in the exact same situation as you are back in 2001. I was 20 when I got pregnant and 21 by the time I had my little boy. I was not married (which is unheard of in my family) and lived with my BF. I decided to keep the baby (much to my family's horror) and it was the best decision I ever made. The baby's daddy wanted me to have an abortion, and my parents wanted me to give him up for adoption. I knew in my heart, that neither of them was the right thing to do. I did have some rough times, as the father and I broke up when my baby was a couple months old. I moved back to Houston to live with my parents and they helped me out for over a year. A while later I met a nice, mature man and we started dating (he's 5 1/2 yrs older) and he treated my son like his own. 2 yrs. later we got married and now we have been married for 2 years. The baby's father has not seen him since I left so my husband is the only daddy that my little boy knows and he is going to adopt him this summer. So after all of that, basically my point is KEEP THE BABY, everything will be fine. You are young, but not too young. You can still provide a good life for this child and just because the daddy may not be in the picture does not mean that everything won't turn out just fine. Trust me, I've been down that hard road and now I'm glad that I did not listen to all of those people who wanted me to have an abortion or give him up for adoption. This child is a blessing and will bring you so much joy!