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For many reasons, I'm almost 30 & now pregnant for the first time. I didn't exactly do that on purpose, but I'm glad it happened that way. I wasn't ready before this. I dated only women until I was 27, and then dated a few men, but now I'm with the right person & at a much more mature level in my own self than I was even a few years ago. A year does make a big difference sometimes. This was a little big of a surprise, but it was also very much desired by both of us. We kept talking about waiting a year or two, but our subliminal wishes took us over & we stopped being so careful with protection. I'm 21 weeks pregant now, and so far... I wouldn't change a thing. And while we were together, I helped an ex raise her baby from birth to eight months, and know the realities of have a baby at least through that. I can't wait to meet my son! :)

no regrets

I will let you in on a little secret. No mommy is going to say she had regrets. Couple of reasons for this. 1. It seems disloyal to the baby! 2. It worked out because it had to. I had my son when I was 23 and married for 3 years. It really wasn't at all what we thought it would be. It was very, very hard and scary. If you know you want kids and you end up pregnant sooner than you planned you will just make it work. No kidding, all moms pretty much just have to wing it, and make it work. In fact, once you are a mom, you are an expert in "making it work"! My son is now 4 and a truly wonderful little boy and the parent gig has gotten easier in the last few years, even though my husband and I ocasionally look at each other in a haze of exaustion and wonder, "Do we ever want to do this again?". If you feel a nagging urge to wait, go with it. My mother had her last child at 36 and it went fine. Lots of women over 30 pull this off just great. It can be hard to wait, I know. But, again, if you have reason, go with it. It will be hard enough without previous obstacles. Don't make it harder than it has to be!

Thanks you guys, I'm still checking the page and trying very hard to wait. thanks for your advice :) It's nice to hear from people who have done it and willing to share some wisdom. thanks again.

having a baby before you build a solid marriage relationship is rough of yourself and your husband. I'm sure you've noticed that living together is different than just dating. Waiting to have children until after the first year or so gives you time to adjust to being married without throwing in another new and extremely time consuming (albeit wonderful) element.

I agree with well. My husband and I waited till we had been married for 3 years and it was still the most stressful thing we have had to go through together. Thank God, we are going on 8 years now and trying to get #2 concieved, but it was really hard when my son was born. Exciting, but hard. I would advise you to wait as it just seems to take longer than a year to really settle into a comfortable rythym with your spouse. It will come though. It is so, so much better to have a pregnancy and baby when your marriage is as strong as it can be!! And really, the hardest thing you can put your marriage is introduce a baby into it. I hope you wait, if for no other reason than to strengthen your marriage and give those future angels a great family to come into. I was 24 and my husband 27 when our son was born and that is part of the reason we waited so long to try for #2. Our son is 4 now. It was really hard, but now we realize how much more we would have appreciated it, even though it was so difficult, had we waited. I hope everything goes wonderfully for you!! God bless!!

thanks again for the advice. I've been married for over 2 years. I just wanted to wait another year, but i was finding it hard to b/c i want a baby so bad. reading this is helping though. I check it all the time when i feel the need really bad. thanks guys

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Hi Kaylee Anne, May I suggest a book that might help give you reasons to wait or to not wait? I just bought it on amazon.com. It's called "The Parenthood Decision" by: Beverly Engel. So far it's a good read.. It is about discovering whether you are ready and willing to become a parent now, later in life, or if it's something that all together isn't for you. You can get it used for maybe $15.00.