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The purpose of this forum is for advice, comments and other points of view. If someone is asking for an opinion, they have to be open to the possibility that not everyone has the same opinion, and they may get some answers that they do not like. If everyone had the same point of view, the world would be a pretty boring place. On another note, you also have to look at the fact that abortion is a TOUCHY subject! Look how different everyone's opinion is on that subject! You cannot take everything that is said on here to heart. Just because someone does not agree with what you have done and critcizes you for it, does not mean that they are entirely correct. They do not know you personally, and do not know the circ_mstances that brought you to that place....but if you are asking for their opinon, you have to be open to the possibility that they will slam you for your actions. You either have to take it as their opinion, constructive criticism, or just ignore it. Like you said, we've all made poor choices. Either learn from them and move on, or you can dwell on them and be bitter. Your choice. Don't let what people say here get you so wound up. People have all kinds of different beliefs. It is hard to be supportive if you have a different opinon on the subject. You have to see it from someone elses perspective as well as your own.

I agree with Erin1979. A forum is not just for "support". If someone posts a probelm or whatever, they have to realize that other people are going to write things that they don't agree with, that is how the world works.

There is a diplomatic way to answer every question, and some people do not always take that route. I do not agree with saying that someone is a horrible person just because I don't agree with something they have done, but on the flip side, I do think that sometimes it is better to tell the truth even though it may hurt someone's feelings. Like I said before, if you are taking a stab at the issue of abortion, it is s hot topic, and everyone has a different opinion. Do not take everything that people say to heart. Sometimes you just have to learn from your mistakes, and take people's comments and criticism with a grain of salt.

yummy, I completely understand what you're talking about. I'm due three weeks after my 21st birthday and have had to deal with A LOT of criticism. There's a difference between a 14 year old girl trying to get pregnant becuase she wants to feel unconditional love, and a 20 year old because she's ready to start a family. I'm tired of people telling me that I'm not ready to be a mom. First of all, they don't know me. Of course I'll change when I'm 30. And all the 30 yr olds will change when they're 60... does that mean we should all wait until the last possible minute to have children? No one's ever ready to be a mom regardless of how much you think you are. And second, people make bad parents and good parents at every age. My aunt had her son at 15 and is one of the best parents I know. But there's also 15 year old girls who make horrible parents. I think that you are completely right, there is a difference between constructive criticism and plain rude. The funny thing is... a lot of the rude comments come from older women attempting to condone us young ones.... interesting. People in general are just rude, Erin1979 was a perfect example of a polite opposing response. Too bad more people can not have this open and accepting att_tude.

Thank you ataylor. It's funny, I do not always agree with everything that is posted on this forum, and somtimes people are just being rude to be rude, but I don't understand why people cannot just say what they think in a respectful way. There are so many different ways to get your point across without making the other person feel horrible about themselves. Frankschick and I seem to have similar views as well, and she also has constructive and diplomatic answers.

Yummy... what do you mean by able to afford? just curious...