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No problem, Kayla. It just bugs me when people act like their way is the only way and are rude to anyone who thinks differently. I'm proud of the people who do things their way and don't listen to the negativity. Thats all someone who is just starting a family needs to hear is that they made the wrong choices and their relationships will fail. Not always the case. And Kayla, you seem like a very good mother. :o)

You know, if I get married and wind up divorced, thats my problem, and no one can know who will wind up divorced. I may be young, but I am not stupid. I dont care if I wind up being a single parent, as long as I have my daughter, she is worth everything I have been through. You are right, I dont need to hear that my relationship will fail, nobody knows that for sure, or that I am stupid. People who are so negative to teen mothers need to think about their what they are saying, what do they want teens to do, have abortions? I already have my daughter and I am glad I have her.

In the end, people will do what they want. When I first came to this site I spent a lot of time on this board and worried a lot over some of the younger girls so desperate for babies. IMO, as I said above...I do think 18 is very young and not the ideal age. You are far more likely to get divorced and live in a broken home and EVERY 18 year old will say they are more mature. But does ANYONE ever think they are immature? In the end you are an adult and free to do as you will. None of us know each other so we have no clue what someone's household is really like. I've seen a lot of posts by "Mommy" and I have no idea of what she is really like in person, but on these boards she has always acted very mature..........The younger girls that I see post on here a lot, like the 14, 15 year olds who go out and try to get pregnant because they just want a baby so bad...sorry, but IMO they need a slap upside the head. I suppose it is more than possible for a 14 year old to be a good mom, but I dunno...to me it seems hard to be a parent when you are a kid yourself. I worried a lot about that when I first came on here. I worried abotu what would happen to the children. Who knows, maybe it was all the pregnancy hormones, lol. No amount of talking over an internet is gonna slap the stupid out of someone. ;P All you can do is hope things turn out okay. We all know what happens in the real world. Maybe some of the comments I have seen from people have made me a little unfeeling about it all, or maybe I've just decided it's not worth it trying to worry about other people that you don't know and can't help. mason is now 5 months old and is my world and I feel wonderful knowing I waited until the time was right. I wish that "right time" would have been 5 years earlier, lol (I am 35), but this was the best time for me. Kayla, grats on your new baby and the new house! You must be so excited about it. Have you moved in yet?

P.S....I must say, it is quite fun sometimes to go back and see all the things I typed on here when I was so hormonal, rofl.

We are moving in this weekend. The previous owner is having new carpet put down, that is the only way I agreed to by the house. I will not have my baby crawling on dirty carpets when she gets older. We are going to try to paint before we move in too. The living room is a horrible maroon color!

Everyones situation is different. I had my baby at 33 years. I have been married for four years before. When i did get pregnant, i did wish it had happened sooner than later. But then all things happen in its time. Having a baby at 18 years is something i could not have seen happening in my life, but there are those mature 18 year olds that do extremely good jobs at parenting. So lets us not judge anyone because of there age.

I am in my mid 20's and am expecting my first child. i have been married for 2 yrs. and personally couldn't imagine having a child as a teen but i would never put down a teen that had a baby. Two people in my family got pregnant at 18 and they werent married or anything. Now they have 3 kids are married and have their own homes and are doing pretty well if you ask me. My parents also got married at 19 and never got divorced and same with my aunts and uncles. I dont think people should come on here and bash teenagers that are married or have kids. You are just as likely to get a divorce at 30 as you are at 20. It all depends on the individuals. Personally if you ask me the older women bashing the younger ones are the immature ones don't you have anything better to do.

Just want to clarify i am not encouraging teens to have babies and get married. I just don't think it is the end of the world if they do and if they are mature they can make it just fine. I have seen it first hand in my family it all depends on the individual.

One more thing id rather see a mature 18 or 19 year old have a baby than a 45 year old women. Unless its a mistake women in their upper forties and fifties trying to have kids is more of a turn off to me.

ya to bad that child has such a high chance of having down sydrome or many other medical problems. A younger person is a lot better fit for having a child.

im not saying a 13 or 14 yr old should go and get pregnant. im just saying if a older teen ends up having a baby they are not a horrible person and their life isnt over because of it.

its not the childs problem if the parents get divorced its them that suffer there is a big difference. Yes 40 year olds do have the life exsperiance but noone has the exsperiance with a child till they have one. Every one lerns through life as they go and every one exsperiance life in all sorts of ways. I am in my 20's and there is alot of things that i have been through that even a 40 year old may not have been through it depends on the exsperiance i think. Jut cause you are 40 does not mean that you will not ever get a devorce and that you will be a better mum.

I know how you young mothers feel about the criticism being doled out freely on this website. I am 20, and I am 5 months pregnant with my second child. The best thing is just to let it be, to be happy with your family and the life that you have worked so hard to build in a short time. Being defensive only plays into these bitter women's hands. You have no obligation to tell these people how much you make a month, where you live, and your debt situation. Just let it be and know that these women will never understand our lives, and we will never understand theirs if we don't come together under out common bond of motherhood. We can all be happy in our differences and accept each other. These women are concerned, because they feel that their late teens and early 20's were very fulfilling and fun, sans child. They don't understand that our lives can be extremely fulfilling at the same age with child. There is a stereotype that every mother our age is poor, exhausted, impatient with their children and either single, or in a bad relationship (oh, and on welfare, of course). If you know that isn't you, delight in the fact that you have beaten the odds and are a strong, smart and happy woman!

Hey Everyone! My names Elise and I am head of a site called Bundlesoflove where we support Teens TTC! So if you want to post , chat , and meet other Teens that TTC without unwanted interruptions. It is easy to join my organization! You can contact me at TeenParentsRock@yahoo.com I hope to hear from you soon! ~lots of love and support ~ EliseMichelle

To me I consider 18+ to be an adult ! but that doesn't mean every 18 year old acts like an adult. You have your 18 year olds who still live at home and are still in school and their parents are still supporting them which would make them being 18 and a legal adult but that wouldnt really make them fully ready to have a child...But when I say its ridiculous for young teens to be TRYING to have a baby on purpose im more so talking about girls UNDER the age of 18 and IF an 18 year old is still in fact living at home and still being supported by her own parents then I would say that it wouldn't be right for her to be TTC b.c she really isn't fully ready. ~Karah & Baby Jaeden.