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Of course older is weiser, there is no doubt about it the more experience in life you have the weiser you are. But it is ignorant of you to say that just because a younger woman hasn't experienced as much, that she will be a bad mother!! wheather you are 37 or 19 when you have you first baby, all experience is out the window because all you need is maternal instinct and love , what the h__l will any life experience help you when you are holding your baby??? think about it, The difference is that at my daughters graduation I will be 37, while you will be half blind in a wheelchair.... while I am still able to run afetr my toddler your joints wil be giving out....seriously, age had nothiing to do with being able to love your baby, so don't tell me I am a bad mother because I am young, that is so ignorant, just because you spend the most valuable years of your life concentrateing on materialistic things instead of having children and now all of a sudden "you want a baby" . Don't take your insecurities out on young mothers, please!!!!
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I agree too , well said . I was 39 with my first and although my life experience has made a very large difference you are also correct that it doesn't mean poop but lets not encourage teenage pregnancy either because I really don't see how youth age can be beneficial to young women whether it be sowing a few seeds or advancing ones education . I also agree that education can be and will be just as valuable in older years as in younger years . I think most would agree the younger the better but not too young otherwise noone would come here with concerns and worries about having children older just as much as younger do . (just my opinion )
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I am not trying to encourage teenagers to want and have babys it is true that statistically these babies are more likely to end up in broken homes. However it anoys me that some women think that all young mothers are bad mothers and just want to show off their babies, quote: " want live cabbage patch dolls.!!!!" And I don't appreciate being put into the same category as those kids that have their parents pay for their babies diapers!!! Anyway, some 37 year olds also want babies for the same reason, because they feel alone or like their lives are empty just like those 15 year old girls. At EVERY age there is a right reason and a wrong reason, just like at every age there are bad mothers and good mothers.
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Hey Anna I totally agree with you.
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why, thank you ;-) I am glad people agree... I felt so picked on, on this site...
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Oh, to introduce myself, I am 20 and I have a 12 month old baby girl ( my live cabage patch doll, as some would say)
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Hey!! :) Im 20 also and I have a 10 mo. old daughter.
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hey soleil, congrats ;-) here is my baby's site if you wnat to see http://ladybug04.piczo.com
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OMG your daughter is sooo CUTE! LOL I love her hair. I also have a website, its www.arianagisele.piczo.com, click on ariana gisele's page, the rest of the pages or just misc. pics of friends and family.
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wait, your daughetr is named ariana too?
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she is precious, especially as a little ladybug!!!!
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Yes her name is Ariana too. Loraine first of all im not a girl im a WOMAN. And what do you mean by "experience matters"? How would that have helped me raise my daughter now? I mean I am still experiencing life aren't I? Im still going to school, I still travel, but with my daughter and my hubby.
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The experience is to help YOU grow, not help you parent your child. There is so much about LIFE, and personal growth that you are missing out on, that you can never experience, because now you are a mother.. you will never really get to know who YOU are, because before you got a chance to find YOU, you became MOM instead. You will never know who YOU really are... the "you " that you know is not the "you" that you would have become as a 23,24 year old. Europe doesn't help with parenting, but it ( and other things, not necessarily travel, but time) does help you find out who you really are.. and that is most important when being a parent. My mother is now 51, and for the first time in 31 years, has time just to be by herself... and she is very much like a teenager all over again, going through all the personal growth that myself and my siblings went through at that young stage in life.. because she spent that young stage in HER life being OUR mother. Does she regret us? HELL NO! Does she despirately wish she had found out who she really was before becoming Mom? Absolutely.
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sorry lorraine but anna is right
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I should probably ellaborate to my last comment to Lorraine ... I find it a little disgusting with both to young and too old but since I am one of them (older) I will say that DAMN I LOVE MY CHILDREN! so who should I be to judge those who are younger ? No offense but I side with Anna's comments . No I wouldn't have started too young but if I knew what I know now about how wonderful it is to have children I would have sarted much much younger and put advanced education , traveling , good carreer , etc etc on hold .
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Anna you are so right! Life experiance to me means nothing. I am not a teenager no more, but I had my 1st child at 17. Had only turned 17 a coupkle of weeks before having him. It' true that most older women will have children cos they feel their time is running out. I'm glad I have had my children young. I am still with my partner who is the dad to all 3 of my kids. I have neve relied on my mum to buy nappies or nothing. Everything we own or have ever owned has come from hard earned cash.
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I don't want to come across saying that older women shouldn't have babies, not at all, its just that they shouldn't feel superior to those that had their babies young. Leeley I agree with you as well, by the way good luck at the doctors with your baby boy, I hope everything turns out ok ( I follow some of your posts on the infant care forum)
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