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not to be nasty or anything, but if you didn't want a baby you two should have taken better precautions. i'm not against abortion, but having an abortion every year is ridiculous. whether or not to have an abortion is one of the most difficult decisions a woman can make and if you don't feel right about having one then don't. and don't let your bf bully you into one either. he already knew the two of you are very fertile and he should have worn a condom (or 2) or taken you to get some birth control. he isn't the one who's going to have to live w/ the guilt if you abort this 3rd time. i don't even know if its healthy to have 3 abortions in 3ryrs. i think you already know that the right thing for you two to do is to own up to your responsibility.

Hey congratulations:) I'm 20 and I just learned that I am pregnant as well. If you would like to keep the baby, you need to sit down and talk to your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel about getting another abortion. It's a huge decision to have a baby, and if you would like to have it, then that is the decision that is right for you. I have never had an abortion, but I can imagine how emotionally draining it must be to have one, let alone two. Good luck with your decision:)

Why is it that young women never consider adoption?? Why is it better to kill that budding life then to give that life to someone who otherwise wouldn't have the option??

thank you anita and bobbi. anita, i don`t think it`s healthy to have 3 abortions either. i will most likely keep the baby and deal with the situation i put myself in. if i have to be a single parent then o well. congrats bobbi! we did wear a condom EVERYTIME. i guess i`m just a very fertile person. the reason i wasn`t on BC pills is because last month i just donated an egg to an infertile woman. and to answer "......." i would never consider adoption because there are tooooo many unwanted children in the world already. and i know if i carry a baby 9 months i will not be able to give it away. THANK YOU AGAIN FOR ALL YOUR ADVICE.

i had my first child when i was twenty it is a shock but i knew i was ready i was also living with my parents me and my boyfriend thought about it and 6 months before my baby was born we bought a house we married 2 years later we are still happily married and when my first born was three i had another baby i dont know how but somehow you do cope and ajust to your new life i would'nt change my life now for the world

I have to agree with Anita on this one. It's hard not to sound harsh about it. I guess I just don't understand how you've ended up int he situation AGAIN. I am very pro-choice and accidents can happen, but 3 in 3 years?? There is no excuse for not using protection. In the end, you will have to decide what is right for you. But PLEASE, abortion is a surgery and is NOT birth control. Next time, use some. Good luck.

Adoption... You would have a clear concience and help out a family that wants to have a child but can not adopt.

melody, i know myself and i could never put a child up for adoption. i gonna keep the baby but i might have to be a single parent if my boyfriend doesn`t change his mind.

You couldn't adopt but you could abort??? makes no sence

i can`t adopt but i can abort because there are toooo many unwanted children in the world already!!! i would rather feel guilty about aborting than about having an unwanted child.

wake up.. the "unwanted children" that you reference are older children that were orphaned or put into the system because of complete screw up parents. infants put up for adoption, in the US, have homes all lined up before they are even born. You think death is better then a loving home?

The unwanted children are over 10 years and come from a bad upbringing where both parents have been doing drug and are in and out of jail. Finally they eather get thrown in jail for good or the courts manage to get the kids out of these homes. Olso the kids them selves normal are in and out of juvie and there are not too many people who have the patiants to take on a challenge like that. A new born baby has a home way before thier born. There are couples who wait in line YEARS to get a new born baby to adopt. I know all this for a fact, because my husband is an attorny who represents abused kids. I my self with my two younger brothers where adopted. I was 5 years old when I was adopt. We were only up for adoption for two weeks before my family adopted us. Adoption is a wonderful thing.

I am also 20 yrs old and 4 1/2 mos. preg. I was scared to death at first. I don't know if my bd is going to stay around. His words say he will but his actions don't. You have to remember that even if you try to keep the baby now. being that you have had 2 abortions within the last 2 yrs. there may be complications. I would talk to your doctor about this and make sure they know about your history.

JAMIE, thank you for the advice. i hope all goes well with you.