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Anna,you sound like amanda,your age,and immature,why?Because you say you are a better mother than most their age.You say you don;t beat her,neglect her etc etc,as if thats the norm!!!! I am glad your mother does'nt help you out,why should she?As for her dumping on you,my mother was 18,got involved with my dad too fast and they split leaving us 5 kids.My sister was 17 and pregnant,slag,then got married,later after her kids they split up,they just did not spend enough time together before bringing a life into this world,selfish,and irresponsible and we are the ones who suffered. You don't know enough about life,and your precious daughter,you wait until she is 14,15,and has boyfriends,you will be frightened she will get pregnant,and if she does you cannot turn around and critisise her,your values will count for nothing.ike with me if I got pregnant young,I would have said "you did it",other woman who had babies older have more respect and right,than a mother or sister like mine.

anna good for you! i agree with not being judgemental. and to the women who are... look at your children... how do they make you feel?? should not everyone experience that? accidents happen and i'm proud of those who take responsibility for their accidents.

Everyone should experience that, yes. But at a time when they will be ble to be raised properly. It's the children who's lives they don't think about and f-up I feel the most sorry for. But hey, if you want one bad enough than you deserve to have one right? Who actually cares what's right for the kid.

well anna #2 it sounds as if your the one whos the s___t. I on the other hand dont go around showing off what I got because for 1 everyones not likie you and 2 i have a fience and thats for only him to see. not every younge mother is a s___t. The guy who I got pregnant by we have been together for 2 years and are getting married on valentines day. yeah it wasnt the best choice in the world but for god sakes its a baby. the most beautiful thing in the world. so who are all of you to judge me? Thank you very much I am a wonderful mother. and im not the only one who says that. everyone does. just because Im younger than you doesnt make me a bad mother.

so people say you are a good mother,God you sound so vey young,for example "she was'nt planned,but I'm glad she's here anyway,"and trying to say you are a better mum than most "your"age,and then saying you don't neglect her,beat her etc,which as susan rightly says I hope you don't.At 16,you have'nt lived life and is now responsible for the rest of your life for a child,at that age you have only just left school so have no money.How can you say you are a better mother than most at your age,and admitting that she was'nt planned...yrs later when asked why you were so young,or how long you were with your boyfriend by your child,you have to say "you wre not planned"or that you were not together very long with the boys father,some role model then eh?As opposed to a couple who have courted for yrs,decided to marry or live in a commited relationship after building up a bond,then choosing to have a family,my what sounds best to you?

Charlotte nothing what you said is fair. Sure she is young, but commend her for having the baby and giving her life!! So many people have an abortion these days because they don't want to deal with the consequences of their actions. And by the way, no girl who finds herself pregnant before marriage is any worse than people who have s_x before marriage.

actually m charlotte made a lot of sense,its true if I asked my mother about why I came along so quick,I'd be a bit hurt that she was'nt with my dad for long,my mother married my father and had me yrs later.Why commend a girl who is having a baby at 16,and potentially ruining the babies life?She does'nt know enough about life itself to start raising a young infant.As for s_x before marriage being no different,its a hell of a lot different,you hav'nt got a dependent for a start,thats a foolish topic to start on,of course there is a huge difference with having a child before marriage,and s_x.The biggest difference is young girls growing up too fast,and you say "commend"that,no way.They should,as Susan said be forced into an abortion,harsh words and brave words from susan,but she actually has a good valid point.

Anna, congrats. on being a good mother. What is important is that you are able to provide for your child and family, and you are taking the proper steps towards that by going to work. Also, please do not let people bother you with all of their rude comments. You know, people who make mean comments are normally unhappy with their own lives with something that has happend or something that they did. What I always rember is that things happen for a reason and God already knows what we are going to do. You, like myself can be used for a wonderful testimony for God. I got married at the age of 17. I had graduated already from highschool and then married my sweety. I knew him all of my life, and then about four years prior to marriage we met again and knew we were the ones. My parents prayed to make sure it was okay since I was so young and they said yes as long as I graduated. Well, I have had a wonderful marriage. I manage our family company and my husband is the plant manager, We are also very active in church, singing with the praise team for 10 + years, and more. After I got married, the month after I started working at the company and began attending school in the evenings. I am now almost finished with my Master's degree. I have one and a half years left. We have no children yet because we are praying for God's timing but are very well off and living very comfortable as well as saving. I have said all of this to say that you have many years ahead of you and are already turning a situation that may not be ideal into something great. I respect you for that and will ocntinue praying for you, your baby, and your soon to be husband. Again congradulations!

why commend a girl of 16 who has had a baby?AS for saying rude comments from other women,from what I've read they are not rude,just accurate or someones opinions.As for saying mean comments mean that their own lives are normally unhappy,or has been,maybe in susans case,but certainly not in mine,and I should imagine many others.I come on here for something to do,and if these little schoolgirls want to spout about having babies,when they are little more themselves,or thinking about it,and people like you expect us to just say "how wonderful,good luck to you"then you are mistaken.I will commend people wher its due,and this is'nt one of them.

jenna I agree with you.In time these teenagers will look back,like we all do,and realise that if only they had listened to others trying to give good advice,instead of the att_tude,"you don't know me,I'm more mature than my yrs,"etc etc.I'm just glad now,that I had parents who I'd be frightened to death to say I was pregnant at that age to.

To Jenna and Mandy, I am sorry if I offended you, but you know that everyone messes up in some way or another an deserves forgiveness. Anna, appears to be trying rather hard to provide a good life for her and her baby and soon to be husband, and that is very commendable. It shows how mature she is by not running away from the situation. Now, of course, as I said in my first posting pregnancy before marriage is not an ideal situation, actually being a christian I know that it is a sin. I would never tell someone to go for it, or great job, because it was wrong, but what you do with a bad choice is what matters. God offers forgiveness and mercy for us all in any situation and that is what Anna deserves. There is no need to make her feel bad about what she did as there is no way that she can take it back. We can all just pray for her and incourage her. Please opperate with mercy and forgiveness and God does with us. Every bad situation does not always turn out bad, neither does every "not so good" situation. Did you read my first posting on 9/25? I explained a little about how I can relate to Anna, many people at the beginning of my engagement talk down to me and about the decission, however; now those people clearly see that it happened for a reason and was actually a blessing. I am very happy and living a wonderfully fulfilled life through my marriage, career, education, and more, but some may not have thought that was possible. Let's just all encourage Anna to continue to do better and to get married and have a good life. Just think....

I'm not into all the Jesus stuff (no offence, heh) but I do have to agree with patience...and also with Jenna. I don't think we need to commend Anna for getting pregnant at such a young age. She made a mistake (God knows I've made enough mistakes in my own life, lol). But the difference between her posts and some of the others is that she is trying her best to do the right thing and raise the baby the best she can. She doesn't have a high paying job, but at least she is working and making efforts. One thing that really stand out in her posts to me is that she talks mostly about how she is taking care of her baby and very little of herself. I get so frustrated with the majority of teenage pregnancy posts because all they post is about themselves. How they want a kid now. It's not suitable for them to wait. They're happy and that's all they care about. Very few people actually post about what is right for the baby. I think being a good mother means doing whatever is necessary for the child, even at your own expense. Anna's pregnancy wasn't planned and she admitted she messed up. But it sounds to me like since becoming pregnant she has grown up a little and is doing whatever necessary to make things right for her child. I give her a lot of credit for that. :)

yes,you are right the damage is done.But Anna,we are not saying we are perfect,far from it,but many women offer sound advice,and the teenagers do not want to listen.I also do not like it when you try and judge us against your mother,and say about not neglecting her or beating her,as if its something most mothers do.Patience says you are providing a good life,I don't know about that.I have 2 kids,and believe I am doing the best I can,I deliberately waiting until later to have a family,building up a career that I have now left, bonding and enjoying each others company 1st.You need to be able to disipline and have respect from your kids,and being a parent at 16,is not really a good role model,all I can suggest,is that you stick with it,do as best you can,but in time realise,that yes we all make mistakes,but admit that 16 you were a bit young to have a baby,and give this lesson to your kid (s)as you grow up.

Hi Anna. I'm a proud teen mom too. I can't believe how narrow-minded some people are. I love my babies and am there for them in every way. We do not live off the government, or our parents, or anyone else. It doesn't matter how old you are if you have the means/abilities to care for your child. Most moms I know are bad mothers, young AND old. There are a few who are good parents, and I am proud to say I am one. My parents live off the government, I don't. My dad is an alchoholic and my mom was a pothead, but guess what? My and my husband are completely drug/alchohol free. We don't even smoke cigarettes. And I know of a few moms who had their kids taken away...for doing Meth. They had 3 little girls, all got molested by their foster dad. So I am with the other MATURE teens who are getting p__sed at people who yell about our age and know nothing about our lives.

P.s. I do appreciate the open-minded people who actually ARE giving support. That was just to the people who think they do no wrong.

Congrats on your daughter. I really hate when everyone says mistake. A child is not a mistake. If they were would we have people against abortion. Anna stand up and be proud. You are a mother and a young women. In the past women have had children at Anna age and continue to this day. And guess what it won't end no matter what anyone says. Until we have the right resources and stop making our children feeling ashamed and giving them the proper support and resources ie/ s_x education and birth control. Once we get past our difference in religion and politics and put the government money where it is suppose to be, guess what we are going to have to deal with teen pregnancy. I live in the teen pregnancy capital of Ontario. I am not a young mother, but I see these kids living and working their so called mistakes out. There are some great young mothers and fathers here who are struggling but are not living off the so called system. They are working and going to school. Now young mothers, to say their are worse older mothers out there. You can't just come out and say that you have no proof on numbers. You also have to look at someone who is older . They waited for the marriage and the job. They sacrificed alot to become a mother, Child care in my counrty doesn't come cheap when both parents work, but a single parent or a young mother have resources. People here are paying $300 a month for one child in childcare. I have a view on both sides of teen pregnancy. Almost every girl in my family had their kids under the age of nineteen. Its funny I am proud of everyone of my family members. So Anna and B be proud and stand straight good parenting comes from within. AGE is only a Number, used to judge in this forum. By the way I am 31 and A mother of 1 and number 2 on the way. Guess what I am also deaf and I am a very good mother. My daughter is 20 months old and her vocabulary is above normal and she also signs.