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Listen nevaeh69, children planning to have children is unacceptable. Teenagers are not ready emotionallly and mentally. You might have the anatomy, and you might be physically able to have a child, but that doesn't mean you should. Why on earth would you plan to have a child so young? Why struggle, why stress, why worry? Not having the commitment and anchor of marriage, plus the financial stability will make your life miserable. Yeah, you will have a gorgeous little baby in the end. But you won't be able to provide like you want to. Your plans sound wonderful. I encourage you to got to school and fulfill your goals-without a child. Wait until you have done everything you set your heart to. Then have a baby. When you have a stable relationship and financial stability. Good luck to you in life.

i have to say that i agree. if you can't speel your words right then you are definitely not ready for a child. yes it is there choice to get pregnant and yes some teeneage moms are good moms, but most are not emotionally ready and the only reason that they want a child is to hang on to their boyfriend or just so that they have someone who will love them back because they feel like they are alone. what kind of life can a 13 year old provide for a child? at 13 they aren't even old enough to get a job, so the grandparents are the ones who are essencially raising the child. it is easy to be a good parent when someone else is providing for it and all you have to do is go to school and come home and play house while your parents are out busting their a__ses to support your kid. i am not judging anyone but if someone comes on here and asks should i have a baby at------whatever age, whether it is 12 or whether it is 30 if you are having to ask then the answer is no you shouldnt be having a child. kids think that it is cute to get pregnant early and statistics show that most kids who have babies dont even finish school. some do and that is great, and i am not judging them but most dont.

i would be so happy to answer your question if you had written it in english - but i simply cannot decipher the hieroglyphics you think will get you into UNI!

OH MY GOD WHAT DOES THIS SAY??

Hello nevaeh69- I'm a mentor in the inner city school district for a program that focuses on empowering young women. I know I lot of young ladies that feel the way that you do. I understand the want and need to have someone that loves you unconditionally. The last line of your post states, "don't be hasty" and that would be my advice to you. YOU HAVE YOUR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU and YES, you can do and be anything that you want. I got pregnant with my 1st child when I was 21. I was in college full time and thought I could make it work. I dropped out right after i had my son because I couldn't go to school, work, and take care of a newborn. My son is 6 now and I just graduated from college (double major also). I have literally been going to school for the last 10 years. If I could do it over, I would have gotten my degree first. If you HEAR nothing else that I have to say, please hear that. Your life and the life YOU provide for your child will be much easier WHEN you are educated. I wish you the best and know that you want to give your baby the best life possible...so please "don't be hasty". Best wishes

You do not sound anywhere near mature enough to have a child, like the other's said, you sound too illiterate to even get a job. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first BUT I was married, my husband had a job and we had our own home FIRST. We both took accelerated highschool courses and finished early. There is nothing wrong with having children young as long as you can take responsiblity for them. You obviously cannot.

momma, i agree with you. It isn't your age, its your maturity level. I'm 20 and I know that most girls my age are not ready for children. I'm engaged and almost finished with my last year of college. We own a home and have well paying jobs. These are the things that these girls need to work towards if they really want to provide the right home for their children. I command you for having a plan for your future, but you should reach your goals before bring a child into the mix. Good luck!

Nevaeh, no one is saying that teen/young mums dont get by and are not good mothers, mistakes happen and if a young girl falls pregnant by accident then they have no choice but to give up young girl things and deal with the responsibilities a baby brings, but to actually plan it - thats craziness!

I got pregnant at 15(not planned she was a suprize lol). But i think planning a baby before your 20 is rather mad and i dont really understand it.I'm not going to lie i struggled until i was about 17 money wise even though my partner was working and i was woking 1 day a week. Everything is great now i'm of to college to become a midwife have a job and love my daughter she is fab,1'm 18 so you see even though i'm going to have a a brilliant job and so is my partner everything was on hold for a long time and there is so much to think about. These silly teenagers(trying for a baby) dont think about all that they just think oww a baby cute clothes it will be so amazing and easy ITS NOT

hi well i had a baby at 16 i did plan to have her i know now that i should of waited. i think a lot of young people go and get themselves pregnant for all the wrong reasons i did and i am the first to admit it. dont get me wrong i wouldna be without my daughter she is the best thing that has ever happened to me!! think your childhood and up bringing has a lot to do with it. i was pa__sed from piller to post when i was young my mum lived in a pub and had partys every night. my childhood memories is of me and my younger brother drinking the leftover drink the next day!! we were 5 and 4!! my dad took us to stay with him when i was about 6. i rebelled at 12 and came back to live with my mum i thought it was great being able to stay out as long as i wanted and my mum would let me stay off school to help out with my younger siblings (different dad to me). my mum then got a boyfriend that i didnt get on with and my mum was high on drugs 24/7 and this boyfriend enjoyed controlling my mum and myself. he would sent me back to my dads and then my mum would phone saying she needed me. this happened hundreds of times!! eventually when i was 15 my mum got 4 years in court and was sent to jail. i was lost with no one. i ment a boy and wanted a baby to love and something to love me. so i had a baby!! i have since turned my life around i went back to college then university and have now a degree in adult nursing ( i am 20 now) i have since split from my babys dad but now engaged to a wonderful partner who i know is the "one". to all those young girls wanting a baby WAIT!!!

Nevaeh69, Its sad to read (or try to!) your story. To know that you are going to bring a child into this world and not have the maturity or ability to support it both emotionally and financially. I presume it will be up to us taxpayers to support your child as you certainly cannot. You certainly dont have a clue how hard it is to raise a child, especially without a partner, which even if you have now, im sure will change as you age. I have a friend whose 38 and single and struggled with a decent paying job to support and care for her newborn....if you think you are capable of doing this, all you are showing is how immature you really are.

Nevaeh69, Can you repost?, Couldn't understand a word you were saying, or maybe you should take a typing course, learn to type then you won't have to worry about using so much "short hand" and you can get your arguement across and little better. I say, have a baby!!!!, you'll be the only one to determine if it was the wrong decision or not.

Hey all, Nevaeh69 I strongly recommend you read a book called 'Annie's Baby' a True story based on the struggling Life of 14 year old who meets the wrong guy, gets pregnant, gets beaten by the father after he accuses her Of sleeping with other men, Gives Birth, drops out of school, loses her friends, misses out on parties, lives with her mother (her father left when she was younge) and eventually has the child put up for adoption because of her neglect and her immaturity to raise the most important person in her younge life. I fell pregnant at 18 to my surprise, I had only been wif my (now finace) for 2 months, I was not ready i was stuck ina rut to whether keep this child, however it was in gods hands and I miscarried, Although I did mourn, but consider this as a lesson that i was not ready. I have since then travelled, all over the world with my fiance, Celebrated a very big 21st with friends and family, got engaged, bought a home, i work full time, and so does DF. Alot of these things would not have been accomplished i feel if my baby had survived. 3 Years Later we would love to have children we are ready for children, because we dont question it, we just know! However I do promise this, My parents had me at 21, I had an amazing childhood, and thanks to them was very privilaged, their hard work and patience paid off, and i was able to see the world. if you can provide this quite confidently for your future children at the age you are now, Then i see no problem, however reflect on your own childhood, and look to the future, what steps can you take to ensure that this Baby will be a product of your hardship and love for a lifetime? A lifetime, is longer than just a couple days, weeks, months or years.

I had my son when I was 19 I love him and wouldnt go back and change anything. But it is very hard I am a single mother doing it on my own and cant afford to go to college nor have the time to do so. do you know how much I pay for day care a month $540! Doesnt seem like alot but trust me it is. Waiting a bit could be a good thing. Did you say you want tpo work at a bar? That might not be a good thing while your preg! Plus goodluck finding a daycare at night

i was 17 almost 18 with a husband that was older with a decent job we struggled so much and in a way my kids did suffer i do not regret it but your a silly little girl thinking that 13 or 15 year old can be a postive parent and what the hell are you thinking going to work at a bar dam your child sure is going to to be proud having you as a mom do not get me wrong i waas a teenage mom but in this day and age you really have to know better i tell my two teenage boys every day how hard it was and how much they will have to give up. girl you really need a swift kick in the b___t where is your mom?