I GAVE UP The Guilt Kills Me But
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 | LJ - January 12 |
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I gave up br___tfeeding a week ago. Its been such a struggle for both me and the baby for 2 months now. I allowed her to eat on demand, but it never was enough. Even when I pumped, I couldn't get a "full meal" for her. She got to where she would eat 4 ounces at a time, and I was never able to get more than 2 with both br___ts combined :( We've been supplimenting with formula, so she ws already use to it. She always got gagged and choked on br___t milk because it all came at her at once. When she did, it made me feel horrible and stressed us both out! She even got choked up on br___t milk from a bottle because it was thinner I suppose than formula. Anyway.. I felt like such a loser, a complete failure, but now I'm ok with it. She and I cuddle when I feed her a bottle of formula. She gets all she wants, and she never gets choked up anymore. I still wish it would have gone better, but now I think I made the right choice.
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 | JL - January 12 |
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I too am feeling guilty because I was able to successfully b___stfeed my first baby, and this second baby had so many issues with it. His mouth is ridiculously small and his tongue is short. I was in constant pain, and he was always sucking air because he could not latch widely. We also did a bout of thrush, which was no fun! We spent a ton of time with the lactation consultants trying to work through this too. I lasted 5 weeks b___stfeeding exclusively, then started pumping. Now he gets some bottles of b___stmilk and some bottles of formula. We even had to get the really narrow nipple bottles for him because he could not latch onto the Avent bottles I had from my older baby. I plan to pump a little longer, decreasing every few days to wean myself. I feel guilty that he will not get the same b___stfeeding experience that my older baby did (b___stfed a full year), but I guess all kids are different and we moms need to do what works best for each of them individually.
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you should never feel guilty for doing what's best for you and your baby! a stressed out mom, is an unhappy mom. and an unhappy mom, means an unhappy baby. good luck to both of you!
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You guys did the best you could. I met a woman a few weeks ago who tried to bf for 8 weeks, but her son was not thriving, so they switched to formula. He is gaining weight now and a lot happier. She said she felt so badly about it, and she felt even worse b/c the formula container had a schpiel on how bf is best. That just made her burst into tears the first time she went to make him a bottle! I think she's okay with everything now. :)
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| LJ - January 13 |
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It was really hard to try and not feel so bad about it. Hubby kept telling me not to worry and reminding me that I was only looking out for her. She's doing fantastic now and putting on weight like she should. No more gagging and being hungry after she eats :)
JL I switched from VentAire and Avent to one called "Second Nature". The nipples simulate the way the b___st works and the milk is regulated by the way the baby feeds. Maybe it would work for your baby? Good luck with him :)
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| JL - January 15 |
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We have been having luck with the Playtex Vent Aire, but not the one that is supposed to be similar to the b___st shape. My baby's mouth is so tiny that we use the narrow-neck bottles with the small nipple. He could not latch onto the Avent ones, so I knew he would not handle the "b___st like" Vent Aires. I have not heard of Second Nature. I'll have to check it out. Thanks!
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