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Just call around and find one... or find an OBGYN that you trust and that trusts you... thats what I did - didnt even bring it up until we got to know eachother a bit, and around like 24weeks I asked him how he felt about it - we discussed it and he agreed to do it. You just definately have to have a good relationship with the doc!

To 'aaaaaaaaaa' lol Thanks for your help I apreciate a lot. My thing is: i'm 22, will be 23 in july soon and so my fiance. We're getting married this year.We always wanted a baby.We been together for 6 years between dating and engagement =) we realy love each other. And we always plan our lives ahead, talking about it, seen ho each other feel about certain topics etc. Sinc some time ago,due to fact that our aunt had twins,pregancy and birth became a more'talked about' topic around our family.And i guess that trigered us to talk more deely about pregnancy-birth-us. Since then we been doing research,finding out a lot of things involving the matter. I was always(before all) 'ok' with the 'natural v____al birth thing',since I had only seen a few things TV shows...some videos, but nothing compared to what I know and seen now about it. After weighting everything ( v____al birth and c section) things changed a lot. I've learned many things( almost all lol) seen a lot too...arrf. Then,after that we had to sit down and aply it to our lives,and i also had to aply it to myself, my feelings,my body...all aspects of myself,an make a decision into what would be best for us and me. And so much had hapened...all we talked about very seriously...we came to our senses that we are better of with a elective c section. I say elective because if you want to avoid certain things like pelvic floor disfunction it's best you don experience any type of labor at all, and plus a planed c section is way better then a 'emergency' one. I recently raised a question on my heart about elective c sections since everyone just thinks,breaths,do v____al births tszx : why can't i chose to have a c section just like i could chose a v____al?" asking around about it, some people couln't tell me if was allowed, some said NO WAY, some didnt agree,some never heard, some though was intresting because when they were preganant their doctor never put it on the table as an option...bla bla bla. So reading about it, i'v learned the ridiculous things about it that are out there towards elective c sections. Some doctors dont agree, dont do it...hard to find one...some ppl have to change insurances so that they are covered to do it...some have to pay from their own pocket...etc. I would never guess that this was such an issue in THIS 'free' country: to have power to decide what you want to do with YOUR body! it's unbeliavable to me! well no one can force into doing something i believe won't be good for me or for my family. The problem with 'calling around' and asking " hey you do elective c sections?" is that the doctors who are ok with it, CANT say it up front to u" Oh by the way you cn have elective c scetion if you want"... but if you ask...then depending upon many things...maybe. Thing is, i won't even attempt to try to get pregnant if we don find first a doctor for us that fit our needs in every aspect. =/ And about developing a relationship with a OBGYN first then risking to question him/her about it 'later'... hummm, what if he/she don't believe in it ? then i wasted my time there and would have to change doctors. ??!?! =( I don't know what to do. I just wanted to make peace with this honestly. N-ways... where u live? where did U had urs? how's ur baby? Y did u think was best for u to have one? I've been only speaking/hearing ppl who are 'all for v____al births' , i'm exited to talk to ppl who feel same as I do, can understand me.