 | G - February 8 |
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Is anyone upset or disappointed over a c-section. My pregnancy and labor were fairly normal. My labor was very long (36 hours) but still progressing. Until it was time to push, I pushed for 1 1/2 hours before the dr. offered a c-section. She gave me the option of pushing for another 1 1/2 hours or to go ahead with the c-section. She did say that she didnt think that more pushing would do any good at that point but it was up to me. I was exhausted so opted for the c-section. Now im sooooooo mad at myself for not pushing longer. I want to have more children, but DO NOT want to have another c-section (i plan on talking to my dr. about future va___al births). Ahhhhhhhhhh, just venting i guess.
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 | djh - February 8 |
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Yes, I labor forever also during my first birth and it was never going to happen. I have an unusually small pelvis and so all my kids had to be c-sections. If you do not have a too small pelvis, I think you should go with the delivery of your choice next time. Your doctor sounds like she wants to give you what you want keeping safety and your health in mind. Congrats on the baby.
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I feel the same way. I was in labor for 24 hours, and pushed for 2 hours before the doctor told me that he felt I needed a c-section, because the baby was stuck on my pelvic bone. Out of sheer exhaustion, I said "yes" and have been mentally kicking myself ever since. Why didn't I ask to roll over, instead of just laboring on my back the whole time???
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| G - February 8 |
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I know how you feel Jamie, I have been kicking myself since the birth. Im not sure why the baby wasnt actually moving down, they didnt mention that my pelvis was too small, and I was so tired that i didnt think to ask. I plan on finding out at my six week follow up.
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Hindsight is always 20/20...and, who can think clearly at a moment like that? My contractions were literally on top of each ther...if I wasn't pushingthe doctor was messing with my perineum, it hurt, I was tired, and by god I wanted her out of my so badly that I didn't care if they beamed her out as long as she got OUT. It's the time that women are most vulnerable, and so you have to trust what someone is saying to you. If my doctor had said roll over, I would've rolled over. If he had said to stand on my head and sing the Cracker Jacks song, I would've done it if it would get my baby OUT. I know for next time, if I get another chance at a v____al delivery.
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I know what you are saying, girl!!!! I like the part about the Cracker Jack's song!!! I also agree that there are times for a c-section but times when another approach from those "in charge" could have saved us all from c-sections.
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| G - February 11 |
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Thanks for the responses, im glad im not the only one who feels this way!
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No, you're not the only one who feels this way. One thing that I have had to keep in mind, though - our bodies did NOT fail us. It does NOT reflect on us as women, as mothers, or as people, that we had necessary c-sections. I had a very difficult pregnancy, and an even more difficult labor/delivery...every other woman in my family breezed through their pregnancies and labor/deliveries, and some of them (most notably my mother) seem to think that I was an alarmist, and melodramatic, and simply making up some of my complications and discomfort for the attention. Even the ladies on this site can be less than kind, especially when they make such comments as "get over it, at least you have a healthy baby, and your scar will fade, but you shouldn't care because no one will ever see it anyway." It's hard when faced with such rudeness and unkindness, when all you're looking for is someone to tell you that you are not less of a person for feeling the way you do, and that your feelings are valid. So...yeah...sorry for my ramble...I think I had a point when I started, but I've long since forgotten what it was.
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| djh - February 12 |
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I too, many years later, feel as though my children's births were not "mine". It is surreal to be pregnant, then from behind an operating screen appears a baby, apparently YOUR baby...I have come to terms with much of the issues with c-sections, but I will always feel a sadness, an emptiness that I never could even get ONE baby out through my own body. Jamie and G, you are not strange, or unusual or "bitter", I agree with you 100%, in spite of our healthy babies, we have a right to our feelings.
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| G - February 12 |
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Thanks ladies. I really hope that I get the chance to have a VBAC with my next child. It is something that I look forward too, hopefully my dr. will agree.
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I was and still am very dissapointed that my delivery ended in c-section. I was in labor for 30 hours and the baby wasnt moving down. It was only 4 weeks ago but I still come to tears thinking about it. I feel like I missed out on the most special moments, and those that my husband says I had, I cant even remember. It was worth it, but the experience was so difficult that I dont want more children. I felt so cheated and will probably always be bitter about the way it ended up.
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