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Jamie, thank you for clarifying that for me. I can't totally relate to that, but I know what it's like to have something stolen from you. I was in the hospital for 3 weeks after having my baby, in so much pain that I couldn't even hold her. I don't remember the first 3 weeks of her life very well because I was so hopped on pain meds that my eyes were rolling back in my head. That was extremely traumatic for me and I don't think I will ever get over it, yet people seem to think my felings aren't warranted. They say things like "Even if you didn't know she was there, she was, so what's the big deal?" and "well, she knows your her mommy now, she won't even remember it when she's older." So, I guess even though I can't relate exactly, I know how it feels to have something taken from you... for you it was the birth and for me it was the memories of the first 3 weeks of her life. I'm sorry you didn't get that rite of pa__sage...

Well put, Kara. I agree with your statements. I was never one of those people with a strict birth plan or anything like that. I have a friend who is a pediatric physical therapist and works with a lot of cerbral palsy kids. She told me "Just make sure they get that kid out of you PINK and BREATHING. It doesn't matter how they get the kid out, but pink and breathing is the key." It sounds so ridiculous now, but her words were echoing in my head when I was on the operating table. I sat thru my Lamaze cla__s and they said "The odds are that one of you will end up with a C-section." I never thought it would be me! But you know, that is the hand I was dealt so that's the way it is. My 2nd C-section was a horrible experience, but I now have two healthy beautiful kids and therefore feel no sense of loss regarding the exact method for how they came into this world.

I'm glad so many of you had positive c-section stories. Someone recently pointed out to me that the reason I haven't gotten over mine is probably because I've been dwelling on all the things that went wrong, instead of the things that went right - such as, if my pre-ecclampsia hadn't been caught, I could've had a seizure and died; if I had refused the induction, if I had refused the section and continued trying to push...I've been trying to focus more on those things - what could've happened had I not been in a place where I could receive emergency care like that? So that's all stuff that went right...and it helps a little to think of it like that.

Hi vjr, since we declared a truce LOL, I thought I would say something nice about c-sections which is VERY hard for me to do...1) c-section babies can have very pretty heads! and 2) My c-sections saved both mine and my children's lives and for that I am truly grateful.

djh~ WAY TO GO!!! Thank you soooo much it means a lot to me to have you post on this thread!

to all you ladies and your precious children, and especially to you, VJR, I wish you peaceful and joyful holidays. If we all can enjoy good health, happy families and prosperity the world will be a better place! MERRY CHRISTMAS xoxo

Merry Christmas and Happy holidays to you as well djh!

VJR, I just want to say to you and to all the mothers reading... I am exactly one of those people that VJR is trying to help and she has done a fantastic job. I posted a question before about how nervous I was with my decision to have a c-section and instead of people helping me, all I heard was horror stories that made me even more anxious, nervous, and scared. You have to understand that some people have already made their decisions BEFORE they go to the forum for peace of mind.. VJR has helped me with her wonderful story and because of her kindness thought of other anxious first time mothers, she started a flow of excellent stories and Im sure Im not the only person she has helped. Thanks VJR you're doing the right thing... everyone has different experiences lets hear from both sides! and Ladies try not to get offended if there are actually positive stories being posted out there... we all need info and our decisions are based on that info!!!!!!!!!! Happy Christmas everyone.. Im 25 weeks now and looking forward to the arrival of my little girl.

mellycat82~ I'm so grateful for your kind words, and I'm happy my story has given you some peace of mind, thats the very reason I've posted it any chance i get!! I never want to make anyone feel bad if they had a different experiance and as i've said everyone has the right to share, but i really wanted a bunch of stories that were positive together so someone like you could get a bunch of positive energy all at once and not have to click around to other sites, or forums. I keep you in my prayers and look forward to hearing from you after you give birth!

mellycat82~ as a side note everytime i read your name i sing that song smelly cat from the show friends.... LOL

Ha ha ha. Well Melly was my maiden name! That song was in my head when I thought of my user name!! he he he

melly~ how have you been have'nt seen you post in awhile... how were your holidays?

well, I hate c-sections-- would love to do it naturally, BUT....I agree with Kendall...she had the same experience as me....going though basically both ...labor, and a c-section. I was in labor for 15 hours, and would not progress to a 10. The babys heart rate would drop every time i contracted, I didnt get an epidural until i was at an 8-9. (the anesthesiologist was in surgery all day) So I'm definately having a c-section again because I'm scared of having the same horrible nightmare all over again. But c-sections arent cake walks either. Neither way is really. You just deal with it I guess! lol

I had an emergency c-section with my son and am scheduled for another c-section January 30th. With my son I labored for 10 hours and was relieved when they said I would need a c-section because I really didn't want to push the baby out. Of course I don't know what it is like to have a v____al birth, but I would much rather have pain in my stomach than "down there". I couldn't imagine having to get st_tches down there, OUCH. I recovered very quickly and had no complications.

right now I am actually looking forward to scheduling my c-section, It is going to be sometime in April and my b-day is in April too so I think that will be my present to myself

Sometimes c-sections are a great idea. I have a friend who should have had one. She was adamant about a v____al birth though and after that she had to get her a__s reconstructed. I would much rather have a small scar on my bikini and some bloating and pain than have a droopy, leaky a__s. After her birth I was terrified to have my babies v____ally so when the time came for them to say we've decided to do a csection, I was relieved.