Need Advice Please Pg1280450501
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im 22 and pregnant, my mum has always said she would make me or my sister get rid if we got pregnant, im 20weeks now and still scared to tell her, i only found out i was pregnant the other day, i was feeling dizzy and went to the docs to find this out.
I havnt told my boyfriend yet because i really wanna tell my mum 1st but im scared to tell her because the family have been fighting and my sister has a strong view on rasing a child wen your not married, and my mum always sides with her. any advice? i dont know who else i can tlk to about this
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Sympathy. Your family seems to have its share of opinionated people. My guess is you have been operating in some kind of denial for several months. The 15 year old daughter of a friend was in the same boat until 21 weeks. Your mum's "get rid of" lecture is a sometimes standard threat intended to keep daughters chaste. When she learns she is about to become a grandmother her tune will probably change. At 20 weeks you are pretty much past the termination option - you should soon be feeling movement. Screw up your courage and get your mum alone to break the news. You might try starting the conversation "Mum, can you help me with a tricky situation?" "Sister Jane is so adamant about single motherhood I need you to help me persuade her that it is not such a bad thing after all." GL!
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I sympathize for you and your situation. I can't really give you on advice as to what to do with your pregnancy because that is a decision that should be made between you and your boyfriend. However, as Grandpa Viv stated, you are past your termination options. I will say this, however, you are 22 and you are an adult so you are able to make your own choices even if they are not the choices your family would like to make for you. I wish you the best!
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I'm from a family of very, and I do mean VERY, opinionated women as well. However, what I have noticed from this is that it's contagious. Chances are you have a lot of your own opinions about everything. Sweetheart, you are 22 and pregnant. It's not the end of the world. You could've been 15 and pregnant nowadays. It doesn't matter how others may feel about your pregnancy. How do YOU feel about it? You haven't said anything about how you feel about it besides being scared of telling your mother. Collect your own thoughts before you share this information. Good luck with everything and congrads! :) P.S. I'm sure your mother will come around. When my mother seen me with my first she was a little taken aback but that's because, to them, we are still THEIR little girls.
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