Vasectomy Effectiveness Question
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Vasectomy effectiveness question?
I have a friends with benefits situation, I am a 47 yr. woman (chances of getting pregnant at this age is 5%) and my BF is 35. We have been together 2 1/2 months and he INSISTS on using condoms even though he had a vasectomy (effectiveness is 99%) at 23 and I have missed 2 periods since Sep 09. He said when he had the vasectomy done the Dr. told him since he had the clamp procedure done there was a slight possibilty that he could get someone pregnant. I told him they have to say that for legal reasons and he is worring way too much. My ex of 17 yrs had a vasectomy after the first year of marriage and so did another boyfriend I had at 19. I told him if I was going to get pregnant it would have been with these 2 guys as we used no protection. He doesn't even let me play with his p__s on my vulva for fear I will get pregnant! Who is right?
And for the record it has NOTHING to do with STD's as I have only been with one man in 24 years before him, and was tested for everything for my BF to prove I had nothing and I didn't....I am very clean.
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Have you thought of the possibility that he has occasional outbreaks of an STD and does not want to chance infecting you? Anyhow, between the vasectomy and your age, I think the chance of pregnancy is vanishingly small. The chance of your having irregular periods is increasingly great. Have fun!
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He was tested also. He has ONLY been with a total of 8 women in his life and wore a condom with all of us except the one women who had a hysterectomy. We are both extremely clean and monogamous. So this isn't a matter of STD's at all but his imaginary fear of producing a child he has never wanted (why else would he get fixed at 23?) nor does he believe in obortion.
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So he is a little obsessive - it might show in other behaviors, too. I suppose he could go back for a more complete procedure, or you could get yourself fixed if that would satisfy him. Finally, you could trade him in for a more liberal model. GL!
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