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i dont think ur screwed per se. its probably hormones if your relationship has been fine up to now.

I feel the same way about my husband. Sorry to say. I'm 29 weeks. Trust me it's not my hormones

Js, I feel sad for you. I think your wife is obviously feeling insecure, and you should take a good look at your situation to see if you can make any efforts to change that. I think it is sad that she said the vows, but obviously didn't mean it if she doesn't want anything holding you together forever. I think you guys should get counseling if she is willing. And then you need to dote on her like never before and let her know just how much you love her and are happy to be married to her. Marriage can be a huge adjustment for some women. I pray that God will help you find some resolution. God bless you.

Your wife is probably afraid that she'll lose this baby too, and wants you to tell her that even without a child, you want to spend your life with her. She might be angry if you weren't as upset about losing the first baby as she was, or if you didn't show how upset you were. It could be hormones too...I was a total b___h to my husband during my first pregnancy (still think he deserved it, but that's probably my hormones talking). Whatever you do, don't suggest to her that it could be her hormones...there's nothing that can make a pregnant woman angrier that that.

I do dote on her... I've done it from forever and it hurt me more than her in the loss of the first pregnancy. She has said to others that it was for the best. When she isn't pregnant we get a long great, but when she is pregnant she hates me. She won't do counseling because she said she doesn't care what anyone says she isn't going to change. It really hurts to know she has her exit plan so mapped out down to selling her wedding ring and what how long she will pay for rent with the money she gets. She says that I live in a dream world and she won't get caught unprepared.

She really may calm down once she's past her first trimester. Being pregnant feels like PMS, only about ten times worse. It's also really stressful not being in control of what your body is doing, and worrying because everything you do now affects another person. Saying she'll sell her wedding ring to pay the rent doesn't sound like the most calm, reasonable thing in the world...when I've been mad at my husband, and imagining living on my own, I know the price of a wedding ring won't pay the bills for very long. She probably knows it too, but it's the one thing she can say to hurt your feelings. Maybe the best thing to tell her for now is that you want her to do whatever she needs to in order to be happy, but that you hope she'll stay with you throughout her pregnancy, because otherwise you'll be terribly worried about her. Then after she has the baby, maybe she'll be back to being her usual sweet self.

Js... just want you to know that I am praying for you and will continue to keep you in prayer. My heart is really burdened for you and your wife. I hope you find some answers.

Was she looking forward to having children when you talked about it before marriage? I'm just wondering if she's taking it out on you because she just isn't ready yet. I think counseling might help, but if she won't go, I don't know what to tell you. I think you have to wait it out. Just keep talking to her about it. Ask her what she thinks could be better about your relationship. If she says "you never take out the garbage" you'll know that it is less serious than if she says something that is a real breaking point kind of thing. Best of luck to you!

I am kinda similar, me and my husband were pregnant b4 we were married but found out after we were married for about a month. Lately i look at him and say i dont want us to be just staying together because im pregnant, i always tell himt hat, i know that with me being pregnant i have been more moody. One second i want my husband to hold me and then next i wnat him to just go away. Ive been having a hard time. But my best bet with your wife is just to be there for her no matter what and try to understand waht she is going thourgh, you never know maybe it will get better! BEST OF LUCK!!!!

I dont understand why women say such mean things. You can only blame horemones so much, there is no reason to sit here and verbally abuse a person you say you love. I dont care how hormonal i was i would never call my wife names or say its over or our relation isnt strong, what a mean thing to say. Women think because they are pregnant it gives them some right to be frickin mean all the time and it doesnt, yes being cranky is expected but saying things like what this lady has told js is downright mean, if he would've said that to his wife everyone would say oh your a b___thole, but because its woman, its horemones, you have control of your tongue, bottom line, there is no exscuse, yelling about being in pain or sick or even a lash out is fine. but attacking the relationship and saying you dont love someone is just wrong, no matter what.

I agree with you Kaleb. I just don't think my wife digs me. Which I'm to the point of saying cool. I can handle that. I know i'm alright even if she doesn't like me. We have a lot of problems. We only new each other for 3 weeks before we got married. No we didn't get married because she was preg. We are two very different people.

JS i feel for you man, im sure you guys didnt get married cuz she was preg. Mabye you guys rushed into it before you really knew each other you know? im not saying that its over or you should give up on the contrary im suggesting you have a nice long talk with your wife and see if shes serious about these claims. I just dont think its right that shes saying mean things like this to you, as i said, yes preg. women are cranky, but saying things to this degree is innapropriate and un-called for, like i said you have control of your tongue. But man i really do wish you the best of luck, i hope things work out, if they dont, then do your best to raise that baby man. but dont exscuse her for what shes saying as "just horemones" because its wrong, horemones or not, its mean and cold.