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PS IM ONLY 16 AND HES 19! HELP, PLEZE???? KIRSTY

Kirsty - you don't need a guy's advice for this. There is no excuse a man has to hit a woman - ever. Yes, you can do better. You deserve better and so do your twins. Get the hell out of there - and do it now.

i want to no y he is doin this, im sick of it, can someone tell me y???? kirsty

Before did he cuss at you a lot. Call you names, put you down. Usually people start out with words then physically turn abusive. You don't need any answers as to why he is doing this but you do need to get out of there asap. Think about how he may start treating your babies. It sounds like a controlling jealousy issue.

maybe thats why because you are still children!!

How does their age make you think that he's hitting her? That's obsurd. As I said before guys like that start as being mentally and verbally abusive then they get physical. Seeing how you just had twins that would make him very jealous and take it out on you.

to HannahBaby...I can see where you are coming from, if you grew up around abuse, you would think it is normal for a certain age. However, there is no acceptable reason for anyone to ever beat someone else. Whether they are 19 or 50, it should never never happen!! If I am around someone even talking about "beating" someone, that tells me a lot about that person. They have anger issues, NOT age issues!! Kirsty...if you are living together, you need to move out and if you are not, you need to tell him he needs to stay away from you and your children until he gets help. Doc_ment everything he says and does that is harmful/hurtful so you have that information for the police/courts or it may end up being your word against his. If you have anyone who has seen what he has done(in person, not just the after-effects), have them write a statement of what they have seen. You WILL need this if he causes any problems with the courts. For now, the most important thing is for you and your babies to get away from him and stay away from him so you can keep yourself and the babies safe. Good luck, and if you do not have family to support you, let us know where you are and we can help you find local support services.

My only point about the age was the fact that he is a 19year old boy, with the patience and att_tude of a 19 year old boy (obviously) A man of any age can beat up his girlfriend. This boy doesnt have to capabilites to handle his emotions in a mature and reasonable way. I have known a few "boys" who were physically abusive at one time and are now wonderful husbands. its about maturing, and unfortunatly i dont think this boy is mature enought to be a father to these babies, or a husband to this mother

Thanks to everyone who posted an answer, the only people who see it happen are the neighbours and my brothers. Kirsty

So your brothers and your neighbors have seen it happen and none of them have done anything about it?

Kirsty-you need to get out of this situation ASAP. You need to report the abuse to the police. If you live at his house, you need to leave. You need to focus on taking care of your children and to do that, you need to be able to take care of yourself. To take care of yourself, you need to remove yourself from this situation. If you saw a stranger hitting his girlfriend in front of their children would you think it was acceptable? Good luck, and do what is best for you--leave.

You don't need a guys advice here. You need your head examed if your gonna put up with it. You could do SOOOO much better. Don't be afraid to step out of the situation just because you have a set of twins and your only 16. You have got to take care of yourself and your babies first and foremost. Don't let your children grow up seeing this. Break that chain NOW. Get away. There is all kinds of gov't help out there for single, young parents. Sweetie PLEASE get out .