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At the beginning of November 05 My wife found out she was pregnant. I was so excited looking forward to the baby. However, she has had a very weird att_tude to me and acted different. She didn’t want me to go to the first doctor appt. I confronted her and she broke down and told me that baby might not be mine. She didn’t want me to go tot the doctor appt. for fear I would figure the dates out. Well, here is what I have been given for dates.
Her LMP was about Sep 29. Her due date is July 06, 06. According to most pregnancy calculators I have used those put conception date around Oct. 13, 05. We did have s_x that week, She cheated on me one time on the night of Oct. 17, 05. She claims to be really drunk and not remember much, but figures it was unprotected. And then around the begging of November she takes a HPT and its positive. I am still leaning towards getting a DNA test after the baby is born, but I cant wait. She avoids the issue.
Anybody that is good at figuring dates out, could you please help ease my mind?
Mike
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I agree with you... It looks like she concieved on Oct. 17th. That means she would have had s_x anywhere from Oct. 12-18th. Hope that helps! Good luck to you!
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even if it is or is not , be a good father . bring it up knowing you was there for him/her/possibly them , if you want to know just for curiosity , seek a dna test .
Never let a child be without a loving father
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Since your wife had s_x with you and with someone else during that month's cycle, there's really no way except a dna test that will give you the answers that you seek. This company does non-invasive prenatal paternity testing, using a sample of the mother's blood: http://www.genetestlabs.com/index_prenatal.htm (remove any dashes, leave the underscore) I'm sure it isn't cheap, but it would provide you with an answer. You need to ask yourself what you will do if the baby isn't yours...are you going to leave your wife if the baby is the result of her one-night stand, or are you going to forgive her infidelity and raise the baby as your own? If your marriage depends on the baby being yours, you should find out. Otherwise, if you are going to stay with your wife and the child regardless of paternity, it might be better not to know. Ask yourself if you would treat the child the same way if it weren't yours. This is another tough topic, but since your wife had (probably) unprotected s_x with someone else, you should both be tested for STD's.
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From that company the Non-Invasive Prenatal Paternity Testing
$ 990, and if you have multiple father choices Each additional putative father
cost's $ 150
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Thank you all for the help. I know I have alot of thinking to do. I know I still love her and I am willing to work through this, otherwise I would have been gone a long time ago.
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Mike , good luck, i never met my bio dad, my step dad is my real dad , and im thankful for having him there , the only thing i do sggest at a time at age 16 is to tell them what happened ,,stick with it and be proud you never would leave
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