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I have been dating a girl for 1 year now. I have always had some problem with her s_xual past. but love here very much and accept it.
2 months ago i called her a s___t twice (am very sorry for that), at the time she just ignored it and all was fine. at the same time we planned pregnancy and she did get pregnant. Once we found out i freaked out and got scared, i have told her twice to get an abortion. I do regret it. We have agreed for her to give me a last chance. Since that time she didnt say "i love u", but told her sister she loves me very much. I the past 10 day (9 weeks pregnant) she says that she doesnt want a relationship with me and she is thinking about it. when 10 days ago she said that she thinks everything will be ok with us and we will stay together.
How much of here currect behavior is effected by hormones? I know i was wrong i would like to fix things up. what should i do? why did she changed her mind in a matter of days? are those the hormones?
I need help i cant be losing her and the baby.
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I don't think anybody can really tell you what to say to her only you know best in that department but it would probably help if you made things a little more clear for her. Even when you are planning on getting pregnant it is scary for some at first to except all the changes that are going to have to be made. The best thing for you to do is to let her know that you really want this baby and a future and that you are prepared for the responsibilities that come along with it. I think that will help ease her a bit more. Just cause a person says things might not work out does not mean she stopped loving you. She is probably scared and trying to think what is best for the baby. Her hormones are probably going crazy right now as well making her doubt all kinds of different things you alone are probably not the only thing she is not sure of. All you can do is be there for her and support try to make yourself involved in the pregnancy by going to prenatal appointments and so on. Just try to prove to her that you indeed want her and the baby in your future. She probably just needs to see you are serious about this pregnancy. I have two children and currently 13 weeks with our third. My second child I considered an abortion at first I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship and got pregnant the first time me and my husband were together. It was really scary at first and when i told him about my considerations he felt it was because I did not want to be with him. Well I never ended up having an abortion thank god.I have the most beautiful baby boy. After I told him that I decided I ws going to keep the baby and we talked more he realised it had nothing to do with how I felt about him. Anyways I think what you need to do is talk as much as possible to her about why you felt that way at first and what you want now for the two of you and your baby! I don't know if this helped you any or if it was just me rambling. i hope the best for the three of you. GOOD LUCK!
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Some of this might be hormones and some of it might be that she is scared. At any rate I agree with dedaa that you need to talk to her and rea__sure her that you want this baby, that you love her and want to be with her. After you say this, however, you need to follow through with your actions, show her! Talk is cheap. Plus I think you really need to think about what you say before you say it. My DH and I have been together for almost 12 years and he would NEVER call me a s___t, he loves and respects me too much. Good Luck
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