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p___n is fine for many reasons, the main one being when your woman doesn't want anything to do with s_x. it's like some women don't understand it can't just NOT happen, and if she ain't gonna do it, i will. the secondary reason is when she refuses your main fantasy and you feel the need to enjoy said fantasy. what do you do? jerk to it and get some sleep. problem solved.
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lol. Poor Adam. If it was put a little more eloquently, I'd say I agree with you. I know my guy watches p___n and over time I've learned that its just one of those things I don't need to know about. If I stuck my nose in the details my feelings would get hurt, just like I'm sure his would be if he ever saw me dance with another guy at a club. Our hearts are in the right places and thats all that matters.
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So it's OK to do something inappropriate as long as the other person in the relationship doesn't know about it? When I got married, one of the vows I took and to me one of the most important was to respect and honor my wife all the time, 24/7.
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6 Weeks after I had my daughter that My Ex begged me to get pg because he wanted a family. I told him that my first Husband was mean and would get p___n and cut me down while i was pg and just made me feel bad. He said he wouldnt do that he didnt look at p___n and blah blah blah. 6 weeks after I gave birth to his daughter giving up my body I walked in on him watching and jerking off to p___n. I didnt trust him after that. It wasnt the p___n it was that he lied and it made me feel so bad. I spent 4 years in a marriage I didnt trust . IT sucked. If finaly got remarried and now am having another kid. My DH knows i would kill him if he did anything to hurt me or lied to me. I Dont think its okay :(
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BTW that was the end of our great relationship. I didnt trust him so I couldnt love him. He was my best friend before that happend.
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Its not the end of the world that men watch PORN.. my goodness.. And to StressedToo.. I don't think ChattyKathy was saying it's ok for her man to lie to her and do it behind her back.. she's saying that she would not rather know yet she does know that he does it. What about you guys watching PORN together?? I mean whats wrong with that?? I love doing that.. It gets me all worked up huge and then we have amazing s_x after that.. I enjoy s_x with my b/f no matter what.. but watching a p___n before is s_xy I think. Don't get one that you woudln't like get one that is not hard core if that's what you prefer. I like watching rough p___n and I don't think there is nothing wrong with it.. Its something y ou do at home and nobody else has to know about. And Adam I agree totally with you.. Its better than your man going out to cheat. I think woman these days have more open minds to stuff like this.. but everyone is different I guess lol lol
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I've been reading everyone's posts, and I'm really encouraged. You see, I just recently began my p___nstar career and I must say that I was a little bit nervous about it. But after reading about all the married and attached men and women that enjoy p___n, I feel renewed. It really is a good job. I make killer money, which is good b/c those pesky chlamydia and HIV shots can get expensive. Unfortunately, most of my partners don't like to use condoms, so I've had my fair share of abortions even though I'm on birth control. Plus, you always gotta get tested. I get a new STD about once a month, some temporary, some long-term. I didn't think I would be very good at it, but my stepfather really pushed me to try it out. It was good b/c I got to get my feet wet with him, so I felt more comfortable. Overall, it's like waiting tables or washing cars; I provide the service and people can spend money on it that they don't want to spend on other things like birthday gifts, clothes, charitable donations or child support. I just try to do my part to help the economy and the good thing with this job is I can help improve economies all over the world! So, wouldn't you consider that I'm helping to make the world a better place? Why spend your hard-earned money on feeding and clothing starving children in foreign countries for just pennies a day when you can get off from watching a complete stranger for just $29.99 a month?? Well, gotta go. I've got a webcam to make. If any of you are tired of spending time with your spouse or reading to your children, look me up.
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Wow, Ca__sJ! I semi-chuckled while reading your post, because your delivery is rather effective. Obviously, you're not making p___n films, but you are making good points, though you left out the part about how, especially in this day and age, some women (especially from third-world countries) are sold into s_xual slavery (and, no, that isn't false information), and how some of those very films people "occasionally" enjoy may involve some of those women (or even minors...we won't get into child p___nography right now). However, quite frankly, I've found that people who really enjoy p___n aren't going to change. If a change takes place, it could be brought about by the pa__sage of time, or, as unfortuntely happened with McKitt, her life was drastically affected by it. Some people don't care, and just want to go with what's on the surface, rather than what takes place behind the scenes. You brought it up. Kudos to you for having the guts to do so!
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Yes, but for the right reasons. To be honest, I am very secure in my relationship with my husband, and we are s_xually open to new and fun things (NOT swinging) However, my hubby doesn't watch p___n unless it's with me, or with his guy friends making fun of it. He however does not watch p___n on a rainy day by himself just to "get off". If he did, then that's where I'd step in an question his motives.
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im not married or anything, but what i think is if a guy really loves a girl it should only be her to satisfy him, he shouldnt have to watch some nasty girl whos probably faking it on tv and who makes her money being naked infront of a camera while havin s_x is just wrong than it ends up making me feel like he would rather have someone like that, and i also dont see how a guy can watch another man have s_x with a girl, its not like its him, or ever will be, so if a man doesnt have his girl around to get off why doesnt he just think about her while wackin off er sumthing, i could never get off watching other people have s_x its not me or him, so wuts the point
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p___n doesn't bother me either...we have s_x very very often but he still likes to watch it. sometimes I watch it with him sometimes I dont. It doesn't bother me as long if he's watching it with me or by himself or with his GUY friends and most of all as long as both me and him are kept s_xually satisfied . I would have a problem if I felt like he had to watch it just to turn him on to sleep with me, I would rather know that I turn him on myself that he doesn't need the p___n but just just watches it for fun.
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Same argument could be made for justifying a lover. As long as both of you are s_xually satisfied and he is only doing it for fun then it's all dandy! Right? I'm not a puritan, far from it. I do, however, believe in respect towards your partner.
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no...to me there is a big difference in watching something on tv and actually doing it. It's okay with me if he watches it on tv but that doesn't give him the right to have s_x with other women. I watch it with him sometimes so I know he doesn't do it to be "cheating" in any way. To me ther is a big difference there.
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My pont is that your argument can be used to justify actual cheating. Granted watching naked women and actually touching them is different, the fact is there is another woman in your husband's mind, even if for a couple of minutes. If you are OK with it then more power to you! To each his own.
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Wow. I've read through this whole thread, and I'm surprised at the strong responses on both sides. I think p___n is only an issue if the two parties in the relationship disagree. (Just like so many things in the relationship!) My husband looks at naked ladies online and I don't care. I don't like to look, but I read p___n, and he doesn't care. Really it turns us both on. We have a very healthy s_x life. We've been together about 8 years, and this has been the case the whole time. I'm sorry to all of you who have experiences with s_xual addiction -- that has got to be hard. But I think it's just like alcohol. When you can't hold down a job, it's definitely a problem. A beer or p___no on the weekends? lol not a big deal.
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