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Don't you hate it when people judge you? I have a three year old daughter, and I am going through a divorce. I had an IUD, and I thought there was no way I could get pregnant. I did, and because my husband has more money and a better lawyer, he has temporary custody of our three year old. He is gone 90% of the time, so his mother is keeping her. I am not allowed to see her by myself. All I'm saying is, if you are not in love with him - and you KNOW you do not want to work things out - get out now. I never thought in a million years that my daughter might be taken away from me even temporarily. I definately hope you do not live in a small town like I do. The judges and the lawyers are usually friends, and they do not care about the consequences in the decisions the judges make. It's all about money. Good luck Sweetie, and I will be praying for you.

Not in love anymore? So, what IS the other man's name & what does he do for a living? Is he married too?

Update. I had the baby in November and am still planning to leave in a few months. It was not pregnancy hormones. I don't think I need to go into a reason on a forum. You don't live my life and know all the details and I don't think that really should have made a difference, since the question was should I wait or not.

I am not trying to be rude, but I don't understand women who can just stop loving a man, I guess I got really lucky with my husband we are both still head over heels in love with eachother, but zi agree with "disgusting" that it is a choice to be in love, once you have children it becomes natural to love your children and you have to keep working at loving your husband its not the natural thing to do, but it is what is right, its a choice you should make, you should search yourself and see what exactly you mean by saying you don't love him anymore, do you hate him? obviously you care about him and not hurting his feelings, if you care enough not to hurt him can't you make the choice to love him, get a baysitter and go out, make love have fun...you can stilll love him

Well not you, I can totally understand why you don't love your husband, I think you are a really good woman for putting up with what you have, I know a lot of women will tell you your dumb and you should leave, but in the bible it says let the faithless leave, so if he wants to leave let him, if he wants to stay let him, you are married to him and thats that. My mother-in law was married to my father in law and he did drugs and drank and wasn't a very nice man to be around, and she stayed with him, had five kids with him and stuck around, and guess what happened, one day God opened his eyes, they've had 5 more kids and he is the most respectable man I know. So keep strong and things may change, he is your husband and there is nothing you can do to change that

yes it is hard, even though I know thru Gods eyes the marriage is over but I would be dumber to allow him an easy way out and allow his mother to get her way or even to allow the young lady who is 11years younger than me, to think she could take all I have worked for in my marriage to accomplish, I am no dummy and I know that my child is my blessing and may be Gods way of paying my husband back , I will never know, all I know is after dealing with infertility for 12 years,God has blessed me with a daughter that will be here in may, so I put up with my husband as he did me and God has blessed me for that, it feels good to be able to celebrate mothers day in may, and be able to cry because I am actually gonna be someones mother.Love is hard work, I may not be in love with my huisband but apparently i love something about him,as far as making love, no way,I cannot get past what he has done,however if he leaves again,there will be no more returns i feel that5 times is enough,that is how many times he went home to ohio to his mommas house, when she calls he goes running and that makes me very angry, but if he does it again, he can kiss me and his daughter goodbye.

let me pose this question to you..if your husband wanted a divorce would you want him to wait til after you had the baby or do it right before?.....ok there is your answer!!

I feel bad for the father!

jem i think you are being cruel not telling him now. you are puting it off as if things will be much better in 6 months time. would you like him to stay with you out of pity? would you like your husband to think 'oh coz she is pregnant i'll have to wait 6 months till i can get rid of her'. i think you would prefer him to be honest and tell you the TRUTH. don't be fake around him just because you want him doing the wake up feeds up till at least 6 months. honesty is the best policy. people arent stupid you know, he will pick up on it way before the 6 months is up!