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Yes. Unfortunately, it will require her cooperation because she has to have either a CVS screen or an amniocentesis in order to collect fetal genetic material to compare with. He may be able to obtain a court order for one if she refuses...given that the long term impact of having a child means financial and emotional accountability for the child's well-being for the next 18 yrs.

Yes, as the previous comment states, CVS or an amnio can be used to capture DNA samples of the baby. My only concern is that a judge may not be able to order the test prior to birth as there are risks of miscarriage when an amnio is performed. You may have to wait until the baby is born before the DNA test can be performed. In the meantime, your son needs to prepare for the possibility that he may be a dad. My concern is that she may try to get money out of you and your son, then you find out later that it's not his baby. Stay strong and keep us posted.

i'd also like to point out that this girl is pregnant, probably scared and feeling alone. he did have s_x with her and so it would be kind and wise to try to go about this without making her feel like some tramp. now i of course don't know the girl, but i do know that you could get pregnant your first time but that some people will treat you like you must have been a prost_tute. i don't know exactly what you mean by jump the way she wants him to but if its reasonable stuff like go to the doctor with her and kind of hold her hand through all of this than please encourage him to do it, if its more along the lines of isolate himself only to her, give her every cent he earns ect now thats another story. i'm terribly sorry for this difficult situation but please remember that it is very likely that this is your grandchild so your whole family may have a relationship with this girl for a very long time and it would be in everyone's best interest if it was civil, or better yet loving. condoms have a 22% failure rate on average. (that i think is taking into accout improper use...like putting it on halfway through ect) anyway, while a dna test would put the uncertainty behind you all one way or another please go about it cautiously as it can be very hurtful and insulting to a young girl that the father of her child and his family thinks she slept around. i imagine you already have considered all of this and that maybe the circ_mstances actually suggest it but i say this because i just was on the other end sorta (i had a miserable pregnancy thanks to an alcoholic fiance...asking him to get sober and to stop spending so much money(including $400 of my money he stole) at the bar that i had none left for food and i lost almost ten pounds in my 4th month even though i only gained 5, was according to him and his drunk buddies "trying to keep him on a tight leash"...he went to rehab and things are good now, but the pain of what i went through at a time i should have been very happy is hard to put behind me so i don't want your family to be set up for more struggles than it really has to face. good luck to you all and god bless

A judge will absolutely NOT order a dna test prior to the baby being born. The test poses a chance of miscarriage, or mixing the mother's blood with the fetus'. The best you can do is wait. Your son doesn't have to do anything right now. He can go to dr. appointments and be supportive if he chooses to (which I do reccomend he does because it won't cause any harm if the baby isn't his, but if it is the mother will resent him for not being there)

I agree with the statement above...there is NO WAY a judge would order a prenatal dna test. Amnios are dangerous and are not done unless there is some sort of complication. Doing it for a dna sample would be obsurd. He had s_x with her...why is she being treated like it's all her fault that she got pregnant. Like your son said "he's NOT SURE" if she was with anyone else. Until he's sure, he needs to be a man about it. If he's man enough to have s_x he's man enough to own up that hey, he got her pregnant, now deal with it and stop being a coward. I hate men like you...ugh...

My son got a girl preg. she is 17 and he is 16, I want my son to be with her when she goes to appointments and such. I want to help them both and support them both. They both made an adult decision, so now they have to be an adult about it. Now my concern is the mother of the girl made it a point to tell my son and husband that we absolutely have no say so about what decisions are made and if she wanted to she could send her to *******Alaska and we can't do anything about it. My son I feel is my responsibility so he needs to help her and the baby. I feel her mother is trying to push us out of the picture. What rights does he have if any? What rights do I have if any?

i agree with sagekelli, its suprising how much the girl gets demonised for being pregnant at a young age when it obviously takes two to make a baby. 'he did use a condom' could be something your son is telling you jeanm because maybe you would go mad if you thought he had actually been really irresponsible and not done so. i know several girls who have gotten pregnant whilst their partner used a condom, they split, they dont work if they are put on inside out ( or so ive heard) and they can burst open during the throw of pa__sion. so i really wouldnt 100% rely on that. i also think its far too dangerous to do an amnio whilst pregnant, the chances of miscarriage are not worth it. i understand the desire to know, but i think that at the moment thats probably totally uncalled for stress and anxiety that she doesnt need to go through right now.