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A lawyer is in the works. Thanks for your support.
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OMG! I just read this whole thing and I have found myself fighting back tears..............You need to keep recieps for everything you buy for your baby and for anything you may buy for you ex. That will help you alot in court. I pray to god she is allowing you to see that baby and have her 50% of the time!!! If not you need to get going. I can guarentee she is keeping the baby from you, because it makes her look better in court....She has an opened end story to play with. If you have the baby 50% of the time. Take picture with dates on them. Take the baby shopping and keep the recieps.......Anything with any type of proof you will need. Cant you call the cops on her for kidnapping?...Well thats a__suming she put you on the birth certificate......Good luck and congrats....im sorry it took you so long to find out about her birth.
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Congrats...I really do hope that you end up having your little girl, she deserves so much more from you then what your ex is allowing you. I apoligize for her not telling you until 10 days after...that is completely unfair. But I hope all goes well with you and your little one.
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WOW!! UPDATE!!! Well things had been the same up until a week ago. Lawyers were in the works on both sides and I was still getting to see my baby on weekly bases until we settled everything in court. Then one day while visiting my baby at her moms house, she asked me to change her. I'm thinking this is a test. So I did and did a great job. Then my baby was crying uncontrolably and mom says here, take her, and she fell asleep in my arms. While I'm holding her, I can see that she is staring. But I never look at her. Didn't want to let her know tha I knew t she was looking at me. I think she was just sooo surprised at how I handled the whole thing. Since that day things have changed for the better. She is so much nicer and getting back together seems like it might be an option. I am happy and hopeful but I am taking it slow. In the end I just hope we can atleast be friends for the baby's sake. But things are looking good my friends. I have to say that God has gotten me through a lot of this. Anyone who is going through a tough time, give him a chance. HE will never let you down.
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I know this may be a stretch, but could she have been pushing you away because she wanted you to fight for her? Like, okay, he doesn't really want to marry/be with me, he is only saying this because we have made a baby together...if I treat him bad and he still sticks around maybe he really does love me...does that sound weird?
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I have to say that I never looked at it that way. I have made it very clear how much I do care and want to be with her. I don't know. Good question.
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I don't mean to "get your hopes up"...I just know that I had some major trust issues by the time I met my husband...even after we were engaged I tested him...it wasn't intentional, I just couldn't believe he loved me and showed him my worst and he stuck around....he still talks about those days right before we got married and how we glad he stuck through the "crazies"...
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oh i am so relieved to hear that things are getting better. i hope it all works out. god bless you and your little girl. by the way, what is her name?
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Thanks you. Still working on things but it's more positive than it has been. My beautiful baby girls name i Morgan. I miss her so much when i don't see her. Thanks for you post.
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I really hope for a happy ending to your story. Keep us posted.
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It's been a while since I've been in here. Wow. What a wild ride. I am the proud father of a a BEAUTIFUL baby girl. I mean BEAUTIFUL. Her name is Morgan and she just turned 4 months old. SHe is my world.
As far as me and her mommy, things have really turned around. She has come around and we are talking about getting back together. As you can see from the past, I never thought that day would come. We are working on it. I need some advise from you mothers out there. At this point, she says she loves me and wants to be together but since it is going to be a big commitment, she is wondering if her feelings are because she truly loves me or if it's just the thought of having the family. is this common? I told her to take her time and we continue to talk.
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Just so you know, those "hormones" she was dealing with while she was pregnant are still raging. They take about a year to go away completely, so it might be a while before you get your real girl back. I know I put dh (boyfriend at the time) through emotional hell after my daughter was born. Good luck and I have to say I'm so proud of you as a man for being there and all of what you are going through. My God if there were more of you the world would be a better place :)
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Wow. Didn't know that. It's kinda good news/bad news. I am trying to be strong but the thought of losing her again. I don't know if I can handle that. She told me that she knows that she loves me but like I said, she wants to know that she loves me for me and not the thought of being a family. It's kind of confusing and I hope that it is hormones. I just want to know how I should handle this. I told her that I am here for her and I'm going to step back so she can figure things out.
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Sorry, didn't mean for it to come off as negative. I just wanted to let you know that's probably why she's still so moody. It isn't you, it's still the hormones. I actually think mine were worse at first after I delivered than when I was pregnant. You're doing all you can right now by just being there for her and your daughter.
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Not at all! It's good news because I am not feeling like it's totally over. Bad news because I kinda just have to wait it out which is worth it. It makes me feel good knowing that she wants me to wait for her and not totally throw it all away. She understands that she is going through something she doesn't understand but for some reason she seems me at the end once she goes through it all. Thanks for your advise. I'm hanging in there.
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You are amazingly patient to even dream of taking her back after she robbed you of the experience of even being there when your little girl was born. Truthfully I admire you, you remind me of my fiance, he has put up with a lot of c___p from me, but he remains. It's rare in this day and age. Anyway, try not to focus too much on the getting back together, we don't want to see you hurt again, but enjoy all of your time with your daughter, and let things fall in to place naturally. God bless you and your little girl.
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