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so we just had our baby, hes a little over a week old. and i thought that after he was born my bf would change, for the baby, and want to hold and be around him all the time. BUT he doesnt, he took the first week off to "help out" while i rested and recovered. but instead he played on his computer the whole time, and i was stuck changin him everytime, feeding(beyond anyones help) him and comforting him when he cried...all while my bf played his game on his computer and occassionally asked "whats wrong with him" so needless to say i was p___sed and quite a few arguments arose from his lack of help. i know this is all normal baby behavior but for god sake he could help out with diapers and comforting him while crying. but his logic/excuse is i cant provide food for him(not using bottles) so im useless right now. but hes capapble of changing diapers and holding him so im curious why isnt he as interested in the baby as he is his computer game? why doesnt he understand that holding him and changing diapers is helping out A LOT? does he not want him? does he not fully realize that the baby is actually here and hes responsible for someone other than him yet? i cant deal with this on my own anymore esp when i have the father by my side, so how can i get him to realize the baby is here and real and needs him. how can i get hom to realize just bc he cant feed him he still needs him? how can i get hiom to help out more without arguing about it first?
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