What To Do-pg113535491618
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im 16 and 2 yrs ago my older sister lost her baby boy and now she says she doesnt want any more kids and since then ive been trying to get pregnant since 14 and i was just thinking that if my sis saw my baby that she would rethink about having kids but i think i can support a baby i have money saved gonna get a job and have a good bf who says he will help. do u all think im doing the right thing ? i just need help and just want u all to be honest.
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The only thing that will help your sister is time to heal, and recover from the pain of her loss. It is really sweet that you want to have a baby so that your sister will want more kids, but realistically your child would be a painful reminder of what she has lost. It wouldn't be suprising if your sister started avoiding you once you had a baby, because it would be too upsetting. You'll be a better parent if you wait a few years, too. Supporting a baby doesn't just mean buying diapers and clothes...you need to be able to pay rent, a car payment, insurance, utilities and phone, buy groceries and gas...a child is totally dependent on you, so you shouldn't have one while you're still dependent on your parents. Not only that, but you'll be supporting your child for the next 18 years at least, longer than you've even been alive yet. Also, you deserve some time once you're an adult, when you're old enough to do all the fun things there are, like go out dancing all night and take little vacations on a whim...you can't do stuff like that when you have a baby. If you have a baby now, you'll wake up one day in your 30's and realize you missed out on what should have been the funnest time of your life.
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nicely put jbear...i totally agree with you.
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 | pfm - December 29 |
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I agree with jbear.. your too young to worry about a baby. your sis lost hers for a reason. thats it end of story wait till u can support yourself and handle a baby.. its not a little doll u can put away.. when u dont want to play no more..... where is ur mother.....
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i can handle a baby i have money and a job and a bf who says he will help me with the baby
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Sweetie, it's not that you can't handle a baby, it's that you shouldn't have to yet. There will be plenty of time later on when you can have a baby. Right now you should concentrate on your education and your future. Once you have a baby, you are never free. It seems like the baby needs something every few seconds. I can't even go to the bathroom without one of my kids disturbing me. You deserve some time to be yourself. By the way, I don't agree with pfm, there is absolutely no reason that your sister lost her baby. It was a bad thing that happened to a good person. She didn't deserve for that to happen, it wasn't because of her age, God doesn't work that way. I'm sure you don't think of a baby as a doll and I'm sure you could be a good mom. It's just that you should take some time to find out who you are before you have a baby to raise. Have you talked to your sister about your desire to have a baby?
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 | mel - December 30 |
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you are probably just starting to drive-have not even graduated school yet--you have so much ahead of you and having a baby would make it so hard! You need this time to be young, dont try to grow up so fast. Your sister might change her mind, but it is just going to take time. It might make her feel even more sad seeing her baby sister have a child. Please be happy your young and dont have those kinds of responsibilties yet--enjoy it why you can!!!!!!
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 | kme - December 30 |
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Um, are you nuts? At 16 you should be thinking of college, your first job, an intership. Your sisiter may changer her mind later in life. However it is really not your choice to do that for her. You must be able to support yourself and a baby. A baby changes ever aspect of life. Trust me at 16 you are not ready. You only have one chance at life, make it good for you and your futrure baby. Maybe after college, a good job exd.......
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yes i talked 2 my sis and she is mad at me and says to stop but i wont i just want to make her happy somehow. she wont even speak to me right now
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| kme - December 30 |
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Do you blame her? You are young, and need to find yourself. She is prob. upset becouse of what you are thinking. She has been throght a hard time. Maybe she dosent want you to have the same experc...She will change her mind later when she is ready, dont try to be ready for her. Keep your head stright, tied on.
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I'm sure your sister feels bad that her grief is messing you up...Big sisters tend to be very protective of the younger ones. I have two younger sisters, one who is 16. If my 16 year old sister got pregnant, I would offer to raise her baby until she was through school (she's in college already) because I'm 11 years older than her, married and have my own kids, so it wouldn't be the hardship for me that it would for her. But it would break my heart to know she'd never just get to be a teenager again.
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i have been thinking about this besides i havent had s_x since like last month im trying to stop and wait besides i feel bad anyway i dont even know whats wrong with my im puky gaining weight loss of eating more sleep usually get sick in the mornings and like almost 3 weeks late so i dont know whats wrong with me
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and then it became a joke.
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