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You haven't been talking about the baby? Preparing? She has no clue? Talking about the baby will help.

My second daughter will be born this Wednesday. I have a 3 year old. She and I have read lots of books about babies together, and I've shown her each month pictures of how big the baby is now. I always refer to the new baby as "our baby." She was unhappy with the idea at first, but we've talked about it for so long that I think she'll be all right with it. I also resorted to a bribe: I told her I'd get her a Belle costume when she got to be a big sister. I've been telling her that for about four months now, and I bought the costume last week so she'd know we're almost there. I've been reading a lot of things about how to help an older child accept a new baby. Some of the things I've read are: when your child meets the new baby for the first time, make sure someone else is holding the baby so you're free to hold your older child. Bring a small gift to your older child "from" the baby. If you're going to be getting a lot of baby gifts, buy and wrap some small things for your older child so they'll have a gift to open if someone shows up with something for the new baby. Make sure you spend a little time with your older child each day, no matter how busy you are with your newborn. I haven't tried any of it yet, but I have noticed that talking about the baby with my daughter helps. Also, pointing out siblings in the grocery store helps too (Look, that girl has a baby brother, That girl has a new baby sister. Our baby will be a little tinier than that at first, Oh, I hope our baby is as pretty as that baby, etc). I think it's helped her to see that the new baby will be in addition to her, not instead of her (you know how little kids get silly ideas). Good luck, and I'll let you know how the things I've read work with my daughter.

Thanks for all the adive JBear. I haven't been able to discuss a new adition with my daughter. She is to young. She is only 14 months now and will be about 19 months when this one is born. I have heard of some of those suggestions that JBear made. I am just wondering if that is going to work since she is going to be so young. Any advice anyone?

My New Baby Annie Kubler | Hardcover | June 2000 ISBN: 0859539741 Waiting For Baby Annie Kubler | Hardcover | June 2000 ISBN: 0859539733 · Series Title: All in a Day This is a very good board book for your daughter to understand just pics of mommy going to the hospital to have a new baby. there is a series of books by the same author. Mine are packed away in a box phone you local library they might have the book. It is worth buying. no worrds in the book you the parent make up the story for your child to understand.

Thanks Lisa....I will go look for that book.