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Ok, my older son is two years old and my younger son is now 12 days old. My two year old is becoming uncontrollable! He has almost stopped listening to us all together. I was so ready for his to show some sort of resentment towards the new baby so this has completely thrown me off. He loves his new brother and wants to play with him so badly, but just doesn't understand that he can't. The problem seems to be with me and daddy. I had a c-sec and had to spend a few days in the hospital. That's the longest I have ever been away from him and when I got home it was like i didn't even exist. The only time he even mentioned mommy was when I took a nap the day after I got home and he cried because he "lost his mommy". I have no idea who taught him this, but when I got home everything was "mine" and on the way in the door he pushed me aside and yelled at me saying "NO ME FIRST!" which is so uncharacteristic of him. He was so polite and well behaved and I left for three days and he has stopped listening and became completely selfish. Plus my husband had to go back to work only three days after I got home from the hospital so I am left at home to care for both children alone. The last week has been exausting for me and I don't have the energy to be running after him. I ended up with an infection in my incision because I was up too much after getting home and it swelled up, so one of my st_tches tore. Now that I am finally starting to feel better and can get around more easily I feel like I have already lost all control of him. I really don't know what to do and I seriously think some one on one time with him would help, but I am br___tfeeding and not really ready to start pumping yet, so leaving my newborn is not exactly an option. Thanks for listening girls.. let me know if you have any suggestions. Has anyone else gone through this??
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Who watched him while you were in the hospital? Is it possible that someone told him, or said in his hearing, that you weren't going to love him any more?
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I have a 3 year old and a 3 month old, both girls. I had a lot of trouble with my 3 year old when I brought the new baby home. My sister and my husband had been watching her while I was in the hospital, and she didn't have an easy time with them...she peed so many panties that my sister went out and bought a 10-pack to cover the rest of the time I was in the hospital. Then when I came home my daughter was really hostile. She punched me in the jaw, and threw things at me and the baby. She also had a lot of toilet issues. She was trying to give the baby away to anyone who admired her...and one day we were in the grocery store and someone admired the baby and my older girl said a very bad word, then "people don't love valerie anymore" and just started howling...After that I kept telling her, "mommy has two girls and she loves them both," and when someone would notice the baby, I'd say, "yeah, valerie's really excited to be a big sister," sort of bringing her into the whole thing. It took a few weeks for Valerie to settle down, but now she gets along great with the baby, bringing her bottle or sitting and singing to her for hours. What I told her so she wouldn't climb on me and hurt my c-section incison was that I was broken and it would take a few weeks for me to be fixed...so she was telling everyone that I was broken, and once she even told a teenaged male cashier at walmart, "mommy's broken and she bleeds a lot on the potty," and I almost died of embara__sment. But at least she knew to be careful of me...Oh, she watched a lot of movies while I was recovering from the c-section. I know what people say about kids and tv, but it does keep them busy if you need a little quiet time. Good luck, and it will all settle down soon!
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Oh I have a 3 yr. old too and the first few weeks were extremely challenging to say the least. He was jumping all over me every time I held the baby. I was also so worried that he was going to bring something home from preschool and give it to the baby since he couldn't keep his hands away from him. He totally lost control and wouldn't listen to a word I said. He wanted to lay on my shoulder and take a nap and wanted to sit in the baby swing, etc.... It has been 6 wks. and he is doing great things have gotten back to normal and he realizes he still has me as a mom. It is hard taking them both places so I don't think I'll be doing much X-Mas shopping in the malls this year. I am bottle feeding this time so I can understand how difficult it must be to b___stfeed also.
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Lilmum- I am so sorry your toddler is being so naughty, especially after you were posting about how good he was right after you moved before the baby came. I am only on number one, so I can't say much, except that I bet he will "outgrow" this behavior in due time- at least that is what has happened with a few people I know. Do you have anyone who can help watch him at all? BTW- when did you have your baby? I had mine earlier in the month so I didn't get to see when everyone else on the Topaz thread had theirs. You had planned c-section, right? Well, I hope your little guy calms down really soon. Good luck.
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i have a 3yr old and a 4 1/2 yr old and my problem is with the 4yr old, she is just so naughty. I had a c-section 4 weeks ago but also had a hard pregnancy and haven't been able to do anything with them for a long time. She dosen't listen one bit and i even took her out of daycare one day while her sister went (that was yesterday) and spent some one on one time with her and it still made no difference, when the two of them r together it's a nightmare but when the younger one is on her own she's pretty much good, i'm at my wits end too and can't get into a parenting program until march next yr which isn't going to do me any good, she says she's naughty cause she want to go to my mums ( they stayed with her in the last couple of wks of my preg) when she gets to bad i send her there but then she's only getting what she wants! It;s a no win situation for me, please if u get any good advice pa__s it on, before i lose it. Sorry it didn't have any advice for u.
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I spoke too soon when I went to pick up my son from school today his teacher told me he yelled at her and was very rude all day day today. He was even standing on top of his chair at snack time. I don't know what to do. I feel like a bad parent.
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My daughter was 18month when i got my son! She was a nightmare to live with!!!! i had a c section too, so it was hard, my hubby would bring her to my moms before work and pick her up after so i could rest. but that was only for 2 weeks. She didnt take it too well. Today they are 2 and 3yrs. things are better. my little girl is an angel, most of the time. but she makes sure he knows that she is boss! lol shell push him and boss him. LOL but the worse is over. i am 16weeks pregnant now and i fear the worse with my son. i babysite a 10month old and he gets very jealous when i pick her up and cuddle! i hope he wont be worse then my daughter was.
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