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Rachel, I am bascially stating an opinion about b___stfeeding and bottle feeding. Don't take everything what everyone says so personal. It seems your burning desire to be right all the time is consuming this message board.

To Frozen- Do I even know you? I am also discussing b___stfeeding and bottlefeeding... just like you. In no way was it personal. I could care less what you do. I was just pointing out that the reason that hospitals and society are "shoving it" down your throat is because there is a medical benefit. Thats all. Your the one that needs to not take it personally. In addition, I dont see how posting once or twice a week const_tutes "consuming" the message board. By the way, I have much to learn in life and in this pregnancy. I learn something new all the time. In no way do I think or have a burning desire to be right. Perhaps you have me confused with someone else. Regardless, sorry you feel that way and good luck with your pregnancy.

I was working full time then I moved to part time since my pregnancy was a bit difficult. I was pulled from work nine days before I had my daughter. My hubby says I can be a stay at home mom if Id like to be but I would love to work a little at my old job. Unfortuantly they wont hire me back! So I have to go to the labor board and do all that mess. In NY its against the law not to hire back a person after they are done with maternity leave. At the moment our income is not what it should be. He makes anywheres from 300 somthing to 400 somthing a week but its not enough to keep us completly afloat. I would love to buy new clothes (that fit) but it will have to wait. My best advice is if you can actually afford to stay at home go ahead and do it but be prepared for less luxuries. If your going to try and make a budget plan always over estimate what things cost. And if there is a extra dollar or two left each month dont spend it! Save it. Also stash money away before you stop working. Try now to live without your income.

THANK YOU FROZEN. i AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAY TOO! It is OK to bottlefeed and babies on bottles are just as healthy! I'm also sick of hearing about this b___stfeeding c___p...

Skyfeather - why won't they hire you back. I came into a situation just like yours and I was wondering why they would not hire you back. My employer at that time said they could let me go because you have to be at your current job for a year before the Family Leave Act could take effect. Is this the same situation for you?

When I got pregnant I didnt know the first thing about b___stfeeding or bottlefeeding. One of my friends just said "please tell me you are going to b___stfeed," I didnt know what to say so I told her I didnt know she freaked out! She went on to tell me you better b___stfeed BLAH BLAH! I didnt know the pros or cons of either so I was like I'll look into it. I overall chose to b___stfeed because everyone was telling me too now I wish I would have choosen something that was best for me. I am a stay at home mom so it isnt really inconvient for me but it is if I wanna go somewhere because b___stfed babies eat more often. Plus it is painful. So like everyone says do what is good for you because your baby will live on bottlefeeding!

Breastfeeding is not for everyone. I b___stfed and bottle fed. I had no choice. My little guy came early.......I stay at home with my boys. Dh and I decided it would be best. My oldest son stay sick alot. He needs me. No, we are not rich with money. We are rich with love and family. It depends on your lifestyle. My family live very well with one income. It is trulely your choice to decide what is best for your family. Staying at home is best for mine...Good luck!!!!!!

Vixter: I worked there for over a year and was hired as a part time but worked full time then was called part time and recieved a raise. About two-three months after I became pregnant I moved to part time again due to horriable morning sickness were I was vomitting all day long. I continued to do my job and even though it was called part time I would work anywheres from 28 hours a week to 36. A week + before I delivered I had contractions and told them I was out of work till after maternity leave. I went back before my 6 week chechup and said, "so when can I start again?" he said he was looking for full time help only and because I had "left" he had to hired three people to do my job! (makes me think I deserve a raise) he said he'd let me know if anything came up. I loved my job and want to go back but I am afraid that if I go to the labor board and they force them to hire me back that my boss will be very angry. So I was thinking about collecting unemployment if Im able. In a way I could say I was laid off due to not enough work since he hired three others to do my job.

Always remember you have options. You could seek legal action as a choice. Since you have been with this employer for over a year the Family Leave Act would protect your job for upto 12 weeks for maternity leave. Or let this employer pay for your unemployment, I think you need to state you are a displaced worker to the unemployment agency. I think in any situation you hold most of the power not your current employer. Go get 'em girl!!

If your employer has less than 50 employees, he is not bound by FMLA. My boss called me in the hospital when I had my daughter (emergency c-section) and told me I was fired for not giving notice that I was having my baby early and that he would charge me $100 out of my last paycheck if I didn't return his key that day. I was hysterical...so my dad called a lawyer, who said there was nothing we could do, and my father in law called the SOB I was working for, who he's known for thirty years, and called him every name in the book. My coworkers told all of our customers what my boss had done to me...but none of it made me feel any better. I got a job I liked better, where they treated me like a person, and that made me feel better. My second baby is due in Sept, and I'm going to stop work this week. I know it's early, but lately it feels like the baby is going to fall out...I stand all day. I'm going to miss my job, but I'm looking forward to some time with my daughter before she becomes a big sister.

Is there any real protection if a woman chooses to have a child? I think not. I am so sick of the employer having most of the control in the stories that I hear from other women. Employers don't have to pay you for maternity leave, they don't have to do a darn thing, except find a way to get rid you so they can find a way to keep filling their pocket with more money. Greedy crooks!!

Vixter: I called the labor board and they told me that the FMLA only works if the place you work at employees 50 employees. But that means that if the place you work at is a chain it counts the employees at the other stores. There is also a stipulation that there has to be fifty employees within a seenty five mile radius of the place you work at so there has to be enough stores that are from the same company and a total of fifty employees also you have to work 1200 or it was 2200 hours. At the moment I am trying to find out if the stoers are within a 75 mile radius of my store and if ther are fifty employees. Knowing my luck there are 79 or something. I am worried that if I do get hired back there will always be the uncomfortable feeling since they were forced to take me back. I loved my job. At the moment my hubby and I are going to do some serious talking and money managment to see if we can live comfortably without me working. We basically need me to be a stay at home mom so he will have a better chance of getting custody of his other daughter. Thats a whole big mess.

Skyfeather - I am sorry to hear about all your road blocks, but somewhere there has be a break. Or maybe, this is just the opportunity for you to be a home with your child. I went through a similiar situation with my employer, I am still angry. In the end, I got to stay home with my daughter and I am 1 year away from getting a degree. So I guess for me it worked out for the best. At first, I was scared to death. I thought, how are we going to meet our monthly bills? I don't know how we did it....just let your survival instinct kick in and kick some b___t!! Good luck!!

Vixter: Thanks for your support. Im trying real hard right now not to panic. Currently we are watching a "friends" dog (I dont care for the person) and the stupid mutt chewed up brand nw baby clothes my hubbys work shoes and my only pair of dress sandles. I broke down crying because I had just bought a skirt and top to wear witht he sandles. lol I got over it but Im still hormonal I guess. Though I am real upset. Even though I call him my hubby we are not married yet. We will be within a month and a half and those dress sadnles were more then likely be the match for my wedding dress. Oh well Life goes on.