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lesley sorry....I would have kicked him in the b___t already....

I told my husband about what your husbands think and he says, "See! I'm not the only one". Interesting how childrearing has been perceived as a woman's responsibility mostly. They may help sometimes but overall who does most of the childcare thinking and work? Its no wonder why my friend who is back to work and gotten sick so many times from all the stress. She developed a huge bubble under the roof of her mouth and the Dr. says its from stress. She goes to work and then when she comes home she cooks, cleans take care of the child. She's exuasted. Her doctor recommended her to go on vacation to relax but once it was all over back to the stress again being a super-mom. It all boils down to how we were brought up. The males were pampered by their moms. When they get married many of them expect the same from their wives. My neighbour told me I, I don't want to be a mother to him. She's had enough. The only thing I try is to encourage him to do things by protesting. O.k I'm not doing your laundry. So he has no choice to do it. The only thing is, it gets washed and dried but then its just dumped into a pile in the closet and he pulls it out as he needs it. So, I end up folding it away for him. He may occasionally vacuum and clean the kitchen but he says your lucky I even do that much. Some men do nothing. Saying likes its normal. So its like their supporting each other. My brother-in-law says he does things outside the home like cutting gra__s, shoveling the snow so the work evens out. I can do that so why can't men work inside the home. We work at home all day like them and in the evenings too till the children / babies go to sleep. I too feel stress sometimes to think for every little thing. Once I got very sick and he ahd to take over on many things and he even saud "Now I know how hard it can be". Once I got better. Back to the usual things.

Wow, I guess I got a good one. My hubby would never be interested in this site, he would think it was women all babbling, but he does listen to me about it. He gets all of his child care advice from me. He also goes to work, helps as much as he can with the house work and the baby, and takes care of all the outside stuff. Granted, I do almost all of the cooking and cleaning, but I can be a___l about the way I want it done. He walks the dogs and takes care of our son whenever I tell him I need help. He knows the baby prefers me right now, but that will change as he gets older. I feel bad when he frustrates me sometimes and I get upset because he did not do something I asked him to do. Then I realize he is a good guy who is not lazy. He always puts me and Lucas first, and would never ever tell me it was my job only to do these things. I guess I am really lucky. his stuff would be on the front lawn if he acted the way some of your dh's do. That is crazy!!!