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Just wondering if anyone else has became distant from thier old friends since they became pregnant and had a baby? I lost my very best friend because she didn't seem to understand the concept of becoming a mother and a wife. She always wanted to go drinking and "cruising for guys" as it's called in my town. So I kinda cut her off since she refused to understand things are different now. Same goes for all the other friends I had. But now it's getting all lonely. Anyone else feel this way or had a similar experience?
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I know how you feel. Except I became more detached from my friends because I moved 12 hours away. But they don't even call me anymore or even write me an email here and there. It seems like at first they are all happy and excited and talk to you MORE...and then suddenly they get bored of that and stop talking to you all together. I feel guilty because I have a friend who had a baby last year and I didn't talk to her as much afterwards, now I know what she was and still is going through. I'm more in touch with that friend now than any other one. I guess the best thing you can do is find some new friends. =(
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That's been the hardest thing. I've tried to connect to poeple I knew in High School and they seem all excited at first then have difficulty knowing that my daughter comes first and "disappear". It is so hard to find people close to my age with children that aren't doing drugs (where I live) Cause I refuse to a__sociate myself around those types of things let alone introduce them into my daughters life. I'd consider the people here friends before those kinds of people. Sorry if it seems I'm a whiner I just had a hard day today and feel like I need a "girlfriend" to relate to.
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Yeah, it's true that once you get married and especially once you have kids, you don't have much in common with your old friends anymore. Sometimes it's not that easy to make new friends with other moms either...you start out being friends and then either you think they're doing things wrong with their baby or vice versa and next thing you know you're avoiding them. My best friend right now is my sister.
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I have one friend ( my best friend) who has stuck with me all true. She is actully helping me to find a job right now. Other friends have and are distant. But I like it that cause Kodi is number one priority in my life and friends are way down the list. :)
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I lost contact with most of my friends too. They're just not into babies. It started to happen when I got pregnant, because they used to like to go to bars, and I didn't feel like going because of the cigarette smoke and it was boring when everyone else was getting drunk, and I was the only sober person there. I made the effort a few times, but eventually it got too tiring for me, and I kept in touch with them by email for a while. Eventually though, I guess they got tired of me, because I have nothing much to talk about these days, except Nadya. they send me a polite email once in a while, but I know they're not really interested. I do feel very lonely. I feel like I'm only half a person these days. I used to have an interesting job and all my friends work in the same industry, but it seems once your out of the loop, nobody wants to know you. :(
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yea same thing has happened to me, one friend barely asked how things were going when i was pregnant, whether she cared or not i just wanted a hows it all going, she met my daughter once and is quite consumed with her own life and new man. Another i feel i am losing slowly since baby was born, she fully doesnt understand its not as easy to just get up and go anymore and she thinks i live too much by my daughters schedule. I can understand where lissi is coming from to be honest. Sometimes i wonder if ppl do find me boring now, even her dad. Maybe we need to do what kris suggests, meet some new people in situations to us cause when i partied hard my friends partied hard too, they were the same as me, now i have another kind of life maybe i need ppl the same as me again, makes sense and u arent alone brittany
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Thanks everyone is so nice to know i'm not alone. and i'm so sorry you all have to feel the same way i do. it's really hard sometimes.
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oh, i was just thinking about this. i've felt detached from my friends ever since i got pregnant mostly because of the drinking thing. i tried to go to the little get togethers they had but since i wasn't drinking i felt out of place so i just stopped going as much. and now with my b___stfeeding i still can't join in really because my baby won't take the bottle when i pump and screams the whole time i'm gone. once she get older i'll be more free but everyone's graduating from college and moving, it seems. i have no family here so most of the time it feels like it's just me and the baby, at least until my dh comes home. i am feeling more and more lonely lately. sucks big time. i just try to distract myself with TV and hobbies.
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