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Hubby and I went thru some issues with baby just being born too. Ours has colic and is very difficult. I am luckier than some. Dh is always willing and tries so much to help me and to take care of Lucas. I would get upset with him more because he was not doing things as good or as fast as me, and I hate hearing the baby cry. Poor guy tries so hard. He picks him up from sitters every day and has him for about 2 hrs before I get home from work, so he has had to learn how to take care of him. He gets frustrated because he tries so hard to calm him down, but as soon as I take him, he stops crying. So I can see where he is coming from. But I am lucky, he is a great dad. I think it will be easier as the baby gets older and more mobile and is less dependent on mommy.

So last night I get to go to the gym cus Emma is sleeping. I come back a half hour later and she's just waking up. My boyfriend makes supper and I'm in the recliner with Emma and she's sitting against my knees facing me while I'm eating and she's staring at the lights we have in this funky tree behind the recliner. He finishes before me so I hand her over to him and she's content so I go in to work on the computer a few minutes and I can hear him out in the tv room getting mad cus she keeps spitting her pacifier out but yet she's not fussing either. He finally comes storming in my office and I'm like, what the hell is the problem? She won't keep her pacifier in and won't go to sleep! I'm like, well who says she's tired! Ya idiot! Gees! I could have just cracked him one. I said maybe she was happy just sitting with you! Duh!!! So I take her and she sat with me while I read my e-mail and was just content. I was so p__sed. He was mad over her not doing anything. Grrr!!!!! I let him know I was p__sed too.

Some guys I guess are just like that, me well Im just realizing after reading all that just how lucky I am. I am a kind of young mom at nineteen with a 7 week old. My fiance is so wonderful with him, it is as 50/50 as it can get. Im so proud of my guy, he was never around babies when he was younger yet took to our son so naturally. Im sure though with some of you its just a stage and as they get a lil older they will become more comfortable. If not divorce em!! Just kidding.....Good luck all:)

I think it is very easy for a man to get discouraged in taking care of a baby if he is criticized or belittled. They would be more willing to put effort if they are shown how to react in a situation and encouraged to try. Otherwise we are setting ourselves up to do it all the time. Some men may prefer the wife to be primarily the caregiver because they think that a woman is much better at it and understands more because she is "naturally" the mother the one who gave birth so therfore she naturally is born/destined to do this better. Also because children spend so much time with mom, ofcourse they will prefer mom and give dad a hard time, so dad will just give up and pa__s on to mom. That's why its so important I think that from infancy dads should be involved too in daily routines. I also think that it is a myth about our natural destined abilities. Males are very capable too but this is very hard for them to accept because for some, it may affect their masculine manhood. Why should we feel guilty if we step out a bit to do something? Why should it be only our responsiblity?