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I should clarify that no one on here told me to try the Ferber method, I was referring to some family members. :-)

I am not familiar with the Ferber method, but I don't let Lucas cry it out either. I think he is too young for that at 3 months. I think sometimes older babies need to do this on occasion, but I don't really believe in letting a baby cry for too long. People do tell me that I should let him cry to get him to sleep in his crib. I just don't want to do that to him yet. It's so sad when he cries. He is way too cute!

For one Ferber recommends his method for infants 5 or six months old. It is widely misunderstood, but it does involve some crying. It's not the same thing as "crying it out" though as it is a gradual process. It won't work for us because I can't even let the princess cry for 1 second...... 5 minutes maybe eternity. On the plus side those who did it say it works and it solves the problem permanently

That's funny, I just saw the same on noon news! Ferber himself stated " The methood can be altered to each baby, you don't have to do it cold turkey" I don't like that methood, either. I never mind getting up at night..he must need me if he is crying!

I still plan to try it when my son is 5 months. I have watched all of the news broadcasts lately and have done a lot of research on this method, after seeing it be succussful for both family and friends. If it's done correctly, it should work in 3-4 nights. I plan to buy his book and read further. Many friends have reccomended Babywise to me and I don't think that this would work for us. In addition, my pediatrician has ranked Ferber #1 and Babywise last, since it focuses on getting babies on a schedule from day one and trying to get them to sleep through the night as newborns, thereby foregoing what could be essential feedings. There are a lot of methods out there, and it's probably best to use what works for you. The book Baby 411 is a great book and provides a nice summary of the more popular ones.

You know it is funny, I just watched "Meet the Fockers" and this is the method that they were using on the baby. I did not know that it was a real method. I have heard people talk about letting the baby cry things out but I do believe that it is based on the child. I am going to look into the Ferber Method just so I can have an understanding of what he is talking about. BTW, I sometimes let my 11wk old wine hisself to sleep, would that be considered the Ferber Method. Yeah, I think I better look this up.

I did hear about it on Meet the Fockers too LOL!!

Babywise should either be pulled off the shelves or renamed to babyfoolish. The authors (a pastor and an obgyn gone pediatrician) have no qualifications to write such a book. Parents have followed it to the letter and got their babies dehydrated. If parenting is such a chore as Ezzo says, better stay childless. BTW, the AAP has put many warnings out about "babywise".

Yes it was on the news last night. I missed most of it cus my 5 wk old was crying from gas pain. Ha ha! I didn't know it was known as the Ferber method till last night. So I wonder what SuperNanny thinks of that? I LOVE that show but I think most of those kids are much older. I noticed when there's an infant or baby under a year old she never comments on their behavior as they're probably too young to fall under any sort of "rules" so to say.

The first month, the slightest murmer after sleeping I would pick up and b___stfeed. My mother-in-law says its o.k let him cry its good for his lungs. I don't know how true that is. I could not stand to hear him cry and to this day if he sounds uncomfortable I'm right there to help. After all, crying, that's the only way they know how to communicate until they grow older and they can start to point, nod and eventually talk. I'm so excited for that but for now I'm just thrilled for his first tooth that slowing coming out. Later for discipline, crying (Ferber) is another story.

You may also hear the term "ferberizing" your child. I have the book "Solve your child's sleep problems" and it's got a lot of helpful and detailed information. I recommend it regardless. If you have the stomach for letting the baby cry (it does not develop the lungs but doesn't hurt much either btw), then this book has that method and works faster than ferber: "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth

sorry to be off subject what is btw?

btw = by the way. OTH is on the other hand. IMO = in my opinion IMHO = in my humble opinion

For how long do you let the baby cry? Is there a limit?

With Ferber, you start with 5 minutes, brief comfort visit, then 10 minutes, then 15 etc. But you can modify the time intervals for your child. Here is a good link on it (take out any dashes): http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/baby/babysleep/7755.html

You know what is good for your child's lungs? Breathing. Not trying to be sarcastic but breathing helps a lot.