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When I had my first child I lost touch with all my friends. They just didn't understand that babies need constant attention and they must of seen me as a baby bore. It didn't bother me in the slightest. If they were true friends they would of understood. Now I have a couple of friends who I talk with regularly, but none that I go visiting, or that visits me. I can't stand people in my house.

I have had this friend for 20 yrs and i feel like since my daughter was born its slowly sliding, i guess i am trying to hold on. I dont know if she feels the same but she sat there today saying it irritates her how i am with my daughter, i kinda live by her now to some degree. When my partner was around we would go out for the whole day, alycia would sleep a little while out but we still had a full on life on weekends. I dont wake her unless i have too, i go out after her morning sleep. I don't go out really at nite with her as its impossible, the whole bath, bottle, bed routine.. She is a placid wonderful baby and it just changes, have tried to tell her this time next yr it wont be like this u know but nothing sinks in, is it cause she doesnt have kids herself? It irritates me i have to explain myself over and over yet it never registers. I gotta ask why cant u stand ppl in ya house? Do u hang out with anyone still? Its sad though that since she was born even my partner left after 5 mths. Is it cause u arent the same person after a baby comes. He suddenly stopped being the centre of attention, You cant just get in the car and go anymore. Your baby is no 1, I just don't get it sometimes.

It most likely is because she doesn't have kids. Is she in a position where you think she might have kids in the next few years? If not, you might want to just...move on. It's always hard to leave our friends behind, but your life is going in a direction that she's unable to follow...you are a mother, and responsible for someone else, which by definition means you can't really be a kid anymore yourself...you can't do the 'kid' thing of going to bars and dance clubs and whatever at the drop of a hat and be out til all hours of the night; even one night out requires planning. She probably does see that but doesn't want to accept it, because she is afraid that accepting it means losing your friendship.

She wont be having kids, she is 35, single and yea we r heading in different directions and if i can see it, i am sure she can. Its sad though. Its funny cause i am not chained to the house, if i want to go party on i know her dad would look after her, sleep over in the spare room even. If i want to go to the movies at nite my brother would bath her, stay with her etc, I choose to be with her cause i want too be here if that makes sense. Maybe one day down the track i may go out and have a few drinks but who is gonna get up to her at 6am, u jamie haha... I am off to bed, thanks for everyones feedback.

Hey, I'd babysit and let you have an all-nighter out on the town, if you would return the favor!!! LOL

I don't have people in my house because I don't like it. It isn't a very big house anyways and with 5 people already living in it, it gets too cramped. I hate goign to peoples houses cos I know my daughter will touch their things, and I don't want to sit there and listen to people having a go at her for doing what children do. I don't mind going to my mums. She can be herself there. As long as it's not dangerous my mum doesn't nag her ot stop touching. My mother-in-law is completly different! As soon as I walk through her door she is complaining about something. I like to be somewhere I can just relax. I meet up with mtes now and again, not very often. If I pa__s them in the street I will stand and talk, I even talk to my old friends if I pa__s them. When we have children we grow up. Realise what our prioritys are. I was 17 when I had my 1st son. Most people were clubbing, getting drunk, pulling men. That wasn't my scene. On a night out I prefer to go for a meal and to a bar. Not clubs.

Lesley, where do you live? I think, if given the opportunity (as in, an over-night babysitter), I would get a hotel room...maybe order a bottle of wine...take a nice long hot bubble bath, and then go to bed. LOL I would just sit in the bathtub of my hotel room, and listen to...nothing... Have candles, and just relax and not have to worry about the baby waking up or anything.

I'm near Newcastle, north east UK.

I agree with the others. I would be completely livid about something like that. First haircuts are special, no one has the right to ever do that without mom or dad's permission.

Hey ally, well I think the braclet is a great idea. My daughter has one with her name on it, it looks so cute on her chubby arm. I'm not really sure what to get her but I know what I want my hubby to get her, well actually its for both of us. A ring with her birth stone and diamonds going around the birth stone. I'll wear it until she's old enough and then it's for her.

Thats a lovely idea ashley, maybe i should steal that idea hah. Isn't it funny my daughter is brilliant daily and now i want her to sleep so we can go out, she is giving me a scandal. I would gladly return the favour jamie and i think i would sleep in too if given the chance. I can understand what u are saying too lesley. Hey any of your babies do the fake cough? One minute she is cracking it, the next she is ok, she is a gemini though.

My munchkin always does that fake little cough, especially if there's a conversation going on in front of her... what a little attention craver, hee hee.

I have gotten her up 4 times and each time there has been a burp, they annoy me hugely and we are meant to go out as i said and she still hasn't slept yet, hitting 10am. I am hoping they are all gone. Yea the fake cough is pretty cool.

Just wanted to let those of u know who were nice enuff to reply to me that i called my friend today and told her how what she done was not on, she went too far etc, she apoligised if u can call it that and had the nerve to say 'i have apoligised, what do u want blood from me', she not long after hung up on me. So that is that, i am feel much better for it and i have no idea why she childishly hung up on me. I lost sleep thinking about the fact i was too calm with her and i am glad i let her know it was so wrong of her and her friend to do that cause i trusted her in their care, never again though.

Newcastle is that where the brown ale is made?

ally thats out of order, never leave her with them again