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We used the swing like it was an extension of our daughter. If my baby cried, I held her, I dont care what anyone says, if a baby cries they either need something or someone. My daughter is almost 4 months old now and she is now able to lay on a blanket and keep herself company for about 30 mins or so. She still likes the swing but not as much (I think its cause she isn't in control!) I did not like laying my baby down unless she was sleeping. Amaya never did really like her bouncy chair but the swing was wonderful! Anyway, I think you are doing just fine with your baby. Maybe she is just jealous because she and her baby do not have as good of a bond as you and your baby will :)

Never let someone tell you how to parent YOUR child. I hated when someone told me I was holding my son too much. The only way a baby communicates is crying, when it cries, it needs something!! Remember that your baby was in your tummy for 9 months and is use to movement and sounds so of course you need to hold your baby...you did for sooo long before it was born. I'm sorry I'm venting because it's not my thing for someone to tell someone else how to parent. Your doing a great job!! I held my son probably 23 hours of the day...seriously...I co-slept with him for the first three months of his life. You can never spoil your baby by holding it, you are only responding to it's needs. I bond with my son when I hold him, he is now 11 months old TODAY and is sooo very happy and smiley. I wouldn't go back and change one thing I did...hold your precious baby and love it up while you still can, one day he'll/she'll be out the door to college and you'll miss the baby days hehe. Good luck.

thank you for your responses. i thought she was giving me some advice b/c she has two kids that are 6 and 8. when she asked me if i put her down without anything, i didn't know how to respond b/c i thought i was doing the right thing by consoling her and going to her when she cries. this is all sooo new to me and i'm a bit overwhelmed and i want to do the right thing for my child.

Don't worry, the right thing for your baby is in your heart. Your her Mom and you know her better than anyone else does. It's hard being a first time mom, especially with not a lot of prior experience. I think your doing well!! I think it's so important to respond to your baby, she needs to know your there. If you create a loving bond when shes younger, she can grow up with the confidence that she always has you and when she needs you, you'll always be there. You should give your girlfriend that advice!! Good luck with everything hehe.

every baby is different and needs different things, do what you think is right for your baby, you are the one who knows her best. Everyone thinks they know best when it comes to babies, so sometimes you just need to smile and nod and do what you think is right

I had to try different things until I found what my baby liked. He liked the bouncy seat the best. Just follow your instincts, you will do great!

Babies at that age cry for a reason not because they are spoiled. If your baby wants comfort, hold her. And, tell your friend to mind her own business!!

I was told by a doctor that babies under 3 months cry for real reasons (as Q stated) and that they are not crying to manipulate a parent. I would try to console your baby with a diaper change, food, some tlc, or another form of interaction. I never left my newborn to cry if there was something I could do to intervene. There is not always an answer, but it is not wrong to try to figure out what your baby needs at that tender age.