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OMG I feel the SAME way! I have no clue what to tell you though because since my son has been born, it's just become a habit. My hubby trys to do things the way I want them when it comes to our house or helping with the baby but he never does things right. All I can say is I can relate to you in soo many ways. I guess if you realize that this happens to you, thats the first step in helping to stop it. Try to stop it as soon as possible because it's a habit for me. I do try to make up for my anger though...I apologize and whatnot. Good luck!

thanks b for your response. i thought i was going crazy. i thought i was the only one that felt this way. i try not to say alot of what i want to say to him like "you didn't fold her clothes this way", or "you didn't feed her like i want her to be fed", etc, etc. i bite my tongue and i remember that i'm blessed to have a good husband as he.

It took a lot of strength not to tell my DH how to father our daughter. Just remember that he is a new parent too, and maybe doesn't get as much time to see them as you do. If he's holding the baby, and giving you a break, just enjoy it. Don't worry about the way he feeds, or folds the clothes. Its mainly sleep deprivation and the newness of parenthood that makes you lose sight of what is really important. Good luck :o)

My husband took a week off of work after my son was born. I wasn't even out of the hospital and I was ready for him to go back!! It is better now (my son is three months old). I seen on the "Today" show this morning that Dads feel left out. I now feel so bad for the way I have treated him. There will be "date nights" at least once a month from now on. I think I need it also.

Just be thankful they are trying :-) I cant get mine to do anything to help. He doesnt get up for any nightime feedings, wont change diapers, clueless on how to make or clean her bottles and the list goes on. He will hold her so I can go to the bathroom and then rushes me to come get her if I try to do anything else in the same trip. Dont get me wrong, he loves his daughter but he is says he doesnt want to screw up so he just wont do it (nice excuse, he really is just lazy, hehe)

I also know how you feel.Everything my husband does got on my nerves and i havent even given birth yet.I would get upset and sometimes even be mean to him because i was always feeling irritated and stuff but since last month its kinda stopped.I tried to be nice no matter how bad he messed up things and now i dont feel like im holding in a ball of anger.I feel alot better to talk things out instead of yell them lol.He gets the point when im not yelling and just talking.It used to be to a point where i would blame him for everything.I would say it was all hiss fault and he would agree to try to keep me from getting upset because he saw this show on tv that said if he tried to agree and be on my side it wouldnt be as bad lol.Guys.......

Is this really considered breaking news? My husband gets on my nerves whether I am pregnant, just had a baby, or none of the above! Ha! Ha! Just trying to be funny. It's true though.....

Lol, you know sometimes i sit around and wonder what attracted me to my husband.It seemed like he was always on my nerves.I wonder if he just got comfortable and thats what made it so irritating or what but i do know that i love him and i wouldnt trade him for the world.He is the greatest.................when hes not on my nerves.lol.<3

Same here. Seems like my husband sometimes tries to get on my nerves. Some of the irritation went away but I still have my days. I think it perfectly normal to feel this way.

I feel the same way except I have reasons to feel this way. He does not pitch in and help me he is always saying shut up and leave me alone when I wake him up and tell him to lay beside her while she sleeps while I cook breakfast and get my daughter off to school I get up everymorning between 4and5am and he sleeps and when he gets home he sleeps hes always sleeping. I had my tubes tied 2 weeks ago and that was the first time he changed a diaper sense she was born almost 7 weeks ago. I get so exhausted and he just says my moma did it on her own.I rarely get any help from him at all. We are still young and in our early 20's and have been living with his parents for 5years if somthing does not change Im gone. He just waits for life to be handed to him and he just does not seem to have getting our own place and having careers a priorty and I do Im going back to school to create a better life for my daughters and if he does not grow up and change its over and honeltlsy I think I will do better alone.He has done me so wrong that he has killed so many of my feelings for him. We've been together almost 7 years and I want out but Im scared of what he might do. He does love me and I know that but he does not respect me at all.

My husband took a few days off of work too. I thought to help me? Everytime I asked for help he'd say I need to get some yard work done. Then he'd sit on his b___t for another 20 minutes while I was almost in tears. The one morning he said this and I hadn't slept in 2 days. I had been up all night and my husband got up from a 8-9 hour night of sleep. He said he had to do yard work and I went in the bedroom and shut the door. About 2 hours later I came out and baby was still sleeping and daddy was sitting on the couch. It was a rough first six weeks but he's coming around now. I think he realizes that I also work 40 hours/week and then don't sit down unless baby is nursing until it's time for bed. At first you are just so tired and it's a little bit of depression. I was never depressed about the baby but because my husband wasn't the perfect dad I'd always thought he would be. I think I had a mild case of postpartum depression but after 6 or so weeks I was fine.

My husband irritates me in other ways but he helps with the baby a lot. He gets off late at night and stays up until 8 or 9 am and he does all the nighttime feedings. Even when he is off work for the day he still helps out with stuff. There is no reason for these men to be treating you ladies this way. I wouldn't put up with it. Someone needs to crack the whip.

I think it could also be hormonal. Once a woman has a baby her immediate instinct is to care for the baby, and the husband is second. Just try to be patient and hopefully it will pa__s. If he's not prone to over-react, you could explain to him what you're feeling and apologize in advance if you snap at him :)