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hi my husband and i were invited to his cousins wedding and ABSOLUTELY no kids well guess what we declined their invitation...we could not find a sitter and we live in another state so we would have to leave our children somewhere else..NO THANKS and all of our family will be at the wedding, so if our children werent welcome were not going???? oh well good luck

Hi V- my opinion would be that if you can't get her to take a bottle you probably shouldn't go. You'll make your friend mad on her wedding day, and you'll be mad because you won't feel welcome. Just my opinion, but perhaps you should decline the invitation to the wedding and see her later instead when you AND your daughter would be welcome.

I think you will have to respect the bride's wishes on this one. I requested no kids at my first wedding and my ex's cousin's wife brought her under one year old son even after I told her no. My dad's boss's DIL came up to me and said she hadn't realized kids were allowed and she wanted to bring her infant daughter, etc. I had to explain what happened and a__sure her that I wasn't giving the cousin's wife favoritism. Needless to say, I was p__sed. Anyway, I think FF offered some good advice- decline the wedding and make a point to get together with her (and her husband) later.

i would decline the invitation. you can celebrate with your friend later, and if she's really a good friend then she will understand.

Alot of ppl get offended when told no kids, its understandable and it is a tough one really. Can you perhaps attend the ceremony, (church) they aren't for very long. Maybe tell her the reception may just not be possible or if your baby sleeps all night thru then do go perhaps even a bit later and for a short amount of time. I do think it would be nice to go to the church tho if u can't make it later then thats very understandable.

V : Now thats funny because I would bring the baby out of spite and walk up to her in her most vulnerable situation and say hold this for a sec. (the baby) and get yourself and as many friends as possible to take pictures of her holding this (the baby) Of course you may have to apologize after "Alot" but she is your really good friend .

I would not go. Breastfeeding or not, I won't go anywhere if my kids are not invited.

I had an adult only reception and I would just decline the invitation. We had an adult only because of the amount of children in our families. If we had invited all of the children it would have cost us alot more $$$$ and we couldn't just tell some they could bring their kids and then tell others they couldn't so we decided on an adult only reception. It was also nice because we didn't have any interuptions due to kids and we didn't have a bunch of kids running around. It was actually really nice and if the bride is requesting no kids I would just explain your situation and hopefully she will understand.

If you absolutely cannot leave your child, I wouldn't attend. For my baby shower, we had requested no kids under 5...we were trying for a "cla__sier" shower, at a fairly nice restaurant; my 6 year old niece was desparate to attend, and swore on her life she'd be good, otherwise it would've been no kids at all. However, not a single guest listened to the no kids request, and we ended up having more toddlers than adults - we were not-so-politely asked to leave the restaurant, and my baby shower ended up being pretty nearly ruined.

My friend had the same problem so here's what she did. She went to the wedding, greeted the couple there and then went home and skipped the reception. She just fed the baby right before she left and then when she got home and it worked out great. But if that's not an option, I would decline the invitation.

If you are not able to leave her I would not go. You should respect her wishes for her wedding, but your daughter is more important.

Other anonymous poster you are giving me a bad name! You are giving horrible advice just out of spite. I know how much fun it can be and at least you are consistant, but give it a rest. What you posted here was pure evil that not even I would do to another person (that I claimed to like)! ;P

Oh and I agree with the other ladies, your baby IS more important. If she feltt your being there was crucial she would bend the rules or better yet not force you to choose between her and your baby. That's a contest she should obviously lose, no question.

V I agree with everyone else give the bottle thing a try and if it doesn't work out in time for wedding then decline. I had kids at my wedding because my nephew stood up and how could I tell other people they couldn't bring kids when he was there but I'll tell you It was BAD they ran around in the way not my nephew but the others and they pulled down decorations poped my balloons ect I was very upset also friends of ours had their little girl in the church and she was sceaming so loud they had to leave so we could hear to do our vows so even though your babe would be well behaved I'm sure there is always someone out there who lets their kid run wild and ruin it for the rest. Good luck t