Pregnancy Info HOME

Tiffiany, I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm confused. How could you possibly know that you were 2.5 weeks pregnant? You can only know you're pregnant after you've missed your period or around when you should have your period at that's at 4 weeks. Are you saying you knew at 2.5 weeks??? That's only a few days after conception, that's impossible. And.. were you 16 years old when you were pregnant with twins, I'm really confused. I'm sorry, we are all going through loss and this is the strangest story I have heard so far.

Hello Nancy - Hope you are doing well today! After reading your last post - I'm coming to visit! My daughter has yet to see the ocean - so we're on our way! : ) I live in the midwest, so all we have here is cold and dreary! I hope you enjoy your holidays - I don't have a computer at home so I only post at work and will be back in on Monday! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers - I'm going to decorate my house for the holidays for my daughter while she is at daycare so that she can come home to some fun! Keep positive thoughts!

Hey guys. I posted last week on my pregnancy post D & C (reason for the D * C was because they could not find heart beat at 8 weeks). My posting mentioned that I had low progesterone levels but my HcG was fine. Well, I got my results back yesterday and my HcG level has fallen even though my progesterone levels went way up. I am going to miscarry ONCE AGAIN! I should have listen to my dr. and not gotten prego right after a m/c.

Cristina, I'm so sorry that this 2nd pregnancy didn't work out but don't blame yourself for trying so soon, there was nothing wrong with what you did, it happens. At least you can get pregnant right away again. So, next time it will work out. I understand, I'm still bleeding from my miscarriage and as soon as I'm clear and when I ovulate again, I will try again, I'm not waiting so we'll see what happens. My Doctor said it was fine to try right away. You have a 20% chance of miscarrying every single time you get pregnant, it was just bad luck. Don't give up hope, you can get pregnant and you will have a baby very soon. I'm trying to think positive. I'm impatient, I cannot wait for one cycle. I need to get pregnant right away again, that's what feels right for me. If I miscarry again, I know I had to do what I needed to do to move on with my life and not keep it on hold. You did the right thing by trying right away, you want this child more than anything in the world, what's done is done... don't lose sight of good intentions to have a baby.

Christina - my heart is breaking for you. I too miscarried. Once in my first trimester - no embryo, just a sac - then again when I was 5 1/2 months. Both were devestating. After both I had a beautiful little boy and walked through that pregnancy with both fear and courage. Now I am pregnant again and they have not been able to find a heartbeat. I have a little hope, they will check again on Monday - that will be the 3rd ultrasound since the 17th of November. Just remember that when you are able to hold your little baby - and I KNOW you will - you will have a love for that child that will go beyond words. Hold on Christina, I am sending you warm thoughts, hugs and prayers and I wish much deserved peace.

Elaine & Nancy, Thank you both so much for your encouraging words. It is so bizzare that even though you are complete strangers, you can relate to my experiences and provide such great support. Thank you both for that! I am now at the point of waiting which you all know how much it is dreaded. Since I just had a D & C, and this pregnancy is still in its early stages, my dr. wants me to m/c naturally. I am OK with this since it is early but would opt to have the D & C again if I was farther along. The BIG question now is, when is it going to happen? It is awful not knowing when your body is suddently going to rid itself... I could be anywhere. At least with AF one has a heads up as to what day. Anyhow, since this is actually my 4th pregnancy (three are miscarriages), my dr. wants to conduct some tests on me to rule out any hereditary conditions that could be causing me to m/c. This unfortunately forces me to avoid pregnancy for at least 2 months. It is awful because like you Elaine, I am emotionally ready to get pregnant again. I will be thinking of you guys as well as we endure this difficult times in our lives. As mentioned, one thing that those of us visiting this site are lucky to have is: the ability to get pregnant. That in itself is such an advantage as so many women can't even get that far. Good luck and keep in touch so we know how you are doing.

Melissa & Christina - Well we went in for the 3rd u/s yesterday, Monday, and they still didn't see a h/b. So the doctor scheduled me for a d&c yesterday afternoon. My husband, son and I went to the park right after the doctor's office and my son played and had a really nice time. I didn't break down until I got to the hospital. Then I sobbed like a baby. When the time came to say good-bye to my son and husband I had these horrible thoughts that I was going to die! Wow, this really has been an emotional rollercoaster - and I know that there is still grieving to go through. I have been here before. I told my dr that we didn't want any tests because I decided that it didn't make any difference. What I will hopefully take from this is that I am able to conceive and that in itself is a blessing. Now, how long do we need to wait until we try again? Am I ready to try again? What if, what if, what if...I hope the new year brings each of us new life and new hope and new strength. I cannot thank you both enough for just being out there in cyberspace! I do not feel alone. Thank you both so very much.

Nancy - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm glad your family was with you. I too chose not to get any testing done, it just doesn't matter - for whatever reason - it wasn't viable - there is absolutely nothing that you could have changed. Keep positive and know that you have many more positive thoughts with you from all of us!

Hey everyone - I got an email today saying this and it really made me smile - wanted to pa__s it along. "To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world." Cheers.

Nancy - I was only just there less then 2 months ago... so I can sympethize completely with your pain. Although the thought of having a D & C was disturbing, I felt a tad bit better when it was over with. I feel that I could move on so to speak. Two weeks after that D & C, I got pregnant. As you know, I am waiting this time to miscarry. My dr. says that I needed to give my body time to recuperate from the D & C. But I know that I was ready emotionally to try again and I don't regret getting pregnant right away. You do what you feel most comfortable with. If you can wait a cycle so that your uterus can built itself back up, then I would wait. But if you are anxious to try again right away, then you should do that as well. Only you can make that decision. Since this will be my third miscarriage, I have agreed to have some future testing to see if any of the m/c could be coorelated to blood clots or any other reason. But for now, it is waiting until this m/c pa__ses on its own. The worst part is over for you now and that should hopefully make you feel a little better. You are ready to move on.... And if you already have a son, then you know you are capable of having a successful pregnancy and you will soon have another! :-)

Melissa- Great quote! I totally agree with it. So many "strangers" have helped me throught these hard times.. And I only hope I can do the same for others!

Hi everyone. I was wondering how you are doing, Cristina? I am hoping that you are doing all right, and will keep you in my prayers. Melissa - would you please tell me how long I should expect to bleed? The d&c was last Monday and I thought it was tapering off but then it just continues. I know it will only be one week tomorrow, but maybe I am just impatient. Thank you for the quote, that was nice to read after all of the saddness it was really nice.

Nancy - Hi - I'm glad that you are doing ok - I bled a lot the first couple of days, it did taper off and then had bleeding and spotting for the next couple of weeks, upwards of 2 weeks. I think it really is different for everyone -Just make sure you discuss everything with your dr... any questions, any discomfort etc... Just so you can feel comfortable that everything is going as it should. I hope you (and everyone) had a good weekend. Keep us updated.

Hi Melissa - Are you and your husband going to try and have another one? I keep telling myself that I should just be grateful for the one that I do have and don't get me wrong - I really am grateful. The road to where I am today has been full of my own self will until I finally let go and when I did all sorts of promises began to happen. But I do want another baby, even though my biological clock has just about stopped! Oh, I don't know - what about you?

Ya know, I was wondering when someone would ask me that question - and I hate to answer it because everyone on this site so wants a child -and I have determined that I will not try for another one. My husband and I decided to not try for anymore. We have one daughter, 2 1/2 years old and after the last miscarriage and being 36 years old - we would not try anymore. I keep posting because I know that I didn't grieve like I should have when I lost the baby, and this site has helped me with the grieving that I didn't do originally. Knowing that I can at least talk with others about what to expect - helps me. 1 month ago, I had an IUD put in. I did an IUD rather than surgery for my husband, simply because an IUD is removable should we wish to try again. I think you should keep trying! If it is in your heart that you want to keep trying then by all means keep trying! For about a year or so I was so on the fence about whether or not I would have another baby or not. After the miscarriage - I just knew that I wouldn't try again. It was almost closure for me - and I just knew then that we wouldn't try again. I hope this makes sense. We went through fertility with our daughter and I think after the miscarriage, my husband and I both knew that we were done. If you want to keep trying - keep trying!

Thank you for sharing that with me - that is very personal and I hope it hasn't brought up any hurt. You aren't old - I am older than you are!! I have my son who just turned 3. It was not an easy road to get him, I had two losses and a myomectomy before giving birth to him. Then we just kind of settled down and accepted that this was going to be it. When I realized that the old clock was ticking very loudly we tried again - not really trying for the first two months, but the third month we did - every other day! That was it. I think we know that it probably was genetic - this last loss, but for me if I don't try one more time it would mean that fear made me give up. I know that is not how it is for you - but it would be for me & today I have to walk through fear and know that there is a power greater than that which I fear. The outcome, however is going to be the part I have to let go of and trust --- whatever it ends up being. Thanks for being here and listening to me ramble, Melissa!