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Katarinak, I also want to say, I know that you said your husband is not dealing with this very well and I understand what he is going through. When I first had the miscarriage, I cried and cried, than I looked over and say a tear in my husband's face. It changed me! At that moment I realized I had to make sure I wasn't driving him insane at the same time I was going insane. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you are over reacting because when you are in this situation, there's no such thing, but I also want to say, make sure you support your husband in this. Although its your body, he's feeling your pain. I know my husband did. Make sure you two are researching this together and that he's available to hear the pro's and con's of what your options are. I wouldn't been able to do this without his support. Once he start reading more on it, he became more and more in tune into what was going on at the time we were making our decision. Honestly, it was the best decision for us. Just the difference in my body feels good, well, except for the extra weight, but that means nothing to us! This weight is going to come off, the "thing" is gone! And we will now have a healthy baby!

Healing,Sasha777, Kat123-THANK TO ALL OF YOU for trying to help me. I was never so scared in my life to make decision. I am definetelly going for surgery, just can't decide if abd or lap. I don't know which Dr. opinion to trust. The one who does laparoscopic told me that he never had uterus raptured on his patients yet. And that is only concern my oder OBG who wants to do abd has with laparosc. Did any of you had laparoscopic myo ? I am daily prying for all of you. And for MSMNET.

Katrina, I have been reading all of your posts now for quite some time. I know what you are going through. I was terrified when I found out I had to have a myomectomy. Thankfully, I have a doctor who takes the time to sit down with me and discuss all options and we decided together what the best route was for me. He explained to me that due to the position of my fibriod he would prefer to do an abdominal because the risk of an unnecessary hysterectomy due to having a lap. one could increase with taking out the fibriod. I completely placed my trust in him. I was crying the entire way to the emergency room. I had no complications after my surgery. I got the go ahead to ttc in Feb. and fell pregnant in May. I have not had my fibriod return. I am thankful that I had the ab. myomectomy. I will never be able to have a v____al delievery, but will have my lil' boy in my arms in less than 15 weeks! Ms. Monet, take care of yourself. I am praying for you daily!

Kat - like you, I went to doctor after doctor, website after website . . . . I was frustrated, and it was having a negative effect on my job and my marriage. We were almost in counseling, because not only was I on this "research rampage," but I also had not reconciled the fact that I lost my baby. Again, I had an ab myo three weeks ago, and I feel great! Mentally and physically. Once I decided to have the surgery, I couldn't wait until the day came, because I knew the sooner I had the surgery, the sooner I could one day start TTC. Please consider all of the advice that you are reading on this post -we all want what's best for you. We understand that this is a difficult decision and that there are no concrete answers on fibroids, but there are women who had the surgery and who are victorious!

Kat, I wish I could put your mind at ease..but I can't only you can do that. LEt us help you make a decision..we can't make it for you put ask as many questions as you want..What is it that is holding you back? Are you afraid of Uterine Rupture? You don't need to worry about that..the Uterine Rupture they are ,ost likely talking about is what could happen if you were to try and delivery your baby v____al..the Labor contractions can cause uterine rupture..but your doc will tell you ahead of time you will need a c-section and to avoid you going into labor you will have a c-section 2 to 3 weeks prior to your due date. I don't remember where you live or what your situation is..but if you can please go see a 3rd doctor for a consultation..a 3rd opinion..if you can don't tell him what the other doctors recommended..ask him the same questions and see what he says. We all know what you are going through..but one thing we all agree on is you have to trust your doctor, you have to do research on your own, and ultimately you have to make the decision..I can tell you this..whatever decision you make, you will second guess yourself..it is human nature to second guess...there are pros and cons for all surgeries you just have to weigh which one is best for you.. I will see if I can find some info and post it here for you..

Hopeful24-Thank you so much for your encouraging words. Can I ask how big was your fibroid and the location of it ? In the wall, outside,inside of uterus ? It looks like I have only one as well pretty big 7x7. I don't know why my Dr. wants me to wait 1 year for uterus to heal. The other Dr., who wants to do laparoscopic surgery is telling me 3 monts. How can I not be scared to decide what's right if two Dr. are giving me such a different opinion. Wasn't your Dr. scared of uterus rupture, if you go and ttc so early ? I am so confused. But EXTREMELLY HAPPY FOR YOU. Non problems during pregnancy ?

Joker-my Dr.is telling me to wait 1 years,just as yours. Aren't you and your Dr. afraid of fibroids comming back ? Did they checked ever since surgery if you are fibroid free ? I leave in CT. Is anyone from around here ?

Just wanted to share this for all who need alittle inspiration to keep moving forward... Sometimes, we go through things and get discouraged...Just keep walking! "WE GET KNOCKED DOWN, BUT WE GET UP AGAIN AND KEEP GOING" 2 CORINTHIANS 4:9 (NLT) Pastor Mark Coleman’s son, Peter, inherited his dad’s love for hiking. When he was just five years old, the two planned to hike around a mountain and camp beside the lake. Mark told his son it would be a tough hike. He said they’d be tired, but they’d have to keep walking in order to make it to camp before dark. But it was even longer and harder than they expected. The little boy grew weary – but he kept walking. He slipped on loose rocks – but he kept going. He fell and ripped the knee of his jeans – but he kept walking. Finally, after one slip too many, he sat down on a big rock and started to cry. As his dad approached and began to talk, Peter cut him off, saying, ‘I know, Dad. It’s okay to cry – as long as I just keep walking!’ Paul says, ‘We are pressed on every side but not crushed and broken God never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up and keep going. We don’t look at the troubles we can see right now we look forward to what we have not yet seen. For the troubles we see will soon be over, but the joys to come last forever’ (2 Corinthians 4:8-9,18 NLT). Today if your journey’s long and hard, it’s okay to stop and rest (or even cry), just as long as you keep walking! ‘How?’ you ask. By ‘…keeping [your] eyes on the Man above…from start to finish…’

Good evening everyone: I love coming to this message board and reading everyone's response. It's so encouraging and inspirational to know that we have so much in common and are here for one another. I'm so glad I found you. I'm on other sites as well-other message boards-but' it's not the same. Here- we are talking simply about ttc after a myomectomy and making the decision to have a mymectomy. -Both - I am so familiar with. Kat123- I too gained weight - 40 pounds with the pregnancy and fibroids. I am now finally starting to lose the weight. I lost 15 pounds by exercising and eating better. I still want to lose more weight before ttc in january 08. I could care less about my scar-just like you. It's a sign of what I had to go through to get to where I hope to be - with my healthy baby/ies in my arms. Speaking of husbands...I recall going into my living room shortly after miscarrying my baby and seeing my husband on his knees praying to God. It struck my then and there that this too - the loss of our baby at ten weeks was a loss for him as well - not just me. Our men are hurting as much as we are but maybe showing it in a different way. I pray and hope that my loving husband of one and a few months will have a baby/ies in his arms this time next year - God willing! Be Blessed all of you! Sasha777

MsMonet..I'm always so glad to hear from you...if you haven't been told this before or don't already know..you are an amazing person....truly unselfish and caring..with all you are going through you still take the time to post here to encourage US..WOW..I think about you and pray for you everyday...Please take it easy..we are all here praying for you.. katarinak, yes my doctor told me to wait one year..I don't think I was even fully awake yet after the surgery..he came to see me and his first words to me where..how did you have those big fibroids inside of you..we all knew they were big but I guess no one realize how big they were until they came out..I had two huge ones...I don't remember the exact numbers but they were about 11 x 11 and 14 x 9..he told me they weighed about a pound..after saying that he told me everything went fine..I still have two smaller ones...they are on the inside bottom of the uterus and they were not worth the risk of trying to remove...he told me they are small and should not pose a problem to me getting pregnant or cause a problem during pregnancy...then he told me he was putting me on birth control and to wait a year..thats when I really woke up and was like what..but the drugs kept me from walking out :) at my post surgery check up he told me waiting 3 months was the normal..but due to my age, and the cuts he had to make that I should wait at least 6 months..he said by then everything will be healed..I don't know why he told me 1 year to begin with..I think he wanted to be on the safe side..and not have me rush home after surgery to try and get pregnant..you should check with your doctor again..at my 6 month check up he told me I looked good and he did not see any fibroids (except for the two left behind) and my uterus was the size of a 6 week pregnancy..which to him is great...I don't know what size pregnancy the uterus look like when you are not pregnant...I know what I said about the size of the uterus when not pregnant doesn't make any sense but I think you know what I mean..I think a 6 week size uterus is pretty much close to the size of not being pregnant..anywho...if you don't mind me asking...what is your age..I'm 27..so I think the doc telling me to wait a year..was based on a lot of things...my age and from his experience he doesn't think my fibroids will return in a year..because I only had 4..I didn't have those 4 and then a lot of smaller ones..but he told me at least 6 months would be fine..because he had to make deep cuts because my fibroids were in the wall..they weren't just inside the uterus or outside..but I feel great and I am looking forward to TTC...I'm hoping to get pregnant in November..I have been charting my ovulation..so everything looks good right now..if you do not want to wait a year and you feel good about it..then go see your doctor again and tell him to check you out or ask him why he told you a year..also know that some doctors or just more cautious than others...not to say that is a bad thing..but some doctors just prefer to wait a longer time..Is your doctor a OB/GYN or a GYN/surgeon? I was luck enough to find a doctor who was a OB/GYN surgeon..the chief surgeon at that! I felt very luck to have him as my doctor..I trust him and he is very experience, he listen to all my crazy doubts and fears and rea__sured me he knew what he was doing..we have a great..close relationship, like a father/child relationship..nothing improper..he looked at me one day and was like I did my first surgery in 80s..you are not the first and you won't be the last and there is nothing special about your case...and since he was the chief surgeon I asked him why he still saw patients on a regular basis and the best answer I have ever heard from a doctor..he said because it keeps me connected to people, it keeps me grounded. That is when I was sold on him..he doesn't want to loose the human touch of his job..I don't even know why I'm saying all this...but I hope I answered your question..Go see your doc and let me know what he or she said. How is everyone pregnancy going? I hope all is well..please post and let us know you are OK. Has anyone heard from MelissaK?

Joker-THANK YOU for your posting. I am 31 and I have for sure 1 fibroid (7x7) prety big and maybe one more, they are in the wall of my uterus. I will have MRI in December which will give us a real picture.

Ladies-I can feel the fibroids and their location in my abdomen, is it normal. Have any of felt them before your surgeries ?

Katrina, my fibroid was in my uterine wall; however, when they removed it they didn't have to cut completely through my wall of my uterus. I know that it was located in the thinnest part of my uterus, near my right fallopian tube. I cannot recall the exact size, but I believe it was fairly good sized. My doctor was fairly confident that three menstrual periods was enough time for my uterus to heal. When I first fell pregnant the first visit my doctor let me know that we would be having a c-section. I am fine with that. I haven't really had any complications. I have been really really sick, throwing up anywhere from 4-6 times a day and unfortunately I have kidney stones that refuse to pa__s. I can understand why you are going back and forth, two doctors saying two different things would get frustrating. Know in your heart that what you decide will be very worth it in the end. I always questioned rather I should do it or not, but after I was able to see my 20 week ultrasound and see the fibroid hadn't returned, I knew I had made the right decision. Good luck and I will pray for you. One more thing...they always say the 2nd c-section is easier; I had an abdominal myomectomy which is the same incision, so I am praying it will be easier. How is every one else doing?

Hopeful 24 -Thank you for your words. I am so happy to hear that there are happy stories. It's so encouraging. THANK YOU.

Yesterday I started my first real period since the surgery. Its heavy but not as heavy as it use to be. Here's my issue, I can feel pain around my uterus. Its almost like how it felt when I first had the surgery done. I'm almost bending down walking. I don't know why its hurting this way???? My husband said it could be because my uterus is just now "waking" up from the surgery. Has any one else experience this? Hi Sasha! , I so agree with you about this website, its the best! Its nice to have people supporting you and NOT saying you are wrong because of what medicine someone took etc. I found that on other websites and I decided to stay away. Joker! great great website to start. I had one big size of a grapefruit attached to my uterus. What should have taken an hour and half, took 3hrs! Thank God I had my own blood reserved because they end of using it. After removing the big one, he found 4 smaller one's that he zapped away. He also took a look at my ovaries and straighten out my tubes. So I was told to wait 6 months and Feb is the month we can start trying again. I was told to come in and have my uterus look at before we try to make sure its ok though. I just turned 35 so we want to get pregnant soon. Funny thing is, we waited, we waited because we wanted to have the nice home, no bills and be able to travel, if I knew what I know now, we would not have waited. But things happens for a reason . Maybe we would not have been able to deal with it the way we are now! Katarink, I am so happy that you almost there to get rid of the fibroid! What ever choice you make, its going to be nice just to have it out! Ms. Monet, beautiful words! I'm praying for you! Hopeful, my friend had a c-section after having her fibroid removed and she said the healing is NO where close to what she went! She also said it was a breeze getting better! We will have our precious one's sooner or later! BUT, please someone let me know if they experience this pain during the first real period.

KatrinaK, Hopeful, and MsMonet..I'm praying that time fly by for you girls..Katrina for you to have your MRI and do your surgery and MSMonet and Hopeful to go through the trimesters! Hang in there girls :) Kat123, I did not hat have any pain when I got my 1st period..Your hubby could be right and it is just your uterus getting back into shape..call your doctor if you are worried about it and go get checked..I don't know if anyone else here had any issues..did you have issues before?..besides the fibroids? Feb is almost here..you'll be prego's before you know it...you started charting your Ovu? I did..just for this coming cycle..but due to scheduling conflicts :( we won't be able to try..it will have to be after next cycle which I am OK with..Keeping my fingers cross..you know it is so weird..I keep on lying to myself...I keep on telling myself it is not a big deal if I don't get knocked up right away..which I know is a lie..Life makes us crazy... How is everyone else doing..I haven't heard from so many of you in so long..please post :)