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Oh my god darling I feel the exact same way! I had my daughter on 1-1-07, and ever since then all I have thought is oh my god what a huge mistake! I wish I could rewind to 10 months ago knowing what I know now. My daughter is fussy and b___stfeeding is so demanding. She eats all the time and crys alot. I wish I felt the unconditional love for her but I just dont yet. I feel like I should have all this love for her but all I feel is more and more love for my fiance. I wish it was just us again. I cry uncontrolably and I have alot of trouble eating and sleeping. My stomach is always in a knot and everytime I start to fall asleep my mind relpays the baby screaming and I wake back up. I feel like I want to take her back to the hospital and leave her there! I know EXACTLY how you feel....but I dont know what to do about it!

get some help asap, nany women go thru this. It's stressful and a huge change in your lives. It does get a little easier over time but you need to talk to someone who can really help you and give you sound advice, and possibly medication. I am sure you both love your babies, and would never harm them, but you have to take care of your needs too. Please talk to a doctor about this.

I felt exactly like this when my oldest was born... I can't imagine the shock to the system of twins! I have seen on here where some women have this and it evens out and goes away in a few weeks, but for others, like myself, it turns into PPD. I never told anyone my feelings with my oldest and that was a huge mistake. With #'s 2 and 3 I went to my doc and was put on anti-depressants. Huge difference. I felt so much better! You should definitely see your doctor and discuss a plan of action. I don't know if you are opposed to taking anti-depressants or not, but they helped me sooo much... brought me back to feeling like my old self again and got rid of the feelings of hopelessness and like things would never be good ever again!!! It was still an adjustment, but a much better adjustment being able to actually have a positive feeling about my baby sometimes, which my PPD was not allowing. Man, I wish women didn't have to go through this. It's so tough. Congrats on your babies... and I hope you can find some help... if not your doc then a trusted friend or family member, as your fiance is probably feeling just as lost as you at this point. I wish you well. gl

Yeah definitely not alone. My baby is 8 days old now, and I love her to pieces but there are times when I miss having time with my husband. The first night she was home we had to sleep on the couch with her in shifts because she wouldn't sleep alone and our bed is too soft for her. (she rolls) By 4 a.m. I was sobbing uncontrollably because all I wanted to do was lay in bed with my husband and cuddle. It's gotten a bit easier, and I try to remind myself that as she gets older, everything will get easier, and she won't be this little for long so I should try to enjoy it. I can only imagine what it's like for you with twins. Hang in there. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this either.

Hi. I had twins 5 months ago. I was in shock for the first 6 to 8 weeks at least. It is such an adjustment because everything is about the babies and you have to mourn your life. I promise it gets so much better. Remember, you have 2 babies to smile at you, 2 babies to laugh at you, and 2 babies who need you to be thier world. The first couple of months are the worst. Speak to your dr if you need to, but also remember that your life is going to be completely different. I still thinkof my life before the babies, but I also find myself waking up in the middle of the night wanting to wake my babies up so I can play with them. The first couple of months are rough, but you will get through it. I promise. And you will probably start to become closer to your fiance. But that will take work. A lot of work!!! Take care. They are only 2 weeks old. And time will pa__s so quickly.

Well I am so glad that I am not alone in this feeling. I really never imagined that it was going to be so hard to adjust. I read all about PPD before they were born but I never imagined that I would possibly feel this way. Rhiannon thank you so much for the uplifting reply, did you feel the same way? Anyways I really am glad that this forum is here so there is a place where I feel like I can truly express my feelings and other women understand how hard it is because trying to put on a smile all the time and pretending I have it all together is really killing me!!!!! Thanks Girls!

Hi wannababyboy. I felt the same way. The nights were the hardest when I was so jealous of everyone I knew who could sleep. I always went to bed with a feeling of dread. Then the times when they slept longer and longer became more frequent. The feeling of being trapped has lifted. Have you been to the website twinstuff.com? It is great and you can speak to many many women who are feeling the same way.

So so glad i found this thread. I feel the exact same way and it makes me feel like a horrible, disgusting, selfish human being, specially since my pregnancy was planned. my little boy is the sweetest thing in the world and barely complains, but i also just keep on wishing that it was just me and my husband alone. We had such a great time together- even the little things like just getting up spontaneously to the 24 hour store to buy ben and jerries together and cute styuff like that that i feel we will never be able to do again..... i really hope these feelings pa__s- hopefully as i get more into motherhood..... I love my baby so much and am so garteful to have him-especially when so many people struggle to get pregnant. I just want these feelings to go...