Feeling Wayyy Overwhelmed Whats Wrong With Me
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Alright i dont know what my problem is...i love my newborn son to death and i have NEVER had bad thoughts towards him...but when he was born he had a lot of mucous in his system so he spit up a lot and honestly i was crying my eyes out and i honestly didnt want to touch him because i felt like my br___t milk was making him sick (which i know now it wasnt)....but the nurses told me that it was just my hormones....and now i dont know if its because im sleep deprived or what but now im going through the whole thing of i dont want to touch him....if i wasnt br___tfeeding i would probably have my husband do everything.....could this be a sign of PPD? i hope not...now like i said i love my son to death and i would NEVER hurt him..i dont know but it just seems like he is fussing a lot (he doesnt have colic)...and he doesnt stop eating...he is gaining weight so i do know my milk is fine so it cant be from him not getting enough...and i dont know i honestly wonder if sometimes he is getting spoiled (he is only 3 weeks old)...he cries whenever he is laying by himself and whenever i go to pick him up...he is perfectly fine...ugh i dont know maybe im just not getting enough sleep so thats why i feel so "ugh".....oh and well see im not working i stay at home with my son and my husband works...9 to 5...and well with our first son my husband wasnt there for his newborn stage...so i did the whole getting up every night alone...so with our second baby since he is able to be there i want him to share some of the responsiblities...now i dont make him stay up all night with the baby but i do ask him to maybe change the baby once maybe twice and maybe burp him...so i honestly dont feel like im asking too much...but lately he has kind of slacked off on it or gives me an att_tude when i ask him to help...now i know he is tired too but i honestly feel a little resentful towards him when i hav e to get up after i ask him and he falls back asleep....is this normal? or am i being wrong for feeling like that....i dont know what to do....please help me..give me some ideas please! thanks and please no rude remarks....
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About your lo wanting to be held all of the time. My lo wanted to be held non stop until he was about 6 weeks old. If I tried to lay him down in his ba__sinet he'd cry. I felt like he would permanently be attached to my arm. About the dh.....you could set off a bomb next to his head and he wouldn't wake up. I normally have night duty as he is working while I am on leave, although on his days off I would love for him to get up with the baby at night. He gave me an att_tude about it once when he said well I have to go to work, so the next day I said that I had a huge list of errands to run and that he needed to watch the baby for the day. He got my point and apologized, but he is so impossible to wake up at night that it's just easier to do it myself. I was at my wit's end at times, but it does get easier. At 6 weeks it seems that things get better, so hang in there :)
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First try wrapping your baby really tight like they did in the hospital. That make him feel secure. He only knows being "hugged" first inside you then when you hold him. For your baby to be eating all the time is normal, It takes a few weeks for your body and his to get balanced to each other. I know you are "supposed" to be only caring for your baby at this point but is sounds like you need some time. Even a hour long soak in the tub with the baby out of hearing will really help. Always remember to take care of yourself or you cannot take care of your baby.
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Thanks ladies...you have made me feel better that this stuff is normal! and that im not a horrible person for feeling overwhelmed....last night i told my hubby that he has to take the baby because i really needed some time and he did and it did help...and of course last night i fel sick so i really had an all night break...i feel bad because i know my hubby is really tired but yet it made me able to actually wake up happy and ready to take care of the baby....anyways thanks ladies this has made me feel better!...oh and mombabyrn my son likes the swaddle (sp) thing but yet he hates his hands tied up...should i still swaddle?..and when do you stop swaddling?
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