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No, I felt the same way with my daughter. I counldnt handle her being out of my sight, The first time i left was to go to walmart for 20 mins. My mom watched her, i called her every few mins to make sure everything was okay. I think it upset her abit because obviosly she can take care of a child, she did with me and my siblings, but she also understood what it was like to have a new baby. It gets easier as your child gets older. And my hubby never went anywhere without me (his choice). I say if he refuses to change a diaper ect, he is probably going to need the help.

I also felt the same way. Background info: Me and Luke's daddy aren't together anymore. He was there for some of the pregnancy and the delivery and he's visited him maybe 10 times and he will be 3 months old tomorrow. And half of those times I had to take Lucas to him without him even asking me to cuz I want him to be in his son's life and then he usually has better things to do while I'm there like run around with friends and stuff. And he has NEVER ONCE CALLED TO SEE HOW HIS BABY IS DOING OR GAVE ME ANYTHING TO HELP SUPPORT HIM!! So... Thanksgiving (Lucas 2 1/2 months old) he has one of my friends call me and ask if he can come get the baby for the night. I get off the phone with her and he has his mom call. Then his uncle calls and I requested to talk to him. I told him that he acts like he doesn't even care but when it's time to show him off to family he wants to spend time with him. So I said "you wanna take the baby you take me too" he got pretty mad but I got my way. He never changes diapers either. And as for keeping him all night... he stayed with me and Lucas one night when he was a month old and told me to sleep so I could have a break and I wake up to the baby right by his ear screaming and Jay never even woke up!! I feel really bad too but I have to have the best interests of Luke in mind right? Sorry to take up your space lol but I totally agree with you!

Deirdra, sweetheart...we can exchange emails if you wanna talk more but you are going through the EXACT thing I went through my dh...I couldt stand him being with my MIL, Of course I think that all started with me not liking her anyways because of past issues that dh and I have had....also my MIL is our sons babysitter while im working. I too wouldnt let the baby go out with DH by himself...When di said he wanted to take him over his mothers house, I said, i HAD to go too, if he didnt like that then Tough Squit!, the baby stayed home with me. I also hated the fact that my husband thought that it was OK to let the baby cry and cry...I completely dissagree. never let a baby just cry, they also need something and its our jobs as parents to find out what it is. Your baby is 13 days old Right?? your dh has NO business taking him away from you and by that i mean out of the house without you.. You are his mother, this is a very special bonding period for YOU and your son. Not for your son and your husbands friends..some other advice......at 13 days old i didnt even take my baby out of the house except for Dr.s appts, he was a bit older before we really went anywhere like to Grandmas house. But you situation mirrors what i went through. You're not doing anything wrong, you are mother and obviously a caring one. I had fights with my husband about that, he didnt understand why he couldnt take the baby out by himself. Expalin to your husband that youare bonding and if you are b___stfeeding them that is even more of a reason that he shouldnt take him out alone...your baby needs you especially at this age thats why we get 'Maternity Leave" from our jobs... Right now IM kinda going through it again, My husband is off from work for the holidays. I was a little relieved that i didnt ahve to wake up extra early to drop my son off at my Mil's but I still worry because my husband just does some thing plain wrong and when i try to tell him the right way to do it he gets an att_tude...Such as he takes the baby out with NO blanket!!! thats a No No and its ticks me off. Yesterday he said our son was crying and crying and that he THINKS that he gave him too much cereal!!!! I was upset so i left work early went to Mil's house (husband was there washing clothes) to get my crying baby and went back home and nursed him, he did perfectly fine the rest of evening, matter of fact we slept most of the evening. Thats not to say that men arent capable of taking care of babies but women naturally know things, thats why alot of times crying babies quiet down when they are handing to their Mommies. Also the fact that your MIL smokes!!......all i have to say is be careful. Second hand smoke is dangerous especially to our little ones.....even smoke odors coming from someones clothing is dangerous too. I always tell people that if you smoke, you CANNOT hold my baby. My cousing smokes and her 1 yr old got pneumonia...be very careful. But dont worry, what you are feeling is naturally, Dont do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

ifelt the smae with my daughter i would leave her with my mom or my grandma but i just couldn't stand to leave her with anyone else. especailly my husbands mother. basically with me it came down to ignorance on her part. she refused to listen to anythign i had to say because he had raised her kids she knew what to do. i finally told her if she was going to watch the baby things had to be done my way. a lot has changed since her son was a baby. she listened and i set some really strict rules. she is never allowed t o take the baby out anywhere. i actually don't even give her a car seat. if there was an emergency we live close enough to others where she could go to a neighbors. also i got her a gate and put it up...our daughter had to stay in the livingroom and wasn't allowed on the carpets because she has cats. i bought her two of those outdoor waterproof blankets to lay down if she wanted to play on the floor then i would take them and wash them. i can't say about the smaoke smell but my mil wears this horrible pefume. it would get on my duaghter and then i would have to bathe her immediately and febreeze her seat or anything she was in. i finally found a few outfits and designated them as outfits for his mothers house. our daughter is now three and we are expecting number two in july. the same things apply mostly no carseat ever is left there i mean if she wants to spend time with her then she should have what she needs not running errands. also she still wears the same outfits because my mil thinks she can go play in the dirt in any outfit and that everything washes out for example spaghetti sauce ona white shirt. try to set some rules as its inevitable that someone will have to watch him. good luck come back with anyquestions or if you need suggestions.