3 Miscarriages 3 Healthy Boys
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Hi, I'm new to this board, although I spent much time reading these last couple months.
I am 33. I have 3 boys (ages 11,8,5). All healthy pregnancies with no problems. I had my first miscarriage (at 9 weeks) between my first two children and just thought it was "bad luck". I soon got pregnant with no problem. I went on to have my third and thought we were done. When my youngest was 1yo I was shocked, but excited to find out I was pregnant. I miscarried at 6 weeks. Since then I have felt a hole in my heart that baby left.
My husband still didn't want any more, so I waited and prayed for BC failure :) Then in the beginning of January it happened! I was thrilled and my husband actually was too. I was a nervous wreck. I requested an ultrasound at 7 weeks and saw a heartbeat. At 10w3d I asked to be seen because "I did not feel pregnant any more". My Dr. was kind enough to humor. What they found (via ultrasound) was no heartbeat and the baby stopped growing soon after my first ultrasound. I opted to miscarry naturally and wound up in ER needing D&C after large blood loss. Needless to say my husband is terrified to try again, as am I. The Dr. says he does not feel anything is wrong since I had 3 healthy pregnancies, and I can try again after 2 cycles. I really am hoping for advice from someone who has had multiple pregnancies and miscarriages. Is there any testing I should insist on? Could I have low progesterone even though I has healthy pregnancies?
I feel so confused. I am so thankful and know I am blessed with my three boys. Yet, there is this deep ache still there.
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Hi , So sorry to hear about your miscarriages.. Last October I also lost a Baby , I was 22 weeks pregnant and had to give birth to her.. :( it was very hard, and like you, I have 2 healthy girls before this had happened (one is 6 yrs old , and the other is 3 yrs old).. I desperately want another baby , but my partner (of 11 years) is saying he doesnt want anymore... I'm not sure what to think, as i don't see it being a problem having one more.. He's not very open about his feelings, so i don't know if he is scared of having another because he's worried about going through it all again or if he just doesn't want another one after losing a little girl ( Lilliana Rose)... I hope everything works out for you hun , I also had a miscarriage the year before last but was only 4-5 weeks when it happened.. If i am to have another baby , the doctor wants me to go on Aspirin to help thin out blood to prevent blood clots in the placenta and (I've read) that it helps prevent miscarriages...I hope everything works out for you in the end.. goodluck xx
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Hi , So sorry to hear about your miscarriages.. Last October I also lost a Baby , I was 22 weeks pregnant and had to give birth to her.. :( it was very hard, and like you, I have 2 healthy girls before this had happened (one is 6 yrs old , and the other is 3 yrs old).. I desperately want another baby , but my partner (of 11 years) is saying he doesnt want anymore... I'm not sure what to think, as i don't see it being a problem having one more.. He's not very open about his feelings, so i don't know if he is scared of having another because he's worried about going through it all again or if he just doesn't want another one after losing a little girl ( Lilliana Rose)... I hope everything works out for you hun , I also had a miscarriage the year before last but was only 4-5 weeks when it happened.. If i am to have another baby , the doctor wants me to go on Aspirin to help thin out blood to prevent blood clots in the placenta and (I've read) that it helps prevent miscarriages...I hope everything works out for you in the end.. goodluck xx
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Kat, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can't even imagine. I told my husband the one good thing I can find in all of this is that it makes you a more compa__sionate person. My heart breaks knowing the pain others are going through. I hope you and your partner can come to an agreement. I know for me I feel like I have a great marriage. We are married 13 years and rarely argue, but this one thing just felt like a wedge between us and what made it hard is there is no way to meet in the middle. My theory was if he would give in to me I would be happy and in the long run he would be happy too :) Although he never saw it that way :) Now he is scared, but after seeing my heart ache is willing to try again. I just want to take any precautions possible. I wondered about the aspirin. Were you diagnosed as needing it or is it just as a precaution. I also thought about trying the natural progesterine cream. I just don't know what the risk/reward is. I don't even know if my levels are low I'm just grasping at straws here. I do have an appointment with my midwife in a month and am hoping she is more helpful than the Dr. I saw for my miscarriage/D&C.
I hope every thing works out for your family!
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Hi... Thanyou very much.. When i went back to the doctor to get the results from all the testing they did on my baby (to see why it happened) , they never found the cause, only thing they found was that the placenta had a few blood clots. So she told me that my next pregnancy would be high risk (because i'd had 2 miscarriages and the last one being so far into my pregnancy).. and she told me that i was to take the asprin throughout the whole pregnancy to prevent getting blood clots and to help thin my blood out.. (if i ever get to have another :( ..
My partner and i have been together for 11 years.. just breaks my heart that he doesn't want to try again.. I'm hoping he changes his mind, as im so set on having another baby.. A piece of me feels missing.. xxx
I hope everything also works out for you...I hope your midwife appointment goes well , I don't know anything about the Progesterone cream,, Sorry i cant help you there... xxx
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