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Hi Amber, I thought I would reply to your message as March 2010 I was in the same boat as you and thought I would never get through that terrible time, I know it doesn't make anything better but I am really sorry for your loss. Do not give up hope, I had a missed miscarriage at the end of March last yr I found out at the 7 week scan I had no symptoms of pregnancy other than a positve test and that was maybe the only clue. I tried waiting for the baby to pa__s naturally but it didnt happen so I had a d&c. This was my first pregnancy my husband and I were so excited we told our families as soon as we knew, I know its naive but I never even contemplated anything going wrong I am very healthy and in my early 20's so felt I had no reason to worry. When we told everyone the bad news they were so upset I felt like such a dissapointment and despite reccomendations of waiting at least 1 cycle I started ttc as soon as the post op bleeding stopped. Every month following I was taking loads of pregnancy tests I thought it would happen straight away as every thread I read said it could and had happened to a lot of people and it only took me one month of trying the first time we conceived. Anyway I was getting so depressed every month it didn't happenand my periods were very irregular I think this was down to how stressed I was getting. I was then talking to a lady at work who had had 9 miscarriages in a row and finally gave up all the infertility treatment etc and tried reflexology to help and was pregnant after 2 sessions and went onto to have a healthy baby. So I decided to give it a go if only to de-stress in October, 3 treatments later (I had each treatment a week apart) I was pregnant!! I had my 12 week scan yesterday and saw our baby happily stretching and waving with a nice strong heartbeat and this time we waited to tell our family so shared the good news last night. I'm sorry this post is so long but just do not put too much pressure on yourself, I did because I felt like a failure and I wish I hadn't looking back because when the times right it will happen for you. Good Luck and I hope this message helps in some small way. Emma xx

We told everyone i was pregnant!! i have one healthy child she is 6yrs old so i didnt think anything would go wrong... we finally told everyone i had a miscarriage.. I dont want to face anyone.. i hate when people ask how i am doing.. I just really wanted my baby.. Thanks for writing me back.. I am sorry for your loss and i am very happy you are pregnant and everything is going great for you.. It is just hard to see the light when it is soo dark out.. I watched the movie THE SECRET.. It is all about positive thinking nd how it leads to positive things and i went on there site and people say when it come to getting pregnant it works and it has peoples storys on there.. Im trying to be positive it is just hard.. How long did you wait until you tried to conceive again..

I didn't get dressed to go out for over a week and I made my husband ring all our family and tell them not to txt or call me and if they did not to mention the miscarriage, I just couldn't handle anyone else saying "I'm sorry for your loss" I thought what the hell do you know about my loss... so trust me I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to face people, I spose some people like ourselves just need to be left alone so that we can try to come terms with our loss in our own way. No matter what anyone says your pain won't go away but hopefully you can terms with it eventually. I think you are right in the positive thinking leading to positive things, and its so good if you can do that because when you are next pregnant you will need to stay positive. I started trying to conceive as soon as the bleeding stopped after my D&C but i really wasn't in a good place and certainly wasn't feeling positive which is why I think it took me 6 months to conceive again. It was so hard as 2 of my close friends announced their pregnancy in that time and although I was happy for them I was so jealous. A lady at work was also pregnant and due to give birth at the same time as I would have been had I not miscarried. As her bump got bigger I found it really hard as I sat opposite her and funnily it wasn't until she went on maternity leave that I conceived, maybe because I had a reminder everyday of what I missing I couldn't let go of that angel baby and was too stressed to conceive again. Are you thinking of trying again now? My dr said there was no harm in trying after 1 cycle and that your hormone levels are actually good and at the right levels for pregnancy after a miscarriage. Good Luck if you are and if you do conceive remember that this is a different pregnancy so stay positive and hopefully all will work out for you ;-)x

today was the first time i saw my fiance's family since i lost the baby and it was pretty uncomfortable. I felt like a failure and i felt like they looked at me like i was one because i lost the baby... I had my D&E jan 14th so tomorrow will be 10 days since it was done. we arent going to try until after my 2 week visit at my Dr.'s then we are going to try again.. It really helps to talk to people like you who know my pain and understand what i am going through.. I want to say thank you for telling me your story and talking to me it really helps me and gives me hope

Hi Im Manda and on Dec 28th I found out at 18 weeks that my baby had stopped developing at 14 weeks. I was devastated. That being my first baby I didnt know what to do next. I researched and researched about a D and E and pregnancy after one. I read SO many stories of woemen having completely healthy babies afterward. Several got pregnant the same week of their D and E. We decided that we werent going to wait. After I stopped bleeding and flet up to it we started trying again. Its only been a few weeks but I am staying positive and with all the research i did and talking to my doctor, I am taking a pregnancy test every 2 weeks now. We are hoping to get pregnant before he deploys. I know what amber is going through and hunny if you do your research and if you feel that you are up to it and want to try, dont be scared. Just make sure you talk to your doctor and tell him or her you are not wanting to wait he or she may say its not the best medical advice like mine did but he also told me Im not the only woman thats said Im not willing to wait (lol typical impatience woman lol) Good luck! and I will let yall know if I get pregnant and hopefully we all will have a successful pregnancies!!!!