Pregnancy After Miscarriage Pg1264396703
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I'm not sure how this works, I don't usually do forums...but here goes. I recently (Nov '09) lost a baby at four months gestation. I have two other boys who are 11 and 8 so this one was a BIG surprise. We were done. But now that the baby has come and gone, I don't feel "done" anymore. I have a brand new diaper changer still sitting in my family room...brand new clothes in my closet that I can't give up. It doesn't help that I work with young children...So, I want to try again. My husband does not, however. The pregnancy never felt "real" to him and he was "done" before it all happened. Now on top of it all, he is worried about our ages (I'm 37 and he is almost 40) and my personal health (especially after miscarriage). How long can I wait to see if I get over this desire, and not get too old in the mean time? How do I convience him with us both getting older while I'm wait to see if he comes around? SO frustrated and sad...any advise?
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Hi littleshop
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I had a miscarriage on the 1st of January with a D&C on the 5th. I also have this burning desire to fall pregnant again - SOON! If its been almost 3 months for you, I don't see that feeling fading quickly?
I do however feel that having a child is something that both you and your husband must want. Otherwise you may end up raising the baby on your own. It may also happen that when the baby first arives he may love him/her more that he thought possible...
Maybe you should have an open discussion with him, tell him how you feel and give him time to state his fears and concerns.
Hope this helps.
Pikkewyn
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