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hi Fiona, thank you i am ok not long to wait now 15th ,my appointment will keep you posted. how are you now hope its getting better for you. rj80, sorry to hear about you nbours loss, all you can do it listen and be there for her like a shoulder to cry on. interduce her to this site and she can talk about it with other woman who have been there, i know its help me wonders being on here. good luck to her. Tara sorry about your loss too sc___ppbook is good idea and may be one day your son will be able to understand, my nephew he is 2 and he always say to me her see's my DD in heaven with his sister whom died too at 17wks with downs so its nice to hear them say things like that take care ((hugs))) :) jo

Hi Fiona. I lost my baby girl at 28 weeks. they removed her on 14 march 2006, so i am still very delicate. i know EXACTLY what you are going through. just know that you are not the only one that is feeling this immense pain. there are many of us unfortunate ones. but i promise that one day you will have a healthy baby. i also feel like my life is over and that i have nothing to live for but then i think of the day that i will have a healthy baby and that gives me some hope.

Hello RJ80. i am one of those people that lost my baby at 28 weeks on 13 march 2006. i know that it can be a very awkward situation for others. believe me but most people do not know how to deal with a pregnancy loss, they dont know what to say or what to do. all i can say is support her as much as possible. watch what you say to her because being in this odd state of mind that we are in we tend to read things very wrongly at times and we are super sensitive. one thing i can tell you for sure that will help her is... dont think that in a month or two or three that she will be fine and over it. loosing a pregnancy is the same as loosing a child and the healing process is very very long. it stays with you for life.

Thanks to you all for the adivice. I think that I may mention this site to her husband because everyone seems to be getting alot out of it. No matter what happens to a person it's always good to know that you aren't the only person in the world who feels like this. Wishing you all baby dust and good luck with everything, xx

Dear Tania Thank you for sharing your story with us and my I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope so much that you are right and one day I will have a healthy baby. I just can't imagine my life without any children in it. I've been a bit fragile the past couple of weeks. Things aren't going well with our fertility treatment and I'm just so down and sad all the time. My counsellor has given me some time off work and I'm going to have a month off the treatment and then we have been told to start ICSI. I'm pretty scared about it, but I'll do anything to fall pregnant. Jo, I know your appointment is today. I'll be thinking of you all day. Fiona xx

Hi, I don't really have any words of advise expect to say

Hi, I don't really have any words of advise expect to say sorry I was to read your story and those of all of us who have lost and just want to be pregnant again :(

Hi Ladies, I just happen to stumble onto this thread and I'm not sure how but I read some of your post and they made me cry. Back in 2000, I got pregnant with triplets thanks to the help of an IVF cycle. We had been trying for a few years and were more then exicted about 3 babies. The 23 weeks leading up to my preterm labor went without a hitch, I was VERY big and very tired. One moring I woke up and 1 of the 3 water bag had broke. Well from there on it took me a total of 3 days to deliver each of those babies. They were sooo perfect in everyway and the lived for about 1 hour each. I remember leaving the hspital with a paper bag with there gowns and such stuff. A paper bag, thats it. Well, I wanted to have a baby sooo bad that we had some extra embryos left over in the freezer from when we got pregnant with the triplets. Nine months later my son was born!! If that wasnt crazy enough for you I went and did a new IVF cycle when my son was 6 months old and nine months later my daughter was born. So I was pregnant for 3 years and deliver 5 babies. We are very lucky to have them. So there is hope you just have to keep your chin up. I took 3 months off of work after I deliver the babies and sat on the couch. One day I said enough is enough and start to get on with my life. I will tell you the you NEVER forget, I think about the babies every day. But if does get easier. Trust me, I know this for a fact. Morgan, Rachel and Raymond will always be with me. We didnt have a funeral. I didnt have it in me to do that. So we had them creamated and I keep them in my room. When the times comes that it is time to leave this world they will either be buried with me or my husband. Who ever goes first. My heart goes out to each and everyone of you. sorry so long,I get carried away

hi everyone..i just wanted to say hi and hope all is well.. and wish everyone a belated happy mother's day. i lost my daughter at 21 wks 4days january 8th 2006.. and in a couple days, may 17th around.. she was suppose to be here.. i'm starting to get sad again.. and i don't know when this feeling will go away.. i especially started feeling this way again when i attended church sunday on mother's day.. i miss her so much. shannone you mentioned it gets easier.. but i think in my case i won't.. after we lost our baby.. my fiance and i broke up.. so i really lost two of my loved ones.. but anyways.. my baby's "birthday" is coming up this wednesday and that's it. i'm going to go to her grave and place some flowers and balloons.. again.. happy mother's day to all. God Bless and stay strong.. _Nanita

LITTLEANGEL. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I thought i would also let you know that my husband and i also got tattoos. We both got the letter M tattooed because her name was Madison. i got a very nice design on my wrist and my husband got one on his inner arm. i also went to my doc for my normal routine scan and they told me they couldn't find a heart beat. what a shock. its so unreal. it is any pregnant womans worst nightmare come true. SHANNONE. what a horrible experience to loose all three your babies. i am so sorry. its so nice to hear that even though you went through that horrible experience that now you have two little angels. you are so blessed. you said you didn't have a funeral, neither did i. i just couldn't go through with it, i couldn't even look at my litte Madison when they removed her. We also got her cremated but i have not yet collected her ashes, i just cant bring myself to doing it. its only been 8 weeks since i lost her. NANITAMAVIL. So sorry to hear about your loss. tomorrow is going to be a tough day for you. My Madison was to be due on 4 June and the closer the day comes the more anxious i get. Yesterday was supposed to be my last day at work and then i would have been on maternity leave. there are constant little reminders the whole time.

Hi Fiona. I know exactly what you mean when you say you cannot imagine life without children. i am willing to give up everything to have children. if only i could have Madison back - but i cant. i have changed so much as a person since this has happened. its really bad but i dont even want to see my friends, all i want is a baby. i told my counsellor that i just feel like i have nothing to live for and that my life will not be complete until i have a child. i just noticed now that you lost your little one on 25 november.. that is my birthday. i know it is easier said than done, but try not be too focused on falling pregnant because you have no control over it, it will happen when the time is right. and like i said IT WILL happen.

Hi Fiona: I am so sorry for your loss and the the other ladies who also have responded to this post, I am sorry for your loss as well. I too have lost a baby. I was pregnant last year and at 24 weeks I woke up with bleeding and when I arrived at the hospital I was 5 cm dilated. I had an emergent cerclage (st_tch the cervix closed) and I lasted for 3 days while on bedrest. However, my water broke and I delivered my son via vertical cesarean section on 07/19/05. My son (Luke) was thriving in the NICU but developed an infection called NEC and died on 08/31/05. He was perfect. I unfortunately have been diagnosed with an incompetent cervix and will have a cerclage placed with any future pregnancies. Mothers Day was awful for me, my heart seemes to have split in two again. I am 30 and will turn 31 in August. You are strong and one thing I want to share is something I read, it stated "My desire to be a mother is greater than my fear of another loss". This quote has helped me, my husband and I are hopefully going to start our TTC journey this month. (I am supposed to ovulate on 05/30) I will be thinking of you and please keep us posted. -Lynne

HI NANITAMAVIL -I would like to start out by saying that I am very sorry for both of your losses. for all the ladies out there that have had lost a child, it does get easier trust me! The hurt never goes away but you will be able to go back to your everyday life and function. When I lost the triplets, I went to a support group and it did help. Also when there birthday rolls around on 12-21, right before x-mas, I bake a birthday cake and eat the hole thing. Some how this helps except my waist line. X-mas was very hard that year, I came home empty handed and then the day after x-mas I had to be put back in the hospital for 1 week with bad infections due to my deliveries. And yes mothers day is still hard and I think about them and celabrate them. I have 2 children but I never forget the babies I held and hold sooo dear to my heart. Please find a way to celabrate them in your own way. In the spring every year I pant for-get-me-nots flowers. It's way to get throught the day. I wish all of you a healthy recovery and well wishes for your future.

I found this poem on another thread an thought you guys should read it. I made me cry, I still do that after 5 years- A Mothers Day Wish From Heaven, By: Jody Seilheimer... Dear Mr. Hallmark, I am writing to you from heaven, and though it must appear, A rather strange idea, I see everything from here. I just popped in to visit, your stores to find a card, A card of love for my mother, as this day for her is hard. There must be some mistake I thought, every card you could imagine, Except I could not find a card, from a child who lives in heaven. She is still a mother too, no matter where I reside, I had to leave, she understands, but oh the tears she's cried. I thought that if I wrote you, that you would come to know, that though I live in heaven now, I still love my mother so. She talks with me, and dreams with me; we still share laughter too, Memories our way of speaking now, would you see what you could do? My mother carries me in her heart, her tears she hides from sight. She writes poems to honor me, sometimes far into the night. She plants flowers in my garden, there my living memory dwells, She writes to other grieving parents, trying to ease their pain as well. So you see Mr. Hallmark, though I no longer live on earth, I must find a way, to remind her of her wondrous worth. She needs to be honored, and remembered too, just as the children of earth will do. Thank you Mr. Hallmark, I know you'll do your best, I have done all I can do; to you I'll leave the rest. Find a way to tell her, how much she means to me, until I can do it for myself, when she joins me in eternity.

Hi Fiona, So sorry for your loss, I too had a loss April 12, my little boy was suppose to be born the next week but that night I woke up with terrible pain and the doctors said the cord was so tight around his foot that when he kicked he pulled the placenta away from the uterus and I had a placenta abruption.....It has been very hard but we plan on starting to ttc again next month , good luck with everyone ttc, I know how you feel about feeling that your life is over but we just have to keep on living .....I hoping to become pregnant soon, but I will never forget about our Mason.....

Hello all, to all those mums who have just shared their stories, please know that I am deeply sorry for all your losses. Jo, I'm glad that you got some news at the hospital and I hope the 19th went okay for you. Mothers Day was hard for me as I'm sure it was for all of you. Shannone, thank you for sharing the poem. It made me cry so much. I wrote a poem for Lauren that I read every now and then. I find it's a good way to express my feelings. They've been bottled up for so long. The counsellor said that my cork is about to pop and I need to find a way to release my emotions. We've decided to start doing our backyard as a bit of a project so I went out and knocked the wall down. It felt quite good to just exhaust myself. I can't imagine this ever getting easier, but I hope you're right when you say it will. My heart goes out to every one of you. I'm sure all of our lives are changed forever. Loads of Love Fiona xxxx